How many guys out there do the cooking? Care to comment anyone?

My response is going to be a fairly long one because it will have to start in our deeprooted traditional beliefs that are remotely linked to this and I will also have to walk down memory lane a lot.-a LONNNNG Lane indeed. I come from a family where the practices are male chauvinistic.Males do not even bother to wash their own tea/coffee cups or plates and walk away after finishing this expecting their wives or other females of the house to do this. I have seen my grandfathers, father , uncles,follow these practices. After I GOT MARRIED THE SCENARIO CHANGED SLIGHTLY. Here also, my fatherinlaw's mother used to indulge all the males of the house[Mind you I am talking of my eighty five year old fil's[]mother but it seems ,after my mother in law got married she brought in another code of conduct. She is an educated[a rare specimen of her times]woman , and believes in the equality of the sexes and hates male chauvinism. So, she brought up her son[my husband] with absolute clarity regarding dignity of labour,inculcated a lot of discipline in him and he knows every job.Till date he washes his cup, his clothes, his plate etc,,.HE ALSO KNOWS ALL THE BASICS OF COOKING RIGHT FROM KNEADING FLOUR FOR ROTIS OR MAKING RICE.'KNOWS' is the operative word see. But this wonderful story had a twist to it after I got married. For one, too much of discipline and training had had a negative impact on my husband ;he hates going into the kitchen or buying even essentials for the household.Thank God I was from a different upbringing [not declaring too much of equality despite being quite educated ]and donned the role of a sole kitchen queen wholeheartedly.My husband would not make himself even a single cup of coffee. In fact he knows the basics of cooking right from making rice to kneading flour for rotis.But 'knows' is different from 'does' you see. So let us go back to the story.He hates cooking or hates anything that has something to do with the kitchen management. [like buying grocery or vegetables or fruits]He gets up before me goes for a long walk and [unlike me who has to gulp down a large pot of tea first thing in the morning ]waits 2 to 3 hrs for his morning coffee. He gets up very early in the morning, some 2 to 3 hrs before me. I felt very guilty and suggested that he should make his coffee in the morning[so much for my guilt]but he does not mind waiting. So, the next best thing I have asked him is to go back to sleep after that long walk and then after I get up I make him his coffee. But, because he hates this kitchen work, he makes no demands whatsoever and has admirable levels of tolerance. Whether the meal is tasty or not depends on me and he will eat whatever is provided without a single complaint[poor thing!]I am a good cook and I take full charge of providing 3 meals a day. We are strict vegetarians and our staple food is rice /chapathi/ However, we have hired help to do work like washing vessels, cleaning the floor etc.., My husband is very modern in outlook ,believesin female equality and also that two partners should lead a peaceful life without treading on each other's toes. but here it is a clear demarcation of responsibilities. To tell you an important thing it is always difficult for two people to manage the kitchen[we have fresh meals prepared every day[we do not have much frozen food ] Since my husband and son are angels who never make any demand on me and are satisfied with whatever I provide I have no cause to complain. Only my mother-in-law used to be wistful that her son behaves this way now.[little realising that her extraordinary training has had this impact] My father knew to cook if the necessity arose. My fatherinlaw loves to cook and looks forward to my mil going away leaving him to his favourite preparations. In fact he rang me up and proudly shared details of his preparation of a veg stew when my mil was away. Nowadays, even when I go away on very short trips[rarely] my husband prefers to eat out, but father and son make their coffee/tea when i am not there.

oh noooooooooo I couldnt ever get Donald to cook for us. HE would burn it lol but I did teach him enough that he didnt starve when he was off on a job with out me . He could cook a mean steak in the microwave lol and he did learn to grill for himself but he was aleways glad when I choose to visit himon those jobs . Linda likes it when Jimmy fixes Breakfast for her but it is very very in between . I think it is always good for men to know how to cook My youngest Son loves to grill out and have parties! He and his wife also take turns cooking meals for they both work outside the home.

My husband often jokes about certain jobs that are strictly women's work. He has always helped with the housework, cooking and any other task that comes up. We share the duties equally. This was a strange thing for me to get used to. My first husband was one who believed that women did the housework and cooking. Now that I think back, I don't remember him cooking much at all. Forget about housework! Now that my hubby is unemployed he does all of the housework and most of the cooking. I nearly have to beg him to allow me to cook a meal!

When I met my husband, I really couldn't cook at all and had a hard time learning how to as well. My husband on the other hand was great at cooking and loved doing it. So, he taught me :) He adjusted to my learning style, which helped me to learn. I'm now just as good a cook as he is, but we have different strengths in the kitchen. We both cook in our house. Who cooks depends on the meal. We also cook together a lot, which is fun. I've never considered cooking to be a woman's job and never will, as I feel that's sexist. Who cooks in the house should be a decision between all people involved, not one based on old standards.

