What is the one thing you will never tolerate in a relationship

@winterose (39887)
Canada
January 23, 2008 11:17am CST
what is that one thing that you will never tolerate in a relationship, the one thing that would make you opt out, for me it is infidelity
3 people like this
8 responses
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
24 Jan 08
I wouldn't tolerate someone who cheats on me or abuses me. I have been in those kinds of relationships way to many times but I am happily married now, thank God.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
24 Jan 08
thank god is right,
1 person likes this
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
24 Jan 08
do the kids get to see both of their natural parents?
1 person likes this
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
24 Jan 08
Yes. My husband was married for 17 years before we met. He was in the Army and his ex-wife cheated on him. they had 3 children also. They divorced and we met and eventually got married after 3 years. His ex also married the man she was cheating with even before my husband and I got married. Hope she is happy.... We sure are.
1 person likes this
@JJ4Ever (4693)
• United States
24 Jan 08
Plain and simple, I will NOT tolerate dishonesty in a relationship. If my significant other couldn't tell me the truth, I could definitely do better than him by finding someone else! My boyfriend and I have been together going on four years now. I'm so fortunate to have him in my life. My biggest pet peeve ever is dishonesty because of how it destroys relationships all the time. My boyfriend is the most honest and sincere person I've ever met. He's such a bad liar too! He physically cannot keep a secret from me. It's a curse sometimes to him (LOL), but he can't go to sleep at night knowing he's kept something from me. We'll be getting engaged soon. I have no idea how he's going to pull that one off to tell you the truth! I love him so much, though. I'm so appreciative that I have a man who will never let me down by giving in to my biggest pet peeve. This is the character trait I respect the most in him. This is why we are completely meant for each other. That's why I so strongly feel this way about a bad quality in a relationship. Excellent discussion, my friend.
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
24 Jan 08
right if your partner is dishonest then you don't have a real relationship only a fake one based on lies
1 person likes this
@JJ4Ever (4693)
• United States
30 Jan 08
You are so right! Thank you for best response. Thanks to your excellent discussions, I've found many posts I can relate to. Take care, my friend.
@Jemina (5770)
28 Jan 08
Well, for me there's not just one (Oh, my Buddha!) but since you're asking for only one I'll say hurting physically. That's one of them. I'm the person who is very careful not to even touch anyone even unintentionally. I don't know but I just can't bear people smacking me even if it's a joke. I easily flare up or my self-esteem is easily downed when it happens. But in a relationship, it's not just smacking I am referring to. I mean like husbands beating their wife. It's a No, no to me.
1 person likes this
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
28 Jan 08
I definitely agree with you there
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
23 Jan 08
Hi Rose, I think the one thing I couldn't tolerate in a relationship is the betrayal of a trust. I think this is a foundation stone that would be shattered and in fact never be the same again, I have seen several relationships go under for a betrayal of trust,.
1 person likes this
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
23 Jan 08
absolutely agree with you
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
24 Jan 08
Betrayal above all else. After that, entitlement is something I'm not fond of either. Combined it makes a grim picture in the dating/relationship scene in my view.
1 person likes this
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
24 Jan 08
yes that can get to be annoying for sure
• United States
23 Jan 08
yes lol me to cheating and lying is the worest ever. once you lose my trust you cant get it back or it is not easy to get it back.
1 person likes this
@winterose (39887)
• Canada
23 Jan 08
charmed I couldn't agree with you more
@jewel76 (2305)
• Canada
28 Jan 08
For me, either cheating or violence is unacceptable.
1 person likes this
@m3mema5 (90)
• United States
29 Jan 08
Trust is the most important thing in a relationship once it is broke than you woldnt be able to trust that person again no mateter how much they promoised never to do anything like that again.for onec the trust is gone there isnt anything let to build the relationship on
1 person likes this