Will you require your lover share housework ?

Right now I'm in a small apartment with my boyfriend. He helps sometimes but I'm the one who cleans the majority of the time and I'm getting sick of it. I do all the cooking and I'm definitely sick of that so I will push him to do more. I want someone who's going to help 50/50. I refuse to do all the work all the time. It's not fair for one person who eats half the food and makes half to mess to sit around on their a$$ and do nothing.

yup, i think that housework should be shared equally between the wife and husband. it's the wife and husband's responsibility to take care after their own home anyway. can't just let one person do everything while the other just relax and not lending a hand.

they have to look after one and other and i shall like this that my lover will helop me or husband and wife look after one an othere

I will require shared housework. Don't even try any shaming on it or anything. Hmph. Part of me things things will be worse among couples with this issue. Not only that, do people consider ALL domestic chores or only choice ones? In another discussion no one really answered my question there about other domestic chores people (namely wives) don't even consider (i.e. gardening, yardwork/mowing, heavy yardwork/pruning heavy landscaping, home repair, craftsmanship, autowork). I just say both genders should be considerate of the other spouse, what they do and what the other requests.

well I dont work so I do do most of the housework but I also have my step son and fiance help me with chores everyday b/c just b/c im staying at home doesnt mean i still have to work 24/7 I still need a day off to. I made a chore list and we all do the chores on there frankly the house stays much cleaner this way than it did b4.

well, I will throw a guy's opinion in on this one. I think housework should be shared. I don't do as much of that sort of thing as I should, but I don't mind helping out. I get home later in the evenings than my wife does, but I help out when I can. She usually has most stuff done before I get home, so I get let off the hook for some things, but a husband should help out when he can.

Agreed with you. Husband and wife equally responcible to maitain our home. Home is a Temple, God is our love and we (husband & wife) are priest. So, We have to worked for our home together.

as far as i can see with my parents, they both share the household chores. mostly, my father do the cooking and my mom do the laundry. we do the other works at home like cleaning the house. but for me and my boyfriend, usually he does all the work. he even knows much work more than i do. he just wants me to sit down and relax and take care of our son.

honestly, i do. he knows i hate the dishes... and all water stuffs.. but i really love cooking. with the situation, both are working, well its a friendly advice to get a nanny. the energy to reserve for working is much important than arguing and counting the work done. it will just boil the issue and both will blame each other for responsibilities not committed to do. anyways sometimes when im tired he does the washing of dishes.. i actually dont like the way he clean things. thats why if i can, i just clean it myself. cleaning the house and all of it, even if he helps or not, i dont really care. im not so demanding about household chores. not like my sisters, all of their husbands are under dog..^_^ i dont want that to happend. if i serve, i am happy even if it requires effort and energy. im proud of my willingness and my big heart for spoiling my beloved.^_^ take care!

i completely support you for this.Both work for the living. but in most cases, it is the wife who has to do all the household work, look after children and all. i think both should take responsibility equally not just the woman.

I'm married for almost 12 years now and my husband and I were helping each other he. He will take care of our little one if I do something, He clean the house also when he thinks I need help. Sometimes he cook. He is very supportive and I'm very thankfull that I have him in mylife.

Both people in a relationship should always equally do housework and both should equally relax...There should be one who does more around the house than the other.

I am not married.I lived with my parents.every day.I can do some housework.because I didn't want to see a tired mother.I want to make good effect to earn money.so that we can lived a little better.and can be not worried about the money we need.If I have more money I can do more thing for my parent.One day.I think I can share the housework with my wife.there is no reason that I can be lazy.

My husband and I share the house work. He washes the dishes and I put them away. He will sweep the floor and I will mop. He washes the clothes, yes he does, and I cook. I think it is only fair that since we both work that we both share the responsibilities. I don't think any man should assume that the home is the woman's place. Even if she does not work. The man should help out sometimes.

I think both husband and wife should help each other in the household work. I am currently not married, but I would certainly help my work in the household work. I think guys should learn cooking also. I certainly love cooking. I think boys can certainly help in small small things in the house. This will help to reduce the work of their wives.

Hi Cindy405777, When everything is shared why not housework and other words I do share house work with my wife. It gives me time to talk to my wife, share ideas, budgets and light moments. Good Luck.

It is not the way you think it... Not everyone is the same... As it for me, I don't want my wife to do the house work, but she have to do it anyway... And when I try to help, she just shooing me away... But, I am not allow my wife to go to work. Well, it's like I work to get money, and she spend it...

My husband knows that he is responsible for the housework as much if not more than I am. He takes half the responsibilities of all the cooking cleaning and the kids. I work and go to school and he only works so it is only right that he helps me out around the house. I am very vocal if doesn't do his share also and he knows it. I think he just finds it easier to help me do the chores than to listen to my mouth if he doesn't do them. There are a lot of days on weekends and such that we will take the day and work on them together. That seems to make it go by a little bit faster.

If I can't do it , I will ask him for help . But I think my husband will come to help me if he is free .