Need an objective point of view...is there attraction involved?
By snookumsnort
@snookumsnort (313)
Philippines
December 28, 2007 9:27pm CST
I recently started working and never really noticed how this certain guy acts because we all worked in the same office. But then the office got split into two rooms and everyone noticed that this guy keeps coming to our office to scan, get soda, and what not when they do have their own equipment in their office. We all used to think that it was because of a pretty temp that was with us but then another colleague told me it wasn't her. I do notice though that my colleagues give me weird looks when he comes in. But he nevers pays attention to me! He'll chitchat with everyone except me and even if he knows I handle a certain client, he will still ask around who's in charge of said client before approaching me directly. During the office party, they put us on the same bowling team so I'm really not sure. I'm 30 and he's mid-20s so I think I'm hardly attractive to him But what do his actions mean?
6 responses
@abhi_destar (764)
• India
29 Dec 07
I know this! You had better be sure that this IS attraction. I know it because I do it myself. Alas! I haven't yet been able to talk to the girl I like most but I always find excuses to have a glimpse of her but to others, I always pretend as if I don't even know her. But the difference is that we have had eye contact for so many times that the girl would have guessed by now that I adore her. I'd advise you to please talk with this guy sometimes. We sometimes can't find words to start a chat. I suppose that by and by, you will come to know what's passing in the guy's mind.
@snookumsnort (313)
• Philippines
5 Jan 08
Glad to get a man's point of view. But I do wish that guys would just say what they mean straight up. Although the guessing game can be quite fun too.
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
29 Dec 07
I can't tell you what it really means. He's either got an attraction and avoids you due to it, or maybe nothing is happening and he's just not noticing you. You could always ask what is up with his conduct but be sure to think it over beforehand.
@citygirl (1080)
• Canada
29 Dec 07
Hum, thats a hard one because his actions could mean many things. One he might be attracted to you and doesn't know how to approuch you. Or he might feel you are more knowlegeable and be intimidated around you. It could be many things. Why not ask him directly why he does that when he knows you handle a certain client? some times we are amazed by the answer and it has nothing to do with our speculations. At the least it will clear the air. Have a happy new year my dear.
@thedogshrink (1266)
• United States
29 Dec 07
It's hard to tell, with just the info you put in your question, but my guess is he likes you. I think so, because the other workers think he likes you, and also because you say he goes out of his way to not talk to you -- that seems like a big sign to me that he has feelings for you.
I don't think from mid twenties to 30 is a big difference in age -- but maybe it is when you are that age? I'm 50, and today I can't seem to remember that far back, but I think I wouldn't have thought too much about a 3-5 year difference in age. Plus, there are young men who are attracted to older women, altho, again, I don't think 30 would be that much older to him.
Here's the question: Do you like him????
@berryliciousme (1003)
• Philippines
29 Dec 07
I can't really tell since I am not around you guys. However, since your coworkers think that he's into you, then there must be some truth to it.
Do not wonder what he finds attractive to you. That's for him to say and besides, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Please let us know the succeeding events. I feel excited about this. LOL
@bushfiredmx (111)
• Philippines
29 Dec 07
I used to do these kinds of stuff back in school! Well, I believe he's just too shy to confront his feelings towards you. Plus he may be afraid to express his emotions to you personally. He'll probably come to his senses after a few more months and hopefully he'll have the guts to tell somebody what he truly feels. Just keep your cool and don't get affected with the things he's been doing. Eventually he'll be tired of popping around and he'll confront you when the right chance comes for him. It's all about timing, if he's really into you, he'll find the ways to get to you no matter what. No Guts, No Glory!
