Talking... I really don't have anything else nice to say =)

My momma always said "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything". I do try to live that way. I get quiet when I get annoyed (most of the time), I can get loud and really tell someone what I think. I have to be pushed to do that. Most of my family knows when I get quiet to leave me alone. I don't like having to get loud with anyone, its upsetting to me and to them. Believe me when and if I do get loud the recipient knows I am peed off.

Hurting a persons feelings on purpose is probably not something most of us want to do. Sometimes it can't be helped and sometimes you don't know ahead of time if saying something might cause a person to feel hurt. Unless I have to say something, I don't. I might have to say goodbye to a girlfriend, knowing I will hurt her feelings, but it can't be helped. The other side of this coin is that if you are on the receiving end, you always have the choice to not be hurt by what someone says. You can chooose not to be offended. Speaking your mind is one thing and I think it can be different than deliberately hurting one's feelings.

For me it depends on the severity of what I have to say. I've always been known for being blunt, but have calmed down quite a bit on the bluntness scale.

I for the most part keep it to myself when i am angry or annoyed, or i complain to someone else that i know wont go back and tell the other pperson, someone who doesnt know the people involved. Just to get it off my chest so its not festering. It's good to let it out, but bad to let it blow up, a lot of times that backfires on you!!

yes that will be me. when i dont have anything nice to say then its better left unsaid. i dont want to upset people now ang have them turn against me.

I think I would find myself somewhere in the middle. I don't really like hurting other peoples feelings but yet a part of me want revenge when I am mad at someone. Generally though I let me emotions build up and its not good because it is then normally this one person that didn't do much but just happened to push me over the edge that hears it all.

Past experience tells me to keep quiet! I have exploded on a site some years back, where I was so incensed by what was going on, I couldn't contain my anger any more so I let rip and I did it big style, I got booted from the site, looking back I guess they had no choice, it made me feel good because I was seething, but I did regret it afterwards, particularly as I lost a bit of money I had accrued on the site, I should have waited to cash out first before my big tirade but I didn't think of it at the time. Now I'm a little older and a little wider it's best to keep my comments to myself, although having said that I haven't been in the situation where I just wanted to let rip, usually if I do feel cross I walk away!

Hi Joey, I would keep to myself and don't say anymore. I hate to be rude to people but you are right, it depends on who it is sometimes. I'll keep my mouth shut for as long as I can but if the person deserves to hear what I have to say, I'll let him or her have it.

I try to keep my mouth shut when someone is annoying me, but after a while if the problem does not stop, I have to say something because they drive me nuts. If someone needs me to be there for them, then I will always have something to say to them. I usually keep to myself but I will always be there to help someone. I will also only take so much from an annoying person and then I will have to speak my mind if the problem keeps going on.

Hi Joey It appears to me from what I have read,that a lot of people do not have any thing nice to say on here. Now I have given my opinion, and started discussion and have been very blunt.And every one has the choice or option to answer.If they are answering my discussions, I have no problem how they answer, the problem I have is when some one disagrees with you and some one else answers in the same space,like they are having a conversation about you. I will give you an example I asked a question about training children to behave, some people agreed and some didn't thats cool. but then this person who is new to mylot comes along and says Robinj has no patience,That to me is a personal attack, I stated clearly that my questions and answers are only my opinions and they can be ignored, why did this person come out of nowhere and attack me. I find a lot of this going on and to me it is not part of the discussion, and it was in the area where add to this discussion was not going to do any good because some one else disagrees with me and then this person threw their stuff in. And this the one big reason why I seldom post and soon will leave as well.

I Prefer not to hurt people's feelings as well Joey. Sometimes I have no other option. Sometimes I even hurt people without meaning. But I tend to say nothing if all I have to say is negative. If I feel strongly about something, and I need to say something, I will say it. However I will try my best to stay polite and non judgmental. Expressing my opinions without disrespecting the others.

When I am in a bad mood and feel like I just can't be nice I usually hide. Of course when you are trying to avoid people is when they will intentionally seek you out. This happened to me yesterday. I was feeling mean, I went and hid in my room and no matter what I did my husband was breathing down my neck. I was already mad at him. He knew this. When I am that mad, I REALLY have nothing nice to say. I told him to leave me alone. He wanted to "talk." He followed me around and it drove me crazy so I was rude and mean. He knows better, but still does it. If he would just give me the space I asked for...