When your doctor dies
By ereign472
@ereign472 (81)
United States
December 24, 2007 8:57pm CST
I finally found a good psychiatrist who listened to me and helped me find new meds to manage my depression and anxiety. The doctor just died, and where I live, it's not easy to get a new psychiatrist because the tourists put them all on retainer for the holiday vacation (from October to March). Has anyone found themselves in this situation? Anyone know of what emergency resources are available in these circumstances for people who don't qualify for sliding-scale medical care? I tried to find info on the NIMH site and it didn't seem to help. Any other sites I could try? My husband is "normal" and doesn't understand my anxiety about it all. Thanks.
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6 responses
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
25 Dec 07
That is really a tough one. I am so sorry to hear that this has happened to you. If I were you, I would try the front of your local Yellow Pages. Remind your husband of his for better or worst vow. Out here in Los Angeles County, we have an info line to call in cases of emergency.
I see a psychiatrist, so I am trying to imagine what you are going through. I know that it is hard when someone is familiar with you case, to be forced to see someone new. I know that one thing that I am learning is to know always take my anxiety provoking thoughts as facts, but to question them and ask myself if they are really true and not just accept them.
Now, as for me, I am a child of God. If I were going through something like this, prayer would really help to calm me down and see things from another perspective. Why don't you try praying?
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@ereign472 (81)
• United States
25 Dec 07
Thank you for taking time to respond. I have been meditating/praying while trying to keep it together. It doesn't help that I have abandonment issues, which is made worse because my husband has left the country (by choice). I just feel so alone. I'm sure it will pass, it's just hard to believe it right now.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
25 Dec 07
This is why I am saying that you have to give your life to God. He is the only one who will never leave you or forsake you. Believe me, I understand what you are going through. I have Borderline Personality Disorder. I have a really hard time with abandonment also.
I lived with a man for 9 years and did everything that I could to make the relationship work. After we broke up, I lived with him for 4 years more. In 1996, I gave my life to the Lord. In 1997, I moved out and have been trusting God every since then.
He will do the same for you. Not only that, I was not in therapy for two years, but God continued to work on me. I didn't have a break down or anything else. I learned and grew so much. Ask the Lord to come into your heart and save you. Ask him to fill the void that no human being ever could. You never have to be alone again.
@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
25 Dec 07
that is very sad i guess the only doctor which you think that could help and be trusted..just be patient and ask some friends in which they can refer to you.. i have anxiety years ago but i dont need to consult a doctor since i know its only on my mind.. and put my trust on God and my fear is gone on everything..i just keep myself busy and exercise a lot..
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@smartbrain69 (2790)
• Canada
25 Dec 07
I really understand the problem and i agree with you that it is real hard to find a doctor who can understand paitent well and treat perfectly. Now a days doctors have become so much money minded that they don't see patient properly, they are more concern about their fees, commission from diagnosis tests, commission from medicine sale..., etc .
@ereign472 (81)
• United States
25 Dec 07
The doctor I had also listened and made sure he understood me so that I wouldn't get frustrated. He was one of the last of the good ones.
@Mickie30 (2626)
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25 Dec 07
I suffer from schizoid affective disorder which is similar in nature to schizophrenia but, also includes a mood disorder. I have to see several care providers and have seen many different ones over the years. Yes they do change a lot and I have to get used to new ones, but when you have had someone for a long time it is even more difficult to get used to someone new and you are always wary of someone new and what you tell them. It's not easy when you have to share personal things with new people and I do empathise with you.
@ereign472 (81)
• United States
25 Dec 07
You are absolutely right,it's not easy at all to have to keep telling about your life over and over again to new people, and I hate it. He was helping me to recover my memory from a trauma I suffered earlier this year, and he was never judgmental nor treated me as if I were broken or worthless. He was truly one in a million. Thank you for knowing what it's like.
@eyewitness (1575)
• Netherlands
25 Dec 07
Have you heard of the group the samaritans.They're spread all over the world.They also have offices in some countries.
But they help you trhough e-mail so you odn't have to face them really.But i could work,
Maybe that helps for you.
I wish you goodluck in finding a good pshychiatrist who can help you.Merry Christmas to you,
@ereign472 (81)
• United States
25 Dec 07
I'll look into that group. It would help to have someone available to talk with, which more often than not helps a great deal. Thank you for the suggestion.
@adforme (2114)
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26 Dec 07
I guess it can seem somewhat of a case of abandonment even though it was unexpected. If I were in your situation I would of course have the deepest sympathy for his family. I hope that you are able to continue your treatment somehow/someway. I understand the need for quality mental health care. There is no easy answer for this. I hope you can find local support through friends, family, and your community. Try contacting your nearest hospital and see if they can offer any treatment/services or help point you in the right direction for immediate care.
