i am not ready for a change!!!

the only tip I can give you, is to be responsible for all you actions, and not rely or use as an excuse, anyone but your self. This is a huge sign of maturity, and unfortunately some people never do this, and to prove my point listen to people that are in a spot of trouble, if they listen to what is being said, and take a few moments to think about it, then say yes you are right I screwed up, but generally the person hasn't even finished speaking before the other person interrupts with a "but I" and a great long explanation as to how it is not their fault. So if the first thing out of you mouth is an excuse rather than a pause to reflect you haven't got it.