Another discussion regarding my daughter Amanda (Ladies Only)
By SheliaLee
@SheliaLee (2736)
United States
January 20, 2008 4:31pm CST
A few months ago I started the discussion regarding the trauma my daughter went through at a flea market when a man exposed himself to her. My daughter has made it through these six months just wondering if they would ever arrest the man or if anything at all would be done. It took she and I both making several phone calls to the court house to talk to the assistant DA but the wheels are finally turning.
Yesterday when we returned home from the hospital after my uncle had passed away there was a notice on the door that my daughter is being summoned to appear in court to face this man on February 26. She is very nervous, of course, to have the face the man again but at the same time she is relieved to know that something is, hopefully, finally going to be done. We knew, of course, that he would deny the charges she made against him and that there was a strong possibility she would have to face him in court. Well, it has happened.
I ask all of you to please continue to pray for her that she will be strong during this time and keep her nerve up when she has to face this man. I have told her to stick to her guns and let this low life know that he can't treat a woman like he did and get away with it. Even if he don't serve a lot of time, if any, at least he will see that there is someone who is brave enough to stand up to him.
Thank you again for listening to me. God Bless each of you.
SheliaLee
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@tamararacine (268)
• United States
20 Jan 08
I will keep you and your family in my prayers. That is an awful thing to happen but she is very brave for going to court. Although, it will bring back painful memories, I believe it is necessary so he will not think he can get away with this.
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@SheliaLee (2736)
• United States
20 Jan 08
I appreciate so much your prayers for her and your response. I will be sure to tell her.
God Bless!
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@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
21 Jan 08
Will certainly be keeping your daughter in my prayers this must be a horrid thing for her to go through but I praise her for being strong and not letting this man get away with this behavior.
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
21 Jan 08
That's a great idea, printing these off and giving them to her to remind herself whenever she needs what a wonderful thing she is doing. I know many women who would not be strong enough to follow through - I am greatful for your daughter and for you doing such a wonderful job raising her a strong woman.
@SheliaLee (2736)
• United States
21 Jan 08
Thank you so much Faith! I'm going to let Amanda read these responses because I know it will give her much encouragement. Hope you have a wonderful and Blessed day!
SheliaLee
@byfaithonly (10698)
• United States
21 Jan 08
LOL - as I was posting that last response I spotted something that I just had to share. A dear friend of mine once told me 'laugh in the face of adversity' and I've lived my life like that for the most part - it does make the bad times not seem so bad.
What I spotted was the word 'exposed' just jumped off the screen at me from your original post... Yep, that's what is going to happen he exposed himself but your daughter is going to expose him for the creep he really is.
@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
21 Jan 08
Sweet first of all I am sorry to hear about your Uncle and you know my Love and thoughts are with you
Also Amanda is going to have to be very strong now and she needs all the support that she can get
She has mine from here and I will be with her in thoughts
It is going to be hard and Panic will rise in her but she has to keep it in her head that she will stop him doing this to someone else
I had to face him often as I could not tell anyone and he was Family and it was hard as all I wanted to do was go and hide and stop the Panic rising as I knew as soon as he would be on his own with me he would start
Amanda will be safe as there are a lot of People there and she will be strong I believe in her and it will take it out of her but once it is done she will feel a bit better because Justice is being done
She is not to panic if he looks at her if he denies it she has to keep the thought in her head that she will stop him doing this to someone else
She has to concentrate on that and focus on getting Justice
Tell her she is in my thoughts and that I will be with her in my thoughts very strong on the Day
Love and Hugs to you
You will have to be strong to Sweetie
@SheliaLee (2736)
• United States
21 Jan 08
Hi my dear friend! Thank you so much for your love and concern. You have shown so much for Amanda during this time and you have always been there for me during the tough times. I appreciate so much your friendship Gaby!!
You are right, and I'm going to give her all the support she needs as well as her dad and all our family. I couldn't hardly keep from laughing at her though. She said "Mama, you might need to sit in the back so you won't be tempted to punch him in the nose!" She is totally right on that too because it will be all I can do to keep myself from jumping up and pounding him really good. But I know I can't do that. Unfortunately my husband has to be out of town on the day she goes but he said it is probably for the best. I think he is afraid of what he would want to do himself. His blood pressure goes up whenever he thinks about I know because his face turns blood red. He doesn't show a lot of emotion, but when it comes to his kids he gets fighting mad like I do to think that someone is hurting or bothering them.
Lots of love and hugs to you sweetie and I'll be continuing to keep you posted.
Shelia
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@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
21 Jan 08
My best wishes to her at this critical juncture of her life. Pls let her know that as a woman, I am beside her mentally. Yes, even if the man doesn’t get to serve a long term, this will at least expose him to the world for the bast*ard that he is. A lot many people will see his true colours. And yes, she has to be very careful and no matter what they say, she should not buckle down. I would await further on this.
