I still "look" fat.

I find this to be true of myself also. I even sometimes buy clothing too big. When I first lost all the weight, I was really bad about buying shirts too big. And it is about how you feel and not how you look really. That is what I think. You have to get to a point where you feel comfortable with yourself. I recently gained back 20 lbs due to a back injury. I feel huge. I don't feel like myself at all. I don't' know if you will ever stop seeing yourself as the person you were. I have not and it has been 2 years.

i was 250 pounds and lost over 100 then got pregnant. right now i am still around 90 pounds lighter, still chubby though, but not at all 250 pounds my self esteem is still at where it was when i was that large girl. i think it will take time maybe years but if you want your self esteem to get better it will believing in yourself will make that happen

Hi seamartin, congrats onthe weight loss. I think the problem is whar we expect to see after losing a lot of weight. I expected (though I knew better) to have one of those nice movie star bodies. When I looked in the mirror I still saw the same body shape. The same body that a lot of the women in my family has. Big hips and small tops. No matter how much weight i lose I still have the same shape so I don't feel like I have lost any weight. I don't know what a person can do to make you feel better about the shape that you have. I still struggle with mine. For one thing we need to stop letting the fashion industry and the movie media tellus what is beautiful.

I still have a ways to get to that point, so congrats for losing that weight. However I could see why that would be. You are too used to being heavy and that was comfortable to you at the time even though you hated it. But now that you are slimmer, you are having a hard time believing that you have lost this weight and may have a hard time accepting it. You may feel subconsciously that you don't deserve it but you do and you worked hard for it. So congrats, let your mind take time to get used to it and it will. Flaunt it!!!

Have you tried comparing pictures of yourself "before" and "after"? Maybe that will help you change your view of yourself. I don't know if you had weight loss surgery, but ,any people who've had weight loss surgery often continue see themselves as they were when they were big--much the same way anorexics see themselves. The key to success is to have a healthy self image; losing 50 or a 100 lbs won't make you a super model or give you firm abs, but if you are taking good care of yourself and are healthy and feel good, that is something to be proud of. I suggest seeking counseling to help you develop a healthy body image.

oh man its really difficult to losse weight ..i am trying to lossed weight since alst 3 months now ..its really easy to gain weight but not quick to lose it ...cheers

The psychological aspects of losing weight have not caught up with you yet. you saw yourself as big and disgusting for such a long period of time that it will take time for the new thinner you t instill itself in your ind. When you glance into a mirror and see the same big obese personstop and look at yourself deeply and for a while and note the changes to your face and to your body. Make yourself see these things, the changes ande allow yourself to feel good about the changes and about the new you.