make love or not

IMHO, If you are willing to put aside the consequences of both your actions, even if it could be the wrong decision but you wanted it also (even a little bit), then I'd say go for it! If you want to be included in his "black book" (just a guess) then go do it! Or be among the long line of relationships he's been involved (guessing again) then by all means throw yourself to his "loving" arms! But as you have said that you have never been in love before, how sure are you that this is love you're feeling and not just infatuation , and yes you said you're curious also. But remember and be very cautious with you're decisions because as the saying goes "curiousity killed the cat". Why don't you do a research on his whole character like how many GF did he had during his stay in college, what were the outcomes if ever they've broken up unfavorably? The friends he hangs out. Maybe just maybe, you're "game" and he's the hunter, the prize is .....; Another one for the scoreboard. Whatever the outcome, you would have to face the consequences, besides you're still in sophomore, there'd be other guys or even of the same level as you are who would be more of the "right" person for you. Good luck.

Sounds to me you have already made up your mind, so just stand your ground and tell it's not the right time for you to do this. And you seem to have very different views and life styles, and you state that you don't think you love him, then why not break it off with him. He's going to be moving on, and you should too.

if he is worthy of having your intimacy then he is worthy to be married to you and vice verse. Wait until you are married. If he does not want to be married with you or you with him, do not think you are suitable for this affection. with premarital affairs it is too iffy if what is occurring is love or lust and a good solid relationship can not be built on the foundation of lust. also, when people become this intimate they sometimes get married due to that fact and the marriage is an unhappy existence.

I think you already know the answer to that. If you have doubts or unsure don't do it. If it felt right you wouldn't even have to ask yourself if you wanted to make love with him or not. And if he is pushing you all the more reason not to do it. If he really cares about you he will want you to be happy with yours and his decision about what you want to do. Don't let him push you into doing anything you don't want to do. Good luck with your decision.

Saying no to his request is the most honest answer you could give him. Tell him how you really feel and explain to him how you feel about your relationship. I know its hard but being honest gives you the opportunity to strengthen your communication with one another. Besides, staying in a relationship wherein you don't actually feel comfortable will be torture for you both in the long run, especially for you. Try to communicate to him how you really feel about things, about your relationship, about why you don't love him anymore and if it comes to a point where you guys agree that you're really not meant to be together, then you'll be free of all the things that's been running thru your mind.

He may have the same request next time if he didn't get what he wanted and if he really wanted it he will most likly push for what he wants till you give in.

Don't let him pressure you if you are not ready. You really do not know this person, my son was involved with someone who was on a temporary assignment, he saw her everyday. Then one day she used his computer ato read her email and left the mail open...and surprise..she received a note from her loving husband. She told my son she was divorced. Take your time. Do it when you are ready. He maybe a wonderful sweet person or he may have met several girls like you in different cities via the internet. Don't open yourself up for pain unnecessarily.

I think you are right in deciding to hold off. It does not sound like you are madly in love, and even then, the fact that he will be leaving soon will leave you really open and vulnerable, both emotionally and physically. You will do well to wait until the right one comes along. Do not be in a hurry to shed your virginity. You can only gift one person with it once--let the gift count. Blessings and a happy new year to you....

I think you are the one who can solve your problem. And think it twice, thrice or 10 times before you decide. And think about the consequences when you do it and think this big question, "What next, after that?".

i advice that you dont promise him,,,i think the love is simplicity at the first stage ...and i know,if a man only want to fu ck with you,the love maybe worth of considerable!!!!specially this is the first experience of you,you need give it to someone love you best,,at least in china,,wish you have a good day!!

Don't do something that you don't feel in your heart is right and if you don't love him, then it's not right. Maybe you should just explain to him that you are not in love with him and that friendship is the only thing possible out of this relationship. if your honest and he can accept just being friends, then that would be great. if he can't that's okay to. It will all work out for the best, but don't make love if your not in love. You will just regret it in the end. Keep us posted and God bless

i think the last time you take a good decision because you have to know first if you love him and secondly if he love you before taking that kind of decision because make love with someone is a very great proof of love for a girl so you have to take it easy and first realize that he love you.Another thing you have to know that a boy who love can wait a long time before making love so be carefull i take good care of you we don't want to see you cry

I agree that you have already decided that you don't think this is what is right for you. With that in mind I would say you should definitely say no. After all doing what is right for you should be most important. If you do decide that making love is the best option for you make sure you are protected against unwanted pregnancy. But you really should do what is best for you.

if you say that,i think you need leave him as quickly as possible,you need study and he must work.maybe you will meet again a few years later.in that time,you can srart again.it's my adivice.Hope you can happy everyday.

I say don't do it. If you don't knkow if you love him and you don't feel sure that you want to, don't do it. Trust me. Everyone gets that old speech "wait till you are married" or "wait till its with someone special" and if you are like me, you half listen to it. I wish I had waited. My husband had never been with anyone else before me. I wish I could have offered him the same thing.

You aren't too young and it isn't too soon... However, you need to be sure (absolutely sure) that you love him. I slept with my boyfriend only 11 days after I met him and it was only the 5th time we'd been together in real life (I also had met him via internet). I've never regretted it. It's 6 months later and we are still together. However, the only reason I don't regret it is because, even though I had only met him for a short time, I had somehow already fallen deeply in love with him. Don't do it if you don't love him.