An Obese Partner!!!

What I really want to know is what exactly you mean by: "There may be many examples around us but they are based on mutual understanding. Its not love in its true form." What I personally think is that you are biased. I think you're bitter about your weight and appearance and you're projecting your experiences to try to make yourself feel better about them. I was never ostrascized or mocked for my weight. For being smarter than everyone, yes. For my weight, no.

Its not obesity that prevents those people from finding someone - its their atitude. If they hide behind a book and try not to be noticed, they will stay unnoticed. There are plenty of tall and gawky or small girls/guys who are equally as unnoticed. I know plenty of overweight people who are happily married or have relationships because their partner was attracted to their humor, listening skills, and intelligence. Believe it or not, there are people who are actually attracted to bigger men or women. In my school, the heavier girl got more dates because she developed a sense of humor and was more outgoing. She learned very early on that to compete with the prettier, skinnier girls, she would have to be the girl people wanted to be around and I didn't get dates and i was in good shape.

I think you're being quite rude to a lot of people here. Are you insinuating that because I am overweight my husband of 31 years no longer loves me? I know he does, because we fell in love the right away -- because of what is inside, not outside. I've known a lot of overweight people who have had no problem finding people to love them. I've also known a lot of thin ones who aren't able to attract anyone. I'm hoping this is because people are looking deeper than the facade.

Obesity is one of the fastest growing problems in the world today.People turn to food to even overcome depression or atleast be distracted from it.It is a sad situation.The trend of the world has been entertaining skinny people as attractive etc.Commmercials do the best job of promoting this theory.So do movies,cover-pages of magazines etc.Because of this global trend and expectation, obese people tend to stray away from social groups,they lose their confidence& self-esteem.They don't even walk upright to face people.If love was all about looking good(looking thin and fit) then it is not love at all.LOVE IS NOT WHAT THE MOVIES PORTRAY TO BE.Love doesnt depend on meeting any sort of criteria.True love is for the person NOT FOR THEIR BODY,MONEY,INFLUENCE,TALENT etc.I believe the best form of love would be to have an obese partner and help him/her with love to lose that weight consistently in a very supportive environment.Like trying to enroll them in a gym,diet program etc and also join with them, not leaving the person alone in any way.Our bodies never will look the same.If it is going to be about the body, then after the wrinkles,extra pounds & age there will be no reason for love.IF LOOKS ARE THE REASON, ITS NOT LOVE,ITS INFATUATION.It will never last.

Yes, it is possible for any person to fall in love passionately with an obese partner. When we talk about love, it does not only talk about of having an affair with a person who has a nice and good-looking appearance. Sometimes, people do prefer to choose the inside beauty of the person and not the outside appearance only. :-)

falling in love has no limitations. so in one word it is "YES"

Of course it's possible for a person to fall in love with an obese person! Love in it's true form is never based on physical appearance. If you "love" someone for how they look, then you don't really love them at all. You're just infatuated or in lust with them, nothing more. If would stop loving your current partner due to an increase in weight, you don't truly love them, either. Love isn't present in any of that. You do not have to be in good shape to be given a chance in this world. Are some people judgemental? Yes! Is everyone like that? Of course not! Too many people blame the wrong thing when something doesn't go their way. It's usually a self-esteem issue that causes people to act that way or to hide themselves away. Self-esteem issues can come up in people of all different shapes and sizes, too. If you have a problem with yourself, fix it or accept it.

My partner is not thin by far, but nor is she severly obese. She is perfect in my eyes. A real goddess like form of curves and figure. I don't need a thin person to make me happy because I love my partner for who she is. I love her size but I love her for her. Size doesn't matter as much as who she is. My love's never going to change for her either because of how big she is.

Of course there are obese people who are loved. Mature adults are attracted to people's personalities as well as their bodies. Only the immature never get past the "industry standard" slim figures. Besides, obese people can be very passionate in their relationships.

While it's true that ppl who are obese carry a stigma with them in todays society...being in love with someone shouldn't have any bearing on their body shape. If that were the case, what would happen when someone gets old and is no longer "sexy"...do you kick them to the curb? There are alot of ppl that base their relationships on looks and physical appearance...I don't and many ppl I know don't. Looks, physical appearance, money, status...they can all change and fade away. What's inside, the type of person they are, your feelings those are what you should be looking at. My Hubby is a heavy person, as am I, but I love him for who he is and how he treats me. I really feel sorry for ppl that base their relationships on looks and physical appearance b/c eventually they will probably be old and alone while the young, good looking ppl are all out looking for other young, good looking ppl. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

"quote"There may be many examples around us but they are based on mutual understanding.Its not love in its true form. Everbody today are very body concious.Everyone wants to be prim and proper ands why not?? "end quote" what you are describing is not love in it's "True Form" as you say - but an opinion as to what is physically attractive. As opinions go, everyone has their own and they do not all match. Love in its "true form" is an act of the will and not a physical act. This mindset is very shallow, in my opinion.

I totally think it is possible to fall in love with an over weight person. Unless you are superficial. I was a chunky kid and then when I started sports I turned that fat into muscle but I was still bigger than all my friends. And I was picked on by the little cheerleader types until I made the cheerleading squad. They weren't calling me names when I was responsible for making sure their bony butts didn't hit the floor. Even today after having 4 kids I have managed to retain my "atletic" figure. I still have areas that I don't like but I don't dwell on them. My soon to be husband is a whopping 160 lbs. He is 6'2". My thighs are almost as thick as his waist. He loves every inch of me and me him. Some people are truly able to look past physical imperfections if there are other things there that attract them, like brains and personality.

You can tell true beauty of a person through the way they smile, the way their eyes crinkle so cutely when they are happy, by how often they laugh, by the way they treat people, the way they live by living and not just going through the motions. How much of that has to do with weight? or height? None. Just because someone has more body than the next person does NOT by any means make them ugly. Maybe you feel that all overweight people are unworthy of love and are unattractive because you feel that way about yourself. Just because someone is overweight does not always mean they have low self esteem. I think that by the sounds of it you need to work on your confidence and self esteem...and then you'll be fighting them off with a stick!! Everyone is beautiful. Its just a matter of getting them to see that about themselves. Good luck in the love stakes! xox

I think when the people interest one for the ones, it is that can be happy. It doesn't matter if it is obese or no, because when love exists everything goes well. Happiness