I Am Afraid!!!!
By Rozie37
@Rozie37 (15499)
Turkmenistan
December 25, 2007 5:22pm CST
I made it thirty-eight years with having both of my sisters near enough to run to them whenever I needed to. Now, my older sister is planning to move to Atlanta Georgia. She told me this morning that they got an offer on the house and are planning to accept it.
They have been talking about moving for a while, but I have never been able to see or accept that happening. My sister says when they accept the offer, they will have sixty days to move. The good news is that they have not yet found a place in Atlanta.
My brother-in-law and his brother are suppose to be going down there to look at a house, but, the way my sister sounds, he has not made any plans to go yet. One of my fears is that I will never see my sister and her six children again. Another fear is that she is going to be very far away from her family and her husband can be extremely mean and abusive.
I have talked about him on here before and let's just say he and I are barely able to tolerate each other. I lived with my sister for almost three years when he had moved out to live with another woman. I couldn't stand him then and I like him even less now.
Another thing is that my brother-in-law could drop dead any day. He has heart failure, high blood pressure, diabetes, and he smokes, all with a really bad temper. I hope my sister does not get stuck out there by herself if he should expire. In a nutshell, nothing about this move makes much sense to me.
I know how to trust God for me, but I have to learn to trust him for my family too. I will have to pray, because I just believe that God is going to have to step in and change something before any money changes hands. I don't want my sister to go to Atlanta.
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@Shaun72 (15959)
• Palatka, Florida
26 Dec 07
This aounds really scary to me. That is the best thing you can do though is put it in the hands of God.keep praying to God about this because he always knows what is best for your sister and her family.
@34momma (13882)
• United States
28 Dec 07
girl i know what you are going through. my brother moved to VA back in July. let me tell you, it broke my whole heart. my brother is my very better is my best friend and the one person who has been there for me no matter what. when he told me he was leaving i was like you, and wanted to wipe VA off the map.
but then i had to stop thinking about myself and start thinking about how important this was for him. and i had to let him go. so not easy but he is doing wonderful out there and i am so happy and proud of him. girl i know you are hurting, but if this is what she wants, then you have to let her go
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
29 Dec 07
I just pray that things will turn out okay. I have heard to many tragic stories in my time. I would be less nervous if it were just her and the kids. She CAN do it on her own. She just needs to believe that herself. But, I know that if she leaves, I have no choice but to accept it and let go.
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@flte74 (876)
• United States
26 Dec 07
I am sorry to hear that! I can see how much you care for your sister, if only her husband felt the same it wouldn't be so bad. What is keeping your sister with this man? He sounds absolutely awful! Forgive me for saying this but maybe it would be a blessing in disguise if he were not around anymore.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
27 Dec 07
I feel that it would be a blessing also. I do feel bad for feeling that way, but it is how I honestly feel. For one thing, she has absolutely no self-esteem left. She told me that there is nothing that he can do to hurt her any more than she has already been hurt.
For some reason she feels like she does not deserve any better than him. Like God is somehow punishing her for marrying him. She was pregnant with her fourth child when they got married and a lot of people had begged her not to marry him, but she did anyway. I know that God will intervene and do something, I just have to trust him.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
28 Dec 07
Aargh so she is going through with the move then. I hope she is going to be ok and the children too. All I can say is let her do what she needs to do and if it means moving away then so be it. There's only so much you can do Rozie, as long as she knows you are there for her no matter what, then that is all I think you can do. She is grown enough to make her own decisions and after all she has been through with her husband, only she can decide what road to take. I hope its the right one for her and her children. Be there for her when she needs you :)
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
28 Dec 07
I know what you mean Rozie. If her husband was any better then you would not be worrying so much. By moving away she is away from any family support and that is scarey.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
28 Dec 07
You sound like my other sister. She said that there is nothing that she can do. I guess that is true, but I just feel like I am losing her forever, like she is dying or something. I think that if she had better husband I would feel a lot better about the move. This is where my faith in God comes in.
