Please say a prayer for my Mom
By miamilady
@miamilady (4910)
United States
January 6, 2008 8:00am CST
My mother has been in the hospital for more than 8 days.
She has been unconcious. I don't know if she will recover or not.
I don't care what your religious beliefs are. If you believe in prayer or if you believe in sending forth positive energy, it doesn't matter. I'd appreciate it.
For myself, I'd like her to recover, of course.
But, I want what's best for her, whatever that is.
I don't know what she is aware of. I don't know what she's feeling, thinking or hearing, if anything at all.
One cannot imagine what it is like to have someones life in your hands unless you experience it.
I've learned so much this week about living wills and DNR's.
The biggest thing I've learned is that you cannot possibly imagine all the scenarios that could play out when your life is at stake.
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56 responses
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
6 Jan 08
I feel the way you do, it doesn't matter the belief, it matters that people pray. Also that it is what is best for the person that we pray for.
I'm sure you are going through a lot right now. Would you like me to say a prayer for you, too?
I'm sorry that your Mother is not well. My Mother was not well for a long time and she passed over in 1998. I remember that time like it was yesterday, no one knows how scary and difficult decisions are at that time unless they've lived throught it. I hope between the prayers and the posts you find strength. Take care
@miamilady (4910)
• United States
7 Jan 08
Yes, you could pray for me to. That would be nice.
Thanks. Take care.
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@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
6 Jan 08
I remember about 4 years ago when my grandmother was hospitalized and was unconcious for a while - a week maybe? She was basically gone but no one had a medical POA, only a financial one. My Mom, Aunts and Uncle were all trying to decide what to do. She did have a stipulation about no feeding tubes and it was getting to that point that they'd need one. It was looking like they were going to pull the plug on the machines and she woke up one day. She's been back living in her own home since - with a couple nurses that rotate staying with her. It's just really strange how that will happen. I do wish you the best!
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@miamilady (4910)
• United States
6 Jan 08
They started using a feeding tube with my Mom last night. It's so hard to see them doing things to her, when I know it's not what she wanted, but the doctors keep giving us hope and I have 3 siblings and a Dad. It's hard for all of us and although it's my dads decison. He's the one that would hold out the longest, I think.
I'm trying to make sense of this, "Gods plan" and all. The only things I can imagine are that she is waiting til we are all ready to let go or she is waiting til our family had done the healing that we've been needing to do in order to appreciate her and eachother the way we should.
Thanks for your well wishes.
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@gewcew23 (8007)
• United States
6 Jan 08
Our Dear and Heavenly Father,
We just bring miamilady's mother to you. Lord, you know what is going on with her. We have no idea what is going on and may not understand why it is happening. We just pray that you will do whatever is necessary for her for you know what is best. Just give her family strength and a calmness that only you can bring. We ask for this in Your Son's Precious Name, Amen
@ladyluna (7004)
• United States
6 Jan 08
Hello Miamilady,
I'm very sorry to hear about your mother. Of course I will include her and your family in my prayers. Though I can empathize with the position you are in with DNRs & having to interpret what your Mom's wishes would be, I certainly don't envy your position. I have been in a similar position, and it is excrutiating!
May you find a guiding light to comfort you, and give you the necessary strength to carry this heavy burden. May you be guided by both wisdom and love as you wade through these difficult decisions. And, may your family be blanketed with the power of grace as you deal with the issue of mortality, and what it means for each of you.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
6 Jan 08
Yes, the best thing to pray for is that God's will be done. It is really hard when you love someone and their life is hanging in the balance. You want them with you, but you don't want to be selfish if you know that they are suffering. It is always good to deal with the Living Wills and Do Not Resuscitate orders, before things get to this point. I hope that your mother made these things clear.
@miamilady (4910)
• United States
6 Jan 08
I have been praying for whatever is supposed to happen to happen. I also pray that she is not suffering. Sometimes it looks like she is, but it's hard to tell what she's concious of.
Part of me things that perhaps sometimes God gives us a choice. I imagine that whether she lives or passes on is up to her and God.
It's the fact that she might be suffering and the fact that she did leave a living will which stated she did not want to be in the position that she's in now, that is killing me.
Because of how things happened. She was intubated without our consent and against her wishes. It was a scenario that could not be predicted.
What happened to her was extremely unusual.
We have done as much as we can to leave it in God's hands but she's still unconcious.
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@ClarusVisum (2163)
• United States
6 Jan 08
I'd like to make you aware of the fact that there was a study done that was reported in the New York Times that shows that soliciting strangers for prayers for someone in the hospital actually does WORSE for them than doing nothing.
http://www.nytimes.com/2006/03/31/health/31pray.html?ex=1180756800&en=24d90876ddf6e949&ei=5070
I want your mother to get better, so I'm NOT going to pray or do anything like that.
@miamilady (4910)
• United States
7 Jan 08
Maybe I'll read the article some other time.
I don't think I'll agree with it even if I do read it.
I don't agree with being a religious hypocrite. I don't think I am. I believe in God. I'm not big on religion. I believe in prayer, when it's not completely self serving.
