My Next Door Neighbor ...

@birthlady (5609)
United States
October 29, 2006 3:06pm CST
carries a bible with him all the time,and quotes scripture to everyone he talks to, including me. The problem is that he lies, cheats on his girlfriend, and steals. He does not "walk the talk". What should I do?
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@kgwat70 (13388)
• United States
29 Oct 06
That is a tough situation to be in so I would just say take caution whatever you decide to do. Do you know his girlfriend well or talk to her? Maybe you should talk to her.
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@birthlady (5609)
• United States
29 Oct 06
Yes, I know her and talk to her, yet I am cautious as to whether I should mention this to her (don't kill the messanger type of caution!).
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@birthlady (5609)
• United States
14 Nov 06
Thank you for your thoughtful response.
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• United States
29 Oct 06
are you friends with his girlfriend? if so tell her.
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@birthlady (5609)
• United States
29 Oct 06
I am friends with her. She is very nice. Should I tell her he is cheating? Or should I tell her he is not what she thinks, in general?
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@birthlady (5609)
• United States
1 Dec 06
I did warn her, and she thanked me. Since I started this post, she has moved out.
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@sarah22 (3979)
• United States
13 Nov 06
yes, i would warn her about him and what hes doing. your her friend and she should know who he really is.
@phyxius (3464)
• United States
30 Oct 06
Bust his chops everytime he opens his mouth. He likes to use the Bible so turn it around on him and point out the things that he is doing wrong.
@AndreaM76 (1164)
• United States
30 Oct 06
I think instead of telling her, I'd ask him what the bible says about beng unfaithful and about hypocrites. He is a wolf in sheeps clothing. Pray for him and her.
@birthlady (5609)
• United States
31 Oct 06
Praying alot. Talking to him opens a big "can of worms"
• United States
30 Oct 06
nothing you can do abuot ppl like that because they think they are rightous and it will only cause probs the only eye opener you can offer "indirectley" is tell on him cheaters will always fail in life
• Canada
30 Oct 06
My goodness I hate people who don't pratice what they preach talk about a hypocryte...that guy must be but I agree with others there isn't much you can do about anothers actions...I would just ignore it...its not like hes gonna get into paradise faking gods work
@birthlady (5609)
• United States
14 Nov 06
Thank you, you're correct, there's nothing I can do about it.
• United States
29 Oct 06
Hey my niegbor does not like when I honk my horn at my kids
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@birthlady (5609)
• United States
29 Oct 06
Why not?
@Signal20 (2281)
• United States
7 Dec 06
That's a tough one. I know what I would do lol. I believe in God, have my own beliefs, and hate having that stuff crammed down my throat. Where I live, everyone's conversation turns into the same thing you described, trip to the grocery store, whatever. A trip to the garbage drop off yielded me the info that (this guys opinion now NOT mine) a certain race of people are caused by an incestuous relationship between Eve and one of her sons, or something like that. It's really pathetic. I usually just walk off from them now, don't even bother with the courteous uh huh uh huhs. Now if I had that happening everyday to me, and I knew for a fact the person was being a hypocrite, I'd call them on it. I'd throw it right back in their face and question them what God thinks of their behavior. But, the only problem, this guy may not be wrapped to tight, so you'll want to be careful about it. He sounds like he knows what he's doing is wrong, but is finding his scriptures and what not to twist into his own meanings to justify his behavior. Might be better off just avoiding him, don't want him to have a meltdown lol. 2 arguments you will never win with someone, Religion & Politics.
@birthlady (5609)
• United States
7 Dec 06
You're right about not being wound too tight, or maybe too tight!
• India
2 Dec 06
does his gf know about all that he actually does? if not i would say u better inform her about whats happening around her and that the guy is tricking her. do this only if ur close enough to the lady..if not its better to avoid this guy..
@birthlady (5609)
• United States
6 Dec 06
I did eventually tell her, she knew more than I thought. She moved out first, then he moved out.
• United States
6 Dec 06
I would call him out on it and ask him why he does it, does he have touretts or something?
@birthlady (5609)
• United States
6 Dec 06
LOL!
@disvachic (10117)
• United States
6 Dec 06
If I was in that situation and his girlfriend was a friend of mine then I would tell her.Far as him I would say something to him as to why is he being a hypocrite? If you want to say something to his girlfriend thats really up to you, some people get offended.If it was me I would talk to him.
