One of those days

Thanks so much I am going to come off the computer and spend some time with her and just give her some more tlc you are right this is what she needs. We haven't taken her out anywhere today because it is so cold and rainy but, I will do something else with her like painting thanks so much I think yours is the best post though all the answers have been wonderfully helpful.

Thanks for taking the time to answer this. I agree with what you say we should stay calm and try to divert her attention to something else. Allowing this behaviour to happen is not good for any of us. Thanks for your reply.

Even 2 year olds can figure out that if they throw a fit or behave badly, you are going to reward them with their favorite toy or television. Kids at 2 years old are smart enough to question things around them. They are curious, they have begun to want to know why things work, how they work, and what you are teaching a child by giving them their toys or tv time when they misbehave is this: If I throw a fit I get my toys or I get controll of the television. consequently... that leads to: If I behave like a brat, my parents like that and I get special treatment or rewards. that is the terms children of that age think in. black and white. they don't see you trying to divert them, they see you rewarding them for being brats.

Thanks so much you have helped me just by answering my question. It seems as though you truly understand and you are right she is a perfect blessing from God and I musn't ever lose sight of that fact. It hasn't been easy from the start with me being ill at birth and having to have an emergency C Section and then not knowing if she would live or die, but through it all God saved us and that is something to be pleased with she really is a delight and I love her very much it's just some days or much more difficult. I do tell her I love her all the time.

Having a child and nurturing them until they day you can no longer nurture them is one of the most blessed events. At the same time, it's one of the most difficult jobs in the whole world. Some days are diamnond - Some days are gold - but then there rolls around those days you just want to run away and hide and let someone else have your child. It's never easy, but it teaches you what is important. It teaches you to pick and choose your battles. When I learned 'the order' of things and put them into prospective, (which seems like took me forever to learn), I realized how to function without loosing what little mind I had left. God is first......always..... Sounds odd that I would be seond. You would think your husband and/or child would come second. No - because I realized if I didn't keep myself up to standards, I wouldn't be able to take care of my husband and child. The third one is the sticky one. While the child needs the attention and takes so much of the time, the husband sometimes find himself feeling left out so dividing my attention between the two can sometimes become hectic. It was hard for me to allow someone else 'babysit' my baby, but I found that my husband needed his time too, so babysitters came in handy when I needed to devote some time to him. As for wondering when I would receive compensation or reward, well, that comes much later, after all the sacrifice. When you husband or child turns to you and says, "I love you", then you can smile and feel like your efforts were not wasted. But - trust me honey, it's a lifelong journey so you might as well get prepared. There's nothing so special as being a mother, lover and friend to your husband and children. It's what we live for.

Hi thanks so much you seem to have so much insight you are right she is our only child and sometimes I feel we will only ever have one because she is such a handful we do pay her loads of attention, but everytime we don't she cries and whines. It is so difficult because I have mental health problems anyway. I tend to give into her too easily and really I shouldn't. Heck she is a great child and I love her to bits it's just sometimes it gets too much. Do you think having another child would help?

Thanks for taking the time to answer this. I know what you mean about looking at the pictures of them when they were born. My daughter was so tiny then she was premature and she was really small so small her body would fit in the palm of your hand. She nearly didn't make it they had to resucitate her for 10 minutes and it hasn't been an easy journey with her not putting on the weight. She is still tiny now at the age of 2 people say she is like a little doll. I love her to bits and maybe the problem is I have been a bit too soft with her, but I want her to be happy. I like your story about the world being a playground the world is so big to little people and they should enjoy their childhood. I think I want to give my daughter much more happiness than I had and I don't want anything to upset her.

Thanks for taking the time to answer this. I can see what you are saying. Discipline is very difficult it isn't one of my strongest points or my husbands as we are both a bit undisciplined and I think we need to start to be. Like going to bed at a reasonable hour and taking meals together. I think it is because of our lack of discipline that this might be happening. Also when your child is crying all the time you just want a break and tend to do what's easiest like giving in, but we do need to be tougher and to learn to say "no" and that no means no. Thanks for your reply.

Thanks for your advice and well wishes just the fact you took the time to answer this has helped so much and reading what you said at the end of your message really made me smile. Thanks.

Taking a break is a good idea. I think you are right when you say about the words she is only just starting to talk and does get very frustrated that she cannot express herself more.