I'm not asking for her complete recovery, unless that is in God's plans and what would be best for her. Not what is necessarily best for me.
I just want her to be okay whether that means that she survive or pass forward. I just want her to be okay.
Everyone has their religious beliefs and their philosophies about prayer.
If you feel that your not praying for her is better than praying, then so be it. I respect your thoughts.
Take care.
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@ClarusVisum (2163)
• United States
7 Jan 08
If you read the article (it's not very long), you'd see that it has very little to do with your 'answer' to it, and my comment after the link would make more sense.
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@cheenlly (3476)
• Philippines
7 Jan 08
Sorry to hear that. Just keep faith on God. I'll pray for your mother's recovery. There's nothing impossible unto Him if you believe and just like you said you should think positive for her recovery. I'm sure even your mother is in that state she hears you so talk to her and tell her to fight and believe. I know God has its purpose why that happens. I would certainly pray or her and for you as well. God bless you and guide you.
@deeeky (3667)
• Edinburgh, Scotland
7 Jan 08
Hope all goes well and your Mum recovers from the present situation. yes I would certainly say that we cannot imagine all what is going through your mind at this time. You will be constantly worrying all the time and your life will not be easy at this situation.
Deeky's thought are with you.
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@lkbooi (16070)
• Malaysia
7 Jan 08
Hi miamilady, I feel rather sad to learn that your mom has been unconscious for such a considerable time. I heard many cases of complete recovery from coma even though they were most serious and lasted longer. You must have strong confidence that your mom will sure to recover.
Hopping that the prayers from all your caring friends here for her, could help her to recover as soon as possible.
With all the best wishes and good luck.
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@Springlady (3986)
• United States
7 Jan 08
I'm so sorry to hear about your mom, mia. Yes, I will pray for her. God is with her and He is taking care of her. He will give her His best.
My mother and I are so very close and I sometimes think about how hard it would be for me to lose her, but she is a very good Christian woman and she is bound for Heaven and I know one day we will be together for all eternity! That is the great hope that we have in the Lord Jesus Christ!
May God give you comfort and strength that only He can give!
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@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
7 Jan 08
You certainly have my prayers miamilady for your mother. I went through this myself with my mother...who did pass away after two weeks in a coma. It was hard for me too, as from day one, the docs were telling me about DNR also..a decision I dreaded and was seriously considering to pull the plug...she was all hooked up to life support...but she kind of made the decision for me and passed on
One thing though...even though she's unconscious...talk to your mother, hold her hand...even though they are in that unconscious or coma like state and can't respond to you...they CAN hear you--I talked to my mom all the time while she was there
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@miamilady (4910)
• United States
8 Jan 08
My father, brother, sisters and I are all taking turns talking to her and being there with her.
I've been praying and hoping that we don't have to make that very difficult decision. No one can imagine how many different things can affect that decision, until you've experienced it first hand.
Thanks for your prayers and for sharing your experience with me.
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@nokia6233 (937)
• India
8 Jan 08
I have prayed for your mother...and even all these caring users have...
so take hope and believe that the best thing which is supposed to happen will definitely happen...
May God give you the courage and hope and belief to face everything which is happening right now and which is to happen....
And do let us know of her condition...
@berlay (40)
• Philippines
7 Jan 08
Our Father, you are our saviour, you are our guidance. I pray for miamilady's mom who's sick right now to please give her the strength, cure her oh Lord. Make her better. Have mercy upon her. Be with her Lord. Keep her safe. We know Lord, youre a merciful God. We come to you with thanksgiving in our hearts. Give her the mighty strenght. Please forgive her and forgive us for we do not know what we are doing. Thank you for gift of life. This is my/our prayer in your most gracious name. Amen.
@aquajules4 (583)
•
7 Jan 08
Hi
Can i ask what is wrong with your Mother?
I'm not really religious but i will be thinking of her and yourself. Please let us all know how she is going on.
This site is really good for getting lots of support. Please use us as much as you need.
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@nkhanna (922)
• India
7 Jan 08
i really can understand what you might be feeling at this point of time,since i too have been through this situation when my dad was ill and fighting for his life all alone in the ICU.i will definately pray for your mother and i am sure she will recover very fast.i know what parents are to us.just be brave so that you can support other members of your family and dont worry god is always there for people who are good.i wish you luck and may god bless you and your mother.she will definately get well soon.
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@JOSEPHONG1 (10)
• United States
7 Jan 08
Dear Miamilady..
My heart and compassion goes with u even though I may b a stranger to u but in the spiritual realms we r brother n sister in Christ(If u r a christian)..
I will pray to the Holy Trinity now..
Father hear the cries of ur child here,Oh God..
her mother is lying unconcious in the hospital for 8 days already..Console her Oh Father through YOUR HOLY SPIRIT Oh God that she will feel THE closeness of YOUR Love and YOUR CARE ...I pray all in the NAME of OUR LORD and SAVIOUR JESUS CHRIST..AMEN....Talk to her Girl she hears U..
Joseph
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