I won't tolerate this!

I agree with you completely. I would hate it if a friend were talking behind my back because that wouldn't be a true friend. I would feel that I'd be better off without that person in my life. The thing I wouldn't tolerate between my friends is along the same lines. My biggest pet peeve is dishonesty. It would eat me up inside if I knew my "friend" was lying to me. No one gains anything by lying. Dishonesty destroys friendships, marriages, and any other relationship. I think it's sad when a friend can't give up something like that to save the friendship and to be sincere. I shouldn't have to wonder what my friends are up to or if they're going to do something I wouldn't like. Friends understand each other. That's what it's all about.

Hi Winterose, Nice to see you back. You are right we all have our faults and if we love and care for our friends we overlook their faults since we also have faults. The one thing I will not tolerate if my friends make racist and antisemitic comments or jokes. I tell them outright that it upsets me and please change the subject.

I would never like my friend talking behing my back. yup and a real friend would never do that.

i dont care how people feel about me i have probably about only 3 people i can call good friends. they are very respectful they dont talk about me behind my back i think but what i resent about potential friends or acquaintances or friends. they constantly complain about my love for animals u have 6 cats why do u want so many what are there worth dont they cost to much to keep your money could be spent on more constructive things. they dont realize its a part of me that will never change is my love for animals so let me have it it hurts noone and its my life. animals give unconditional love and they are there when u feel bad they try to distract me and make me feel better. so that is my biggest pet peeve is about people that i am friends with constantly making me be defensive about my likes. towards animals accept me for the way i am and its my life so stop obsessing on what i do with my money my basic needs are being met so what does it matter what i do with my money

i agree with you, if a freind is true and they have an issue with you they should be able to tell you face to face not gossip behind your back xxxx

Yes for sure and also stealing from you when they know all they have to do is ask and if you had it you would give it to them. I have lost al ot of people i thought where my friends do to them stealing from me.

that is the thing that i will not tolerate my friend talking behid my back, i really hate those kind of people.but sometimes i can say maybe they are sick so just i will leave them alone till they will stop,but not more of course.

I wouldn't be calling them a friend any longer if they did that. Unless you have something nice to say, don't say it at all is what my Mother used to say.

I have this best friend for 22 years and i avoided her when the time that she became bitter about her life and i was doing better with mine. The one thing that makes me stop seeing her is that she always discouraged me and she keeps on reminding me all the flaws that i had during our younger years, just to make her feel better with her current misfortunes. I guess this is the most intolerable thing that i couldn't stand.

I won't tolerate a friend who lies to me and talks about me behind my back. That is why I don't have any friends. I have tried to be friends with others but it just doesn't work. I just stay with my husband and daughter. they are all i need for the time being other than my Mylot friends like you. It is very hard to find a true friend these days. I have never had a true one.

Hi winterose, Welcome back. It's so nice to see you here again. For me, it's friends who have no understanding of 'where I'm coming from.' These are the fair weather friends, who are only interested in hearing the good things that are happening in my life. When there are problems, they just can't be bothered being there to show support, and to lend a listening ear. Most people have their hard times, and feeling there are those around 'one' can count on, is essential.

If my friends talk about me, I just hope it's complimentary. I think for the most part, it is. I have one friend who bellyaches about some of her other friends, so I'm sure she bellyaches about me. But we're not all perfect like her *sarcastic smile*

I agree with you that friends should not talk behind our backs but it would be better if they told u straight what they think about you and maybe you can learn from your mistakes as we are all humans and all have flaws. Thanks

The one thing that I will not tolerate from any friend is what I call the diet police mentality. the person who knows you are a diabetic and somehow thinks he or she has to tell you what he or she thinks you should or should not eat and does this loudly and longly. I always say when they say are you sure you should eat that? yes just watch me! I know what I can eat and any dessert is counted in the carb intake. yes I know what I should eat thank you very much.

I too won't tolerate being talked about behind my back and another thing I will not tolerate being lied too. True friends are honest and if they have something to say they say it to you not about you.

Hi winterose, I hate most are those dishonest friends who never keep their promise. I got a friend who refused to return the borrowed money to me though she was capable to do so. She understands that I am kind hearted and lenient so she dares to break her promise. She never realizes that she has lost a good friend but I just lost my money only.

The one thing I won't tolerate?? I don't know, it is my belief that everything is forgiveable. But I think I would have to have a sense of true repentance for some things. Repeat offences of something make me wonder if the person really wants to be my friend. One thing that super annoys me is when people who call themselves my friend show up only when they want something from me. These are people who don't respond to ivitations to get together unless they have something they want. As far as the earlier posts that said only saying nice things is boring----------well, I would rather be a bore than a mean spirited person.

I agree with you. I had a so called friend in high school who would flirt with my husband behind his back. She was a sl*t. She even slept with the husband of the lady she babysat for. She tried to get into everyones pants it was a contest for her or something. Not sure what she is up to now a days and I really don't care.

To hurt me thru my kids is what I cannot accept. It does happen probably not as much as the backstabbing your referring too. however, if a friend is talking behind your back they aren't really a friend at all being able to say anything to each other is a friend even if its upsetting a friend will want to hear it and listen to whatever you say. I lost a friend of 20 years or more. Do I miss her? yes, Do I still care about her? Yes. You don't give 20+ years to a friend and even if you both hurt each other you just can't help but still care about them even though you both messed up and hurt each other for different reasons the 20+ years you had together as friends never goes away. My advice find a real friend not one that can't say what they want to your face or vica versa. Take care..

I won't tolerate putting me down and saying: "I'm good, you're not". I won't tolerate his bragging about his accomplishments, like there was nobody like him.