Women, please help us men out!

I am female, but I was brought up in an all male family except for Mom and me (4 Brothers and a Father), but she was brought up with all males except for her Mom and her (5 Brothers and a Father). When women pull that on me, I tell them I'm not a mind reader, they either want me to talk to them or they don't. We all have mood swings because of hormones fluctuating as females, but if something is wrong, I can't telepathically figure out another female either. So either she wants to tell me or she wants to play games. I'm glad I like men. I'd set some ground rules if I were you, a person who tells you, "You suck!" isn't behaving very maturely and calling you names. What about respect for you? Would she tolerate that from you? I hope not. Personally, my husband knows that sometimes I'm in the mood to talk about what's bothering me and sometimes I'm not. If he thinks something is wrong, he tells me he's there for me when I'm ready to talk. You can't force her to talk when she doesn't want to, but you can let her know you are there for her when she feels like talking. If she can't deal with that, then it's time to get a different and more mature girlfriend. One that's up to your maturity level. Also, there are times when we cry or have problems just because our hormones are changing rapidly and it's nothing anyone did or said. If my husband waits long enough I feel better and I just tell him, "Well that mood swing is over!"

Quoted for truth and seconded. Its basically another no-win scenario. "Greaaaaaat..."/sarcasm -_- Some women will tell you what is wrong though, others though expect you to always know what is wrong on cue. Its bizzare. Some of this stems from "signals" but with all sorts of communication the signals can be misread by the recipient or missent by the communicator. Plus its an ambiguous and vague way of communicating at times, so misunderstandings or no understanding of what's going on is a real possibility. Maybe someone else can shed more light on this, but my experience could still be of some assistance to you. As for your situation Ghost, it does seem like your partner is being immature and difficult on this. If you try to find out what happens, she says "you suck". If you don't try to find out what happened or what's wrong, she complains. If you ask "what's wrong", she says "nothing". Nice sick-cycle carrousel eh...Again, no-win situation here. I do not think you'll be able to avoid arguments like this from the sound of it. Its disheartening too since it sounds like a lot of this is frivolous and she's just keeping it in so she can use it as a weapon against you. I'd just drop the whole thing and leave. I use to think I had to tolerate nonsense like this. Not anymore, and never again. I'd recommend the same to others.

Well, maybe I'm not the best one to give this advice since I'm short on patience, but it sounds like a head game to me. How do you find out? Well (assuming your girl isn't on/doesn't need medication for chemical imbalances of the brain), I would tell her that I love her, but a mind reader I am not, and since it is a mind reader that she seems to need, you are packing your stuff. If she stops you from packing, she probably needs some meds; if she doesn't stop you from packing, she is probably getting the end result she desires from playing the headgame. Good luck, King.

Sometimes we as women get hurt by the actions of the men that we love. As a result we sometimes believe that the man that we love is less trustworthy. If he hurt us in the first place can we trust him enough to tell him what it was that he did that harmed us? Could we be making ourselves more vulnerable to being hurt again if we tell you what's wrong? As we grow and as the relationship grows we begin to realize that you're exactly right ... you're not a mind reader (we wish you were though). We also realize that you're not perfect, that you will do things that hurt us and if you're the man that we hope that you are you didn't hurt us intentionally. Once we realize that we know that we can tell you what upset us and believe that you're the type of man that will work hard to not harm us again. Perhaps you'll never realize how much we desire your protection, your love, your admiration and how crushed we are when we feel as though our "protector and lover" has harmed us. Good luck, you'll need it.

it is really hard to say. I am a woman but not so much down at any moment so that anyone can't tell for what I am so much down.But you can notice very minutely for what she is happy and for what she is sad. Also check when she gets annoyed. I think this way you can guess well.

Us women think that men can read our minds.We really know you can't but we'd like to think that you know us so well that you can just know what the problem is.It is so agrivating that you can't figure it out on your own that we're not going to tell you if you ask.Whenever you ask we say nothing is wrong when something is really wrong.Take her out to dinner,shower her with attention,tell her how much you love her then tell her that you want to understand what is bothering her.Tell her men are just not wired at catching on to whats bothering a women without the woman telling them what it is.Say men just don't have that built in instinct.

Here is some advice from a man, lol. Women crave or desire a lot of attention. When you see her, exclaim, "Wow, you look so beautiful!" it works out well for her, even if you do not mean it, but you don't have to show it that you don't mean it. Act well. As you see her sawgger towards you, let her reach you, then you move to her ear and whisper, Ï love the way you walk, babe." This and many complements really make them feel cool. On the other side, try also to be interested in whatever she likes. Be attentive to her conversations and learn to know her mood swings. That way you get to have the power to even change her moods. Good luck.

From a woman with a lot of years of experience with relationships, from me to you, my best advice to you is probably not going to be something considered good. You are right. You are not a mind reader and she sounds like she has a few issues she could work on. How can anyone know how to fix something if they don't know it's broken. If she doesn't have the courage or state of mind to be honest and open - to tell you what she likes or dislikes - then you are most likely in a no win situation. I don't like using this example but for instance, how can a man know what a woman likes in bed, or in any other situation, if she doesn't tell him. A man could do something for years thinking the woman he loves enjoys that special touch, only to find out years later she hated it. The only way anyone can ever know about things like this is to ask, hoping the other person will be honest. Another way is to live in misery for 40 years. Trust me, it's much easier just to be honest. If you're with someone who can't be honest with her own feelings, can she be honest with you in other areas? Without blame and without making her feel she's wrong, (we women hate that), you need to be as honest with her as you want her to be with you. Tell her you can't know what bothers her if she doesn't be honest and tell you. Don't be a bully or anything, but don't let her make your feel like dirt either. Ah - what a world if we could all be mind readers. NOT