Indecision of an 18 Year Old

When i finished highschool i didn't knew what i wanted to study for.So i started to just work.And three years later i know what i want.So i started to study again besides working. I never thought i would find something i would really like.

As much as you want to direct him the right way...you really have to let him decide this one for himself. If nothing else, he will learn some very valuable life lessons. I will say that I would not be paying for college for a kid that has yet to make up his mind. I watched my brother do this with my nephew. The kid is now a very educated bartender and my brother is in debt up to his ears.

That's a very tough one. My son didn't know what he wanted to do out of High School, but he did take a few classes at the Community College for a while. He's 24 and still has no clue. He's pretty intelligent so it's hard for me to watch him not do something, but it's a decision he's got to make. My other son went into the Navy and is doing quite well with it. Since your son doesn't know what he really wants to do, you might try to suggest he stay home the first year and get his General Education Requirements out of the way before he jumps into an out-of-state school that might not offer him what he wants. It's very tough to try to steer them in the direction we think is good for them. I remember being that age and think my kids felt the same way I did...

I must say he is going through most crucial time of his life. in this case it seems matter of heart is getting more importance than the matter of brain to him. He should have understood that career is very vital in his life. Sit with him, do not lose your cool and make him understand what are the things taht can happen to him if he follows to the college as his GF and also the advantages of going to other college in perspective of his career.

I went through the same thing, being 18 and not knowing what to do with the rest of my life, I was actually thinking of being an actor. I took a test in high school and it told me my interest was in being an electrician. Web design was another I had a high score in so I chose that and took a 10 month course at a Technical School. If your son's school can arrange for him to take one of those tests, I don't know the name of it, but maybe it can help. If he can, he will have to be sure he is willing to spend his life doing what he scored the high in and that he can get a lot of information about it. For me, I didn't fully understand the career of a web designer, so I have changed my mind. I am currently taking classes for game design and I am thinking about changing again.

even i have a brother who is heading just the same way as your son, and my mom and dad are a way to worried about him, he really has no aim- may be you should talk to his girlfriend, if thats not helping then try to make him good at conversating to have some new friends which can help him to move on and make new friends and more importantly make a new girlfriend, which can surely get him to a more creative side of his mind too, once he has got a new envioronment, that what he really is willing to do.