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
27 Dec 07
Rozie, this move might be good for your sister. It might be what it takes to open her eyes to see what a creep this man is. She will not have any family to run to in Alanta who will be on her side.
I hope and pray all will go well for all envolved. I know how hard it is to have sisters who live far away. My twin sister lives in Idaho and my older sister in Washington state. Both sisters see each other often. I am stuck down in CA and see them less often. Oh well I have my friends and family.
Good luck and keep up the faith.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
27 Dec 07
All I want is what is best for my sister. I want her to be happy and she has told me several times that she is not. If it takes moving to Atlanta for her to be happy, that is fine.
I have never had to deal with this before, but I can adjust to her not being close. I will just have to continue to pray and trust God that everything will work out fine. Thank you for your support.
@Flight84 (3048)
• United States
26 Dec 07
Did you have a good Christmas? I'm sorry to hear that your sister may be moving. I don't know what I wouls do if my sister moved away. I also hope she will be safe with her crazy husband. Do the children like him? I know he's there father and they love him, but do they get along with him? It's scary for me to think about not having my family near me. I don't fully depend on my family, but I like knowing they're here and they're safe. Don't you worry about not seeing them again either! I'm sure they will come back around for holidays. I'll keep your family in my prayers.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
27 Dec 07
I worry that if she is out there with him, he will not have to worry about her running to her family. I have lived with an abusive man and the one thing that they like to do is to isolate you from your family and friends and the ones that really care about you. Thank you for your promises to pray and all of your support. God bless you.
@Tweety2035 (662)
• United States
26 Dec 07
if i was you i would not be afraid of that.you gys were living together for thirty-eight years.maybe she will not find a house in atlanta.
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@shijjukhan (207)
• India
26 Dec 07
hi..its sad to know about your sister and even about you who is losing her family..its very hard to leave our family which is very near to us...but dont worry god is there for everyone even for your sister..he wont make her alone..your sister is very lucky to have you..
dont worry about brother-in-law he will have to pay fro his sins and his bad habits ....and dont be scared or afraid of that everything gets fine ..as you believe in god as everyone god wont let you down ok..keep faith in him and he will make everything fine bye take care
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@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
26 Dec 07
You should tell your sister how you feel, that you are afraid that her husband is not in the best of health and that she might be out in Atlanta all alone with the children. Since you trust God, HE will arrange things so that either your brother-in-law's heart will be softened so he does not beat up on your sister or your sister will realize what kind of man she married and make arrangements just in case he does get violent.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
26 Dec 07
I asked my sister what she would do if he passed away out there and she said she would just come back. The only reason he is going out there in the first place is to go to a certain church, where this pastor named Charles Stanley preaches. I guess no one has been successfully in convincing him that God is everywhere and he does not have to go to a certain church to find him.
@anniepa (27955)
• United States
26 Dec 07
I hope something does happen to make your sister change her plans. I understand why you don't want her to go, I'd be worried about her, too! I do remember reading previous posts you've made where you've mentioned him and I can't understand why she stays with him, although I know it's none of my business so maybe I shouldn't say that. I wish there was something I could say to help or to at least make you feel better! Just pray and hope for the best.
Annie
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
26 Dec 07
I do not live in the city where they live anymore, because I kept running in to him, but I have always been no more than a bus ride away, if she needed me. If there was not so much craziness, I could be a lot happier for her, but I am praying because she either needs to stay or be kept in prayer at all times. Thank you for your support.
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
28 Dec 07
Hi Rozie, Although we are all guilty of this sometimes, we should never be afraid. If your sister moves to Atlanta, or anywhere else, you can be sure there is a reason for it. Things have a way of working out for the best, you may not see it now, but you will later. Blessings.
@acatantan (63)
• Philippines
26 Dec 07
For me, i always see my brother and my sister so as an effect, I do not the feeling of not having them. There are times that i wish not to have them because they are so annoying and i want them to just vanish away. But, there are times that only them can understand me and the way how i feel. I almost believed the saying, "blood is thicker than water". Even if i want them to vanish there are still times that i need them, and i mean really need them.
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