Hi, Yes I cook and bake. My wife has no problem with it and she likes the break. Especially on her day off I try to do the cooking. Where she works she cooks for the patients she takes care of so it's a good break for her. Most of the time I do alright (I've never screwed up the baking), but, more than once we've gone out to eat rather than eat what I've conconcted. That hasn't happened recently, but, there has been a few in that past that ... well ... I'd rather forget (but she has fun teasing me about). I mostly cook in the crockpot. Her favorite that I make is called a Hearty Breakfast Muffin...maybe we should start a discussion of our favorite recipes. Tony J.

Now you're talking! Who said that cooking was just made for women? I love to cook! I've cooked for ladies as well. A mixture of filipino, italian and mexican food - lumpia, squid, types of fish, pizza made by hand, tostadas, tacos, can't forget the salads of any type - chicken lemon grilled covered in oregano or my fish fillets and many other recipes I come up with. Guys out there ought to learn how to cook - women dig that in a good way!

I guess us guys can't have all the talent! For me it's a case of can't cook, won't cook! I hate cooking, I am a very lazy wolf and a very impatient wolf I hate waiting for food to cook, I hate all the preparation and all the mess and work afterwards, but that doesn't mean I survive on takeaways, I would much rather have a nice salad which is easy to prepare or an omelette in the Summer, in the winter I just stick a pie or meal in the oven and that's it! Anything that takes the mimimum amount of time. My ex (male) used to cook so I was lucky in that respect.

Hi Perspectives, This is a potentially multi-dimensional subject - many different angles are possible. Cooking is one method of food preparation. I do all my own food preparation, including cooking when necessary. I guess that places food preparation for me in the category of an essential but time-constrained task. That's different to someone who enjoys the creative aspects of culinary crafts, perhaps facilitated and even necessitated by domestic division of labor. Or demanded by the cook's clients. Not that I wouldn't enjoy the opportunity for creative expression and experimentation in the kitchen, there's just more pressing uses for my time. There's a base level of culinary utility necessary to deliver functional meals, which I suspect is the minimum standard driving the majority of domestic cooks - and then there's increasing quality and sophistication beyond that basic level, for those that choose to commit the time and resources. There's the basic task of food preparation to render it edible, and there's the higher grades of skill in [parallel but not necessarily synonymous paths of] cooking for recreational enjoyment and cooking to satisfy expectations. Your hubby sounds like he's in the second category there somewhere. There does seem to be a cultural mindset that women do the cooking at home, but that's obviously changing with time. It's also refreshing to see more women making inroads into the chef's profession in commercial establishments - it used to be a completely male-dominated profession.

I do all the cooking here in our house, my father used to but he's away. My mom's a terrible cook, so I obliged myself to learn cooking on a very young age!;) I learned from cooking shows, where men are mostly the cook. I also learned from watching others cooking, as I also worked on restaurants back then. For me, I do this because I want to show how much I love to serve and make our family healthy by preparing foods that I cook. I'm sure that you're hubby loves his work, especially the feeling of making our loved ones happy and healthy!;)

Hi dear! It sure sounds like David is really the man! Hehehe. He's a keeper alright, but I'm sure it also takes a wonderful wife to make your hubby the great husband that he is. He sounds like a very ideal husband. About men who cook, I think there are a great deal of them out there, we probably just tend to categorize women as the cook and housekeeper but in reality there are plenty of men who cook with passion much more than women. My husband is also one of these people. He loves to cook, it is his biggest passion. His dream is to be a chef someday, but with his present situation that being so busy with his small construction business, that has to remain a dream. Though at home he only cooks on special occasions for obvious reasons. Me on the other hand, has very limited knowledge on cooking. I have only recently taught myself how to cook. So, I guess cooking is not my forte.(=

Hubby enjoys cooking too, although I am the one who usually does it because I get home earlier. But on weekends he tends to be the cook for all of us:) I remember when it used to be more of a gender thing - women cooked and men did the other manly things LOL although they always tended to have this specialty that they made really well and that they would cook to impress family and friends hehehe But I used to see that more in the older men. The ones from my generation were more open to cooking and actually enjoyed it more. Maybe I am wrong here, but most men I know do cook - and well:)

