Difficult decisions regarding a wedding!

As it is our responsibility to keep our family members comfortable and happy as the grand parents are not be more (as they are in a final stage of their life)it is our responsibility to keep them happy in these last days so just follow them I think u will be indians as ur said variuos relations which will not exist in foreign pupil

That seems to be a problem everywhere, the big.. grand weddings are scary for me as well as many of my friends in India, and I have witnessed many of them opting for a smaller gathering of friends n family for the wedding. I would suggest you to speak with your parents and grandparents regarding why you don't want a big-fat wedding, if you can convince them.. nothing better or else try for the next best bargain. If you wanna be a rebel.. your choice!!

I think I'd tell my parents that I didn't want a huge wedding. When I got married, we didn't want a big wedding either, so, we asked a relative if we could have a small ceremony at their home. How about inviting only immediate family: parents, grandparents, brother/sister and spouses (and of course their children.) If your grandparents aren't able to travel, maybe they would be pleased to have a little ceremony where they live at. A wedding doesn't have to be big and formal if you don't want one like that, it should be what you two want, and not what others want. My daughter wanted a small wedding too, so we had an outdoor garden wedding, with only about 30 people total. Talk to your Mom, if you explain, she'll probably understand where you are coming from. Congratulations and good luck:-) And may you two get the wedding of your dreams!

when my hubby and i got married i wanted more than anything to elope, because i didn't want any of the crap that went along with getting married. but my friends and family were constantly at our throats and eachothers trying to get me to conform to this 'traditional' wedding format. We decided to do a small ceremony with a JP and a handful of family and friends in our front yard, with trees and flowers around us, it was nice and quaint and not cluttered, but i still would have much rathered just to elope and not have to deal with everyone being a pain in our butts haha. thing is everyone always tells you that getting married should be the best day of your life and yada yada yada, but it's bull, if you look into history very very few weddings end up as perfect as you hoped it be, and even less turn out the way they were planned to. my advice would be to pick a nice small area in your yard or someone else's, do up a few decorations and do it that way, it's cheaper, and much easier, your day shouldn't be cluttered, over busy or over expensive, as you know, it's only a day, and you have the rest of your lives to think about, spending 30 thousand dollars on a day is kind of ruthless, when that could last you at least a few months, let alone many it would last about a year. if you have a body of water near by, a large one at least, get a boat, a house boat kind of, or a cruse boat or something nice and just big enough for the ceremony and drinks or something like that and do it there, or do it at some kind of garden, or who knows maybe even a forest or beautiful wooded area, maybe a beach. Just something that won't cost you a lot, won't take much preparation, and won't stress you out or end up being a big ghastly wedding you didn't really want in the first place. It's just a day, nothing compared to even 25 years of marriage. make it right for you, and find a way to have your family understand that it's your day, they likely went through it, and it was your turn to make the day the way you want it, because that one day reflects on how your going to spend your lives together. Are your lives going to be filled with riches and parties and all of those frivolous events and people? or are they going to be entwined in a gorgeous elegant yet casual ribbon casting you everywhere you want to go? I know that sounded a bit crazy but the thing is is that your wedding does reflect on you and how you are going to live your life. Do it the way it makes it right for you, or it'll tell people that your living your life for others, not for eachother.

You could always have a small family orintated wedding with your family and then honeymoon overseas. You could even renew your vows wherever you end up after you get married. Try talking to you family they might even have some ideas to offer. Good luck and I hope you have a wonderful wedding whatever you do.

Why don't you have a small, intimate wedding at an inn near your locale? Your surroundings would be beautiful and all the members of your family that you are close to could attend. Most inns have wonderful old world settings and charm. A meal can be served in the same building and if a family member tires, they could retire to a room. It would, also, be ideal for your partner and you, you don't have to leave the premises for your wedding night. Congratulations, I wish you much luck and love in your future life together.

You can get married aboard and come back to have small celebration just for your grandparents. After all, this is about your happiness. They will understand.

Why not just nix the big wedding and have a smaller one with just your family and his family? I don't know about England, but here in America, you can get married in your own back yard if you can find a minister or a judge to come to you and most will. Have you thought about just having it in a public park or in your parents' backyard?