@birthlady (5609)
• United States
6 Dec 06
After a long time of talking to him, I did talk to her. She already knew, she moved out, so did he!
@zotopec (307)
• Pakistan
6 Dec 06
Always laugh jestingly whenever he quotes!!! That should tell him something...
@birthlady (5609)
• United States
6 Dec 06
I've done that, he got mad.
@lifeis2good (1183)
• United States
7 Dec 06
I would have to say that reacting to this - would depend on how well you know them and/or are you close to them enough to feel comfortable to talk to either of them!!!! Sounds like he may have a much deeper issue within himself to be doing what he's doing in such a strange manner!!! I would definitely exercise caution with this situation!!!!
@birthlady (5609)
• United States
7 Dec 06
Thank you...
• United States
5 Dec 06
I guess you could try ignoring him? Maybe he thinks by doing that he will save himself? Doesn't sound like he should be preaching to anyone but himself!
@birthlady (5609)
• United States
6 Dec 06
I don't even think he listened to himself!
@GardenGerty (160708)
• United States
1 Dec 06
From reading your posts I can see that you spoke with the girlfriend and she listened. I surmise that she already had some doubts,so she did not get defensive with you. His Bible thumping and quoting is only camouflage for who he really is. If I am not mistaken Jesus said that even the devil can quote scripture for his own purposes. Unfortunately, your neighbor only helps make a strong argument for all of the people who say that the church or the belief is full of hypocrites. Of course it is better to be in a church with the hypocrites than in Hell with them. I would like to know how he justified living with his girlfriend if he is so well versed Biblically, as that is called fornication. He gives other spiritual people a bad name.
@birthlady (5609)
• United States
5 Dec 06
Yes, she knew in her own way what was going on. They've both gone their seperate ways now. I think he gives spiritual people a bad name, too.
@ktvgames (142)
• Pakistan
6 Dec 06
if u realize she is does not walk on the talk its a message for u that how bad does other feel when when told someone to act like that and u not
@birthlady (5609)
• United States
6 Dec 06
I think I understand you, its a message to me to not be a hypocrite myself, right?
@sevenseas (754)
• United States
1 Nov 06
I know people like that, but quite frankly, it's none of my busines. What they do before their God is between them and their God. I'm only responsible for my own personal actions - not theirs. So, if it were me, I would keep my judgements and opinions to myself and let him live his own life however he wants to. Maybe you'll see him in heaven on day or maybe you won't. Ha!
@birthlady (5609)
• United States
1 Nov 06
Good advice!
@sunrisekn (1466)
• United States
30 Oct 06
I absolutely have no patience for hypocricy. I would quote one of the ten commandments any time he says something to me--Thou shall not covet thy neighbors house, thou shall not covet they neighbors wife----you get my drift. And then tell say-May God bless you. Enough times of hearing that, he'll get the picture. Good luck!!
@birthlady (5609)
• United States
30 Oct 06
That's a good idea, I'll try that!
@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
11 Nov 06
When he starts quoting scripture to you, tell him he should practice what he preaches.
@birthlady (5609)
• United States
14 Nov 06
Thank you, I'll do that.
• United States
12 Nov 06
I guess I would just smile and walk by...
@birthlady (5609)
• United States
13 Nov 06
Thank you for responding...
• Singapore
11 Nov 06
if u know the gf, u should tell her everything. if you dont, the next time he tries to quote you from the bible, tell him off (by asking him outright about the cheating around stuff, ask him what the bible quote on adultery!) i believe he will get the message loud and clear!
@birthlady (5609)
• United States
11 Nov 06
thank you!
• United States
11 Nov 06
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It would all depend on your comfort level. How well do you know the guy?? If he talks to you about the Bible, scripture and all that, and you KNOW that he is doing these things, then why not bring that up? I'm not sure HOW exactly would be the best way to go about it...but, if you know him well enough, I would say something about living life as an example. He is not being a good example of what he supposedly believes. That, in and of itself, is not a good show of what someone who believes in and professes the Bible. Something is just not right with that picture.
@birthlady (5609)
• United States
14 Nov 06
Yes, something isn't right in that picture.