My (late) husband was an excellent cook, and in fact, I believe, better than me. He made a fabulous turkey dinner, with homemade stuffing, and all of the trimmings. He also made 'the best shepherd's pie' I've ever tasted, and a wonderful beef stew. The first time he cooked for me, I was astonished, as he kept his secret well. He also made delicious breakfasts complete with homefries. I once totally embarassed myself, although I didn't know this at the time. I'd had a very busy day, and was totally wiped out, so I asked him "If he'd be capable of making us some hot dogs and Kraft dinner." He said nothing, and happily obliged, even asking me to check the KD etc., to see if he'd done it correctly. I was so humiliated when I realized (not long after this) what an awesome cook he really was. It became a 'standing joke' between us. As you can likely tell, he loved to cook. He'd let me do the cooking sometimes, and his favourite of mine, were my chicken and dumplings. You've got a real gem 'in David,' as it does seem to be a rare thing. Enjoy all of the delicious meals that you and your friend are being pampered with.:) Thanks for the very interesting discussion.

My husband does the cooking for things we both eat. I cook but its on the healthy side - lots of vegetables, sometimes some tofu, protein pasta or mung bean pasta. And he likes to cook. On weekends he'll make a dish or two to last the week. He just made delicious sloppy joes - but not too sloppy. Probably the first meat I've had in a long time, tasted good though and no sloppy sauce! He wants to take classes eventually. I think its great and never argue when he wants to this or pitch in elsewhere, its hard sometimes with a baby.

Im a guy and I can cook a lot of things. I don't enjoy it a lot, but I like to cook for other people. A guy wanting to cook every meal is perfectly normal. Or maybe he is just being nice to you because he cares.

Hey, Sounds like you have a great husband there and we should all be jealous..lol. My husband never cooks for me, his idea of feeding me when my back was out and I was bedridden for a week was apples that all. He says it is a womans job to do the cooking. He does make himslef something on occasion when I am not home like a sandwich or opens a can of something. The only cooking he has done has been for his nephew and that is like eggs,spaghetti,ramen noodles easy things but he won't cook for me. He tries to get out of it with his nephew by passing the chore onto me and sometimes that works and others it doesn't.My husband brother cooks a few times a week and so does my other brother in laws, My brother cooks everyday breakfast and lunch and helps with dinner. He is always out of the bed with the kids early and feeds them and lets his wife sleep in everyday and most times he willgive her breakfast in bed so she doesn't have to get up. I would love for my husband to do that for me. Maybe one day...I guess I can dream and wish..Lucky you for having such a great and understanding husband.

Well... I had to start cooking for myself at age 19 after arriving in Australia. At 21... I got a girlfriend who did love cooking... and I learned a few tricks from her. But with like everything I do... I am a quick learner and can do anything if I put my mind to it. I don't really enjoy cooking. I do it by necessity. I keep it very simple... but at the same time only use premium ingredients... and only cook the food that I really love. I don't eat much... but everything I eat needs to taste great. You won't find me trying new recipees from a cook book. Cooking is not my hobby. However... whenever I cook dinner for my friends... they all love my cooking... and usually steal my recipees. lol

My hubby is a better cook than me and enjoys cooking too. I hate cooking LOL and can only do the basics. I have never enjoyed it at all. I actually cook most of our simple meals during the week and he cooks in the weekends.

Hey Raia... I cook. Here's a few points of proof. http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1259957.aspx - Recipes I’m proud of http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1280393.aspx - German/Oktoberfest http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1269707.aspx - Pancakes help/recipes http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1296496.aspx - Slowcooking winters I. Can. Cook. I've been doing it for years, even in childhood though that was more difficult due to "craze" parenting (if you don't know what I'm talking about think of this equation: kid + hot stove + 400F oven + sharp knives = no -_-). I still snuck in plenty of chances and even got to cook a few things out in the open. I thought it was peculiar I wasn't allowed to cook, but looking at the "equation" and just being older I can understand it a bit. For your other questions like do gals find it strange and such, I'll answer from some experiences of my own and others. Some gals do want their guys to cook but I've seen others think its weird. The best ones are the ones that want their guys too cook but still think it weird or unmanly if their boyfriend/husband did... (and people wonder why I approach relationships with more caution -_- no one's in the mood for this nonsense).

My hubby loves to cook also and does so a lot. On the weekends he always does all the cooking and I do the cleaning up after him. He makes the biggest mess I have ever seen anyone make in the kitchen. He uses every pot and utensil in the house. He has more spices on the stove and counter than on the food. He has more fat and spices on the floor by the stove than anyone I know. But I don't care. I just clean it all up when he's done and I never say anything to him about it. If I ever do same something he may never want to cook again. He is an excellent cook and loves to play around with different recipes. They almost always turn out very good but once in awhile he creates something unedible. And that's okay too, he is having fun and that's all that matters.

My boyfriend does most of the cooking here. He has alot of different recipes. I am usually the plain jane when it comes to cooking.