Can you marry someone without loving just for the sake of getting married?

Dear Subha, there are many pros and cons. Suppose, the girl is not in love with any other person and the parents want to get her married to a suitable guy. In that case, there shouldn't be any problem. After all parents always want the best of their child. If she doesn't want to marry at all, that is some other point altogether. Parental instinct are such that they want to ensure a bright future for their children and we should appreciate that. However, when they tend to go overboard we should try to reason with them. I am sure they will understand. Good luck!

Parents should not be making decisions for their children in the case of marriage. Often times, parents are pushing too much to the point that you don't have space to move or make decisions. You can talk to your parents about it and express your point. Though there are times when those arrangements work but most of the time, it ends up with more trouble.

Can you? Sure. If you want to end up miserable, unhappy and wanting to get out for the rest of your life. Just seems like a terrible waste, to throw all of your love away on someone you don't know, if you're not even sure there will be any chemistry there or not.

Well of course you can. It may be an unhappy marriage though. In my country, there is no such thing as an arranged marriage. The idea holds no merit for us. Young adults generally do their own thing and grow away from their parents. To think of a young adult obeying their parents wishes to this degree is laughable. It would never happen. I suppose it could work if both parties were comfortable with the idea and prepared to do their duty to one another. I'm sure as the couple become used to each other they will come to like each other. It would be awful if you both were not compatible. I'm sure parents choose the partners most carefully.

i am arranged by my parents to meet three girls this week.friday for a tall girl, saturday for a woman teacher,sunday for a visiting girl.oh my buddha, i am bored for that,but i'm in china,and i must face that.

It isn't fair,but it is the way it goes in many countries. Parents think they are doing the right thing in these cases,but I think people should meet naturally,not forced to be with someone they don't know. It needs more children to say no to these arranged marriages,but I doubt this will ever happen.. Happy holiday to you.

May not. Now that I am married and I did not know my wife earlier. May be before engagement we talked for couple of hours and we agreed and later we gave our consent to our respective parents. That is how most of the Indian marriages take place. Nothing devastating happens here and by and large it is a good going and for most Indians it is a sacred ceremony and tieing a knot is for everlasting relationship in the process of building a family.

Yeah that is not justified,,, and for me it will just add to high number of divorce and broken family..or battered wife.. but sometimes if we got lucky we fall inlove in our partner in the long run of the marriage,,,

Hey my new friend! I do agree with you its really sad and should not be like that. No one should be made to get married. In my country its not like that and Im sure glad about that.LOL

I think there is a lot to be said of arranged marriages, and all children should consider their parents input about a desired spouse. love is not an emotion, but an act of the will. so you can bring yourself to loving an arranged marriage as much as one of your own choosing, maybe even more... I say this because in one of your own choosing you may be marrying thinking you are in love due to a physical attraction or some other base reason, only to find out later you are incompatible.

hi subha its really a matured matter to comment but in my view arrange marriage is more reliable inspite of not knowing ech other. in arrange marriage its a plus point that both the party r likely to adjust whichever condition is but in love marriage its chance tends to zeroed. b'coz they pretend to know each other well there is very little chance to improve. so in our country its the best way to marriage is arrange marriage

I really couldn't do it. Other people might be able to do so...but I really couldn't.

its not fair for some who wanted to find their true love.its true that love can be taught but heart cant be deceived.if you marry someone you dont love,you only marry him for companionship and not for love.what if you found love along the road when you are already married to someone you dont love.its crazy for such things to

you are surprised but in india it was comming from the so many years it is our culture and arrange marrage is also very good dont feel so bad on the arrange marrage by the do u have any lover or wat........or love failure dont mine i dont want to discoursge u but it is my openinin

In my country I have a choice. I can marry or not marry. I choose my own partner and my own life. Marrying someone without love can still happen if I allow it to happen to me. I have a friend who did just that, he doesn't regret the marriage but he said he is not totally happy with the girl he married. He has his reason for doing it. It was his choice. For me, i will marry the man I Love . i will marry the man I want to be the father of my children. This choice may not be to the liking of my father and mother but whether i made a right choice or not, does not matter to me because at the end of the day it is me who will live this life and not my family.

It may not be justified in the eyes of many. From another angle, how justifiable are marriages from one's will if the marriage ended up in a divorce. Personally, I feel it may work if both have the same desire to make the marriage work. They will work towards loving and committing to each other. It is the same as falling in love before marriage.

I definitely agree with you... arranged marriages are not that accepted anymore by the younger generation... people prefer to marry because of love and not because of their parent's choice... in my country... i don't know of any couple who married because it was arranged by their parents... but most often... i here that in some countries like China, Korea, and India... this kind of marriage is still being practiced... all should be give the right to choose whom they want to marry or if they want to marry at all...

Well, it depends on the tradition. Traditional chinese people have fixed marriages but I guess very few are still practicing it in the present. As for my view, I don't think I could marry someone without love between us.

Thats the belief of oldies. Because marrying with someone without love is miserable. How can you teach your kids about love if you don't have love in your partner.

yes. if you understand your parents you would do it. sometimes we must consider the relation of society, we lived but not for ourselver.