Have you been ignored without knowing why?

Hi Joey. I know how you feel. I get ignored all of the time. I just go about my business and try not to dwell on it too much because it never seems to change. I stay very busy online every day working and earning. I try to stay busy with Mylot along with some other sites I am joined with. I'm forgotten by alot of people also but it doesn't really bother me any more. I have enough to take care of on my own without having to worry about what they think or feel about me.

Not really! I think it normally does not happen with me that if I am in a gathering...I am going to be ignored. I try to make my presence felt over there. You can ask some of them....whom you consider close...why do not they remain in contact with you.

Who's ignoring you Joey? Do you want me to take care of them for you? hehe. If its someone you have regularly comunicated with, I would just come out and ask them. Something might be going on with them, its probably not you.

I am sorry you are feeling this way my friend, no I agree it is not nice to be ignored, I hate it myself, you start wondering if you have done something or said something wrong, it's the not knowing that's the worst thing, when friends suddenly choose to ignore you, you wonder if there is a conspiracy or gossip is going on behind your back about you and your friends can't even approach you to say is it true? Or know you that well that it couldn't be true. I sense a touch of melancholy my friend, at this time of the year we all get blue and 'down' Not everyone has forgotten you!

I know the feeling. I had 2 people I felt close to online. We spoke regularly. Well they became fast friends, and now I can't even get one of them to respond to my emails. The other does every once in a while. You have to just say c'est la vie and let it go. I may not be around 24/7 thanks to my job, kids and new house, but I am always here for you guys. I do my best anyway. Chin up Joey, we all love ya !!

Yep and other times I know why. This happened to me after I had my second child and quit my job to take care of him. On the rare occasion that I would go out with my "friends" I was out of the loop- they would talk about work and horror stories and I had none of my own to share. People that I once had everything in common with, I no longer do. Sometimes I think it was for the best anyway- I guess they weren't real friends to begin with. My real friends the couple I have they have stuck by me through everything and those are the ones that I cherish and choose to be around. Live and learn I guess.

Maybe you did or said something to offend somebody, perhaps without even realizing it. My advice to you would be to think back over the things you did and said right before you noticed people were ignoring you and ask yourself if there was anything offensive there.

I wouldn't be too worried about it. You are still the same nice guy no matter who ignores you. There is no conspiracy to forget Joey...lol. On this site, friends come and go.

yes it has happened many times with me. Not all but few people suddenly started ignoring me. It happened say about 2 yrs ago when my so called best friend suddenly started ignoring me. After taht I found taht he was at a point taking advantage of me. But still i have seen this later also when another friend suddenly stopped communicating with me.

I have been ignored by people but not by everyone. I always thought it was because I was not a membr of the 'in' crowd. You could ask them, if they were friends before why you have not heard from them. You probably would have been braver than what I was. Sometimes it is just a simple thing that they were busy, or they wrote down your phone number wrong.

Hi Joey, I am so sorry you are going through this... I certainly hope that I am not one of those people whom you think is ignoring you for I am not...I am not here a lot or time is limited when I am as I work four to five days a week outside the home and then have my special needs son who is a full time job as it is....There are a lot of discussions that I miss because of this and often spend a lot of time just weeding through my in box let alone answering all of the discussions I would like to...I don't want to sound like I am making excuses but a lot of my friends here know this and understand if I am not always in their discussions. As for me, I have experienced this also and know some other My Lotters that have felt this also and wondered where all of their friends were...It is just recently (the last month or so) that I have noticed more of my friends in my discussions versus strangers or new people....As for changing your look...You know I just did this and it has not lessened the responses in any way in fact it may have helped me...Anyway, you have had the same Avatar since day one so I know it is not that for you... Anyway, if I am one of those friends that you have felt has been ignoring you then I publicly apologize right here and hope that you can forgive me if this was the case! Valuing you friendship! ~Heavens~

Geez Joey, I am sorry to hear that. :( I hope I am not one of them. I am sure I am not. :P If you are referring to myLot in general, well, it may just be that people you are familiar with are not really active here anymore. A suggestion will be for you to make friends anew with the new users.=)

Yeah, I sometimes get that too! But once I tried approaching a co-worker and she explained that she was just busy (actually their whole team was busy so nobody was talking that much) so I quickly understood why they weren't that much lively to me as before. She apologized because of the fact that I thought they were ignoring me (of course I didn't do anything to offend them in any way). But its kinda strange when you feel that people are turning away from you. Make you think a lot about what you did or how other people reacted with the comments you made.

Ah, the silent treatment. Are you sure you did not post something offensive? If then, maybe they are just busy. It happened to me too. Online friends not responding...

Joey, life is very flouid. It keeps change and moving on. People are the same. We are constantly changing even though we are not always aware of the changes. It is part of growing. Our interest also keep changeing. After having been here for over a year I see a lot of people come and go. What I'm trying to say is to not feel hurt when people seem to ignore you. It's not you. It is just the way that life goes.

yes, joey, it happens at times. I was also ignored by some of my closes ones but a few days later, every thing was normal. i dont think it is your fault if they behave that way.

During this time of year peoples thoughts are with thier nearest and dearest and are catching up with what has been happening throughout the year, as this could be the only time they have to catch up. So they are not ignoring you as all our lives are accererating at a fast pace , so it is hard to do everything that we want to with the limited time that we have. Have a nice year from Deeeky.

Hi Joey, I'm sorry to hear about this, and really can't imagine that this is the case. I often have to tell 'myself' that life is very busy (which I do know), and these things aren't intentional. I responded to your 'friends here' topic, and like seeing you around, and hearing from you via discussion etc., too. Take care.

Well, yeah, I do feel ignored sometimes but I just try to think that they may be busy with something more exciting in their lives that corresponding with me. Haha! And I agree, I hate the feeling sometimes. But if there's something I have learned, it is never to jump into conclusions too easily or believe what I perceive the situation to be. When I was younger, I would readily just ask if someone who's been ignoring me is mad at me or if I did something wrong. Lately, I learned its usually better to just say hi first and then ask how they are doing and what they are so busy with that they're such snobs at the moment before I make my feelings or suspicions the center of the conversation LOL. :)

it happened on me when i was in high school. my attitude was like this, if you wanna ignore me then fine, i won't be begging for you to talk to me, i would love to ignore you either, just like what you're doing to me lol