Can you tell when your friend is lying ?
By nitaqqsabil
@nitaqqsabil (280)
Indonesia
December 25, 2007 12:37pm CST
It was in my dorm. One of my friend just came back from her vacation from Bali. She told us her fun experience. Places that she visited, shows us her pictures and stuff. From all the people that gathered that night, almost all of them already been to Bali, so shares stories.
I didn't realize that it was a very big thing to a friend of mine that never been to Bali before. So suddenly she make up stories and told us about her vacation to Bali too. I didn't realize until few days. I asked her why is she doing that. She anwer me with a simple answer. The reaso why she made up that sory becoz she was ashame, and she just doesn't want to left out.
Actually I felt sorry for her,I never thought it could that a big deal for her. But at that time she told the story, she can explain like she really did went to Bali. I really can't tell the different. She even recognize that place, it was like she did go there.
But soon I know, she just found out from the article that contains writings about Bali
Can you tell when your friend is lying ?
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10 responses
@signorpetho (379)
• Indonesia
25 Dec 07
hueheuheue...
I'm very sure I can tell when people lie to me. But, I always fooled when the person is very close to me.
You have to see him or her right into his or her eyes.
This is the key:
Our brain is divided into four: Right brain is imagination and crativity, left brain is logic and memory, front is the visual capturer and back is auditory part.
The system is that eyes moving directly to the side of the brain that work in exact time.
So, when he/she lie about something, it must be his/her imagination= his/her eyes would move to the right first (when he/she is thinking what is he/she going to say)
If it's followed with eyes moving up it must be a visual lies and if it's followed with eyes moving down, it must be an auditory lies
GOOD LUCK my dear
@nitaqqsabil (280)
• Indonesia
25 Dec 07
That is a very details information you have given me. You seems really know about this thing. Do you lie a lot ? :p
Thank you. I really appreciate it.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
26 Dec 07
Unless i have caught a person in lies before, I really don't look for evidence of lying. I tend to trust my friends alot. I feel sorry for your friend. Her lying is not malicious but a result of extreme insecurity. Sounds as if she needs a huge ego boost. Don't reveal her lie to the others....that would make things even worse for her!
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@albert2412 (1782)
• United States
26 Dec 07
I wish that I had a friend. I can usually tell when someone is lying. Perhaps their eyes give them away, or the way that they look at me.
@MrGenerics (44)
• Philippines
27 Dec 07
It is on our instinct to distinguish who tells the truth or lies. First, no amount of lies will stay forever. Truth is an essence of being GODLY. Telling half-truth or lies is embracing the teaching of the devil or worst worshiping Satan. The outcome of telling a lie is worst than telling the truth. She befriended herself to you the moment she tells not the truth. Anyway, she recanted what lies she had just said. My question is, what do you feel when she say that she lied to you or to your friends? Apprehension, right? You have reserved in your heart to things what she said. Can we tell when your friend is lying is somewhat a GOD given talent to us, for even if you haven't ask for a sign or reason to determine that she is lying, she recant or revealing you the whole thing that she is telling lies. Science would tell us somewhat vague (lie detector) (pupil dilation) (perspiration) etc, but the bond between you and your friend is at peril so she recanted. Thanks for reading.
@fanji008 (775)
• China
26 Dec 07
Hi,there! I think you were pretty surprised to know that you friend lied to you guys at that moment.Well,maybe most of us think there's no need to lie cause I don't think it's shameful at all that one hasn't been to Bali before.Maybe she just took that too seriously and didn't have the right thought towards it.You can have a very open talk with her about all that if you wanna help her.I sometimes can tell if my friends tell lies cause I can see from their eyes and behaviors.They're just not that natural.But usually my friends don't tell lies to me especially my close friends.We're very open and sincere to each other:) Thanks for the discussion and have a nice day^_^
@bumblebee34 (190)
• Philippines
25 Dec 07
yes.. i know my friends so well and i know when they are lying.. nevertheless i dont get affected that much of they lie. coz there is nothing i can do if they lie.. its up to them to do what they are ought to do..
i already have the expectation not to react violently when i learn my friend is lying to me.. coz there was this one time when one of my bff lied to me.. straight to my face.. and that caused our first ever misunderstanding.. created an almost 6mos of not talking to each othe coz i was so upset of her .. why of all people shed lie to me; and just because of some guy whose looks are unbearable.. ghee..
nwayz, thats over now.. and for as long as i am calm.. i would try not to react just to not let that thing happend again .. coz that was hard on my part coz i got used to speaking to my bff every single day.. so if someone , a friend would lie to me.. i would just say.. you know what ypure doing but i know your lieying then i would just smile and drop the subnject then my friend will then confees that shes lying to me..
@Lalitshukla (314)
• India
26 Dec 07
Well, that was a weird lie & quite harmless. She was not caught, which is good for her else she would have to go through lots of embarassment. There is no need to tell such lies in the first place, & even if somebody tells a lie like that people should not pull that person's leg, instead be understanding and sympethatic towards them.
However, its worse when people lie with lot of scheming & planning, and the intention is to harm others. Such lies are hard to be caught. Stangely!!!
@xtinelee (3371)
• Singapore
26 Dec 07
It would depend on how close I am with the friend. If I am not very close with the friend, I think I wouldn't know when he/she is lying. However, if he/she is a close friend of mine, I think I would pretty much know.. Sometimes people lie for a reason, and for some reasons, it's not always the right thing for us to expose them. I guess if she/he is my good friend, there are things we shouldn't lie, and if he/she lies, I think I would know or find out eventually. Paper cannot hold fire.. ya. :)
@acatantan (63)
• Philippines
26 Dec 07
For me, i can tell whether my friend is lying. How? I will know it because they are my friends. I know how they think and how they act unless we are separated. I know their interest their hobbies and even what they do in a specific time. My question is that is she really your friend or does she treat you a friend.
@flomikren (301)
• Philippines
26 Dec 07
if it is a friend for so long, i know when my friend is lying, just by looking at his/her eye movement and body movement, and by the way she answered some few questions of mine regarding to what stories that he/she told me...