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@SheliaLee (2736)
• United States
21 Jan 08
Thank you so much. I agree with you entirely. I will keep you posted on what happens. I wish it wouldn't be another four weeks but unfortunately the law takes its time on things.
Have a wonderful day!
SheliaLee
@starmashgate40sg177 (252)
• United States
21 Jan 08
Its sad to think that there really are men out there like this. I hope your daughter will come out of this ok and that this man really will pay for the thing he has done and has probably done before.
I will pray for your daughter and I praise her for her bravery.
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@SheliaLee (2736)
• United States
21 Jan 08
I appreciate so much you taking time to response and for your concern. I will keep everyone posted as to the outcome. Have a wonderful and a blessed day!
SheliaLee
@subha12 (18441)
• India
21 Jan 08
i can understand what she has gone through all these days.we all pray for her that she can boldly face this man .he should be taught that he cant act like this with women. hope she will be able to face him in court.
best of luck to her.
@SheliaLee (2736)
• United States
21 Jan 08
I appreciate so much your support!! I will keep you posted as to what happens. I wish it wasn't going to be another four weeks because she is going to be a nervous wreck until then, but we just have to do the best we can.
God Bless and have a wonderful day!
SheliaLee
@marciascott (25529)
• United States
21 Jan 08
Hi Shelialee, tell you daughter don't be scared he deserves anything that he gets, he can't go around exposing his self-like that, Do you think he had a Mental Problem? He will probaly pled, Insanty or his Lawyer will do this, anyone one that does that is Insane. the Man is sick, I do think he should be punished for what he did. I am sorry for the lost of your Uncle. God Bless you too!
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@SheliaLee (2736)
• United States
21 Jan 08
Hi Marcia! Thank you so much hon. You know, I wondered the same thing, did he have a type of mental problem because he was hiding in the kitchen of the flea market when the police got there. If not a mental problem he sure as heck knew he was guilty didn't he? He is definitely a sick person.
Thank you for your sympathy too about my uncle hon. I hope you have a blessed day!!
SheliaLee
@SheliaLee (2736)
• United States
21 Jan 08
I appreciate so much your response and support!! I will keep you posted on what happens.
SheliaLee
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
26 Jan 08
I do not know how I would feel if a pervert exposed his private parts to me. I would be sick to my stomach and then I would get angry, so angry that how dare someone think I was a bimbo who loved to see that part of a man's anatomy who was not my husband. I would be so angry that I would stand in the court and they might have to be given a good talking to because I would also get mad at the defense attorney if he asked if I enjoyed it.
I pray that your daughter overcome her fear and that she puts that rat away so he does not do that to any other decent woman.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
23 Jan 08
Glad to hear she is taking it further and I hope they are able to get him convicted somehow. I hope she will be ok, you're in my prayers HUGS
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
20 Jan 08
I was wondering what had happened about this as I remember your discussions over what your daughter went through. No, going to court is never an easy thing, especially in regard to a case like this where your daughter will have to face that man again...but I do hope strict justice is served and he gets to pay for what he did and so that he can't ever do anything else like this again. Of course you have my prayers that your daughter will have the strength for her court appearances and that justice is done. (((hugs)))
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@SheliaLee (2736)
• United States
20 Jan 08
Thank you again dear friend and many HUGS back to you also!!
Love,
SheliaLee
@terri0824 (4991)
• United States
21 Jan 08
Yes, I do remember you posting a discussion about this awhile back. Glad something is finally coming out of it. I pray that Amanda has the strength that she needs to face this man and that God will receive honor and glory for this as well. May this experience draw her closer to the Lord in ways that she could never imagine, in Jesus Christ precious name. Amen.
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@SheliaLee (2736)
• United States
21 Jan 08
God Bless You Terri! You are a precious friend and that means so much. I will keep you posted on what happens.
Love and Hugs!
SheliaLee
@monochrome_lie (407)
• Canada
20 Jan 08
Wow, what a traumatic thing for your daughter to have gone through. I hope she gets what she finally deserves in court, and that this man is made to pay for his actions.
My prayers are with you and your family during this rough patch.
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@SheliaLee (2736)
• United States
20 Jan 08
I appreciate so much your response. When I started the other discussions all of you here on MyLot have were so supportive and it helped her so much when I let her read what everyone had to say. It will be a while but I will let everyone know what the outcome is. Have a Blessed evening!
SheliaLee
@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
21 Jan 08
I'm sorry that your daughter had to go through this and I hope the man responsible for this pain and stress gets put away for some time so that he does learn that you can't go doing this to women. I will keep your daughter in my thoughts and wishes.
