Hold on to hate or give into love?

Hate is natural to us it's a defense mechanism. But too mush of it can destroy us. I don't want to be spiritual but as my God said "Love your enemy" give peace and show love because it will make you different to the person you hate. Remember Thieves hate its own kind.

This one will throw people for loops, but what posts of mine haven't? I can forgive (to extents)... but I DO NOT forget. This goes for former "loves" and for family too. I'm not one to be screwed with. Period. Of course this doesn't rule my life. I don't wake up thinking, "Gee how do I screwover [human scum I know] today?" or "Gee a few people messed with me, how do I take other people down a peg today?". No. This doesn't consume me and I live a very productive live. However, I won't forget, I forgive (in my own way), I learn, I become stronger from the hurt and know better from it. That's enough for me. And yes I realize just like other topics and posts this one won't really be agreed with. Maybe I am consumed, or maybe I'm something else (a few mylot members have been fond of calling me ogre, dark, etc). Fine.

hi there! well i had to let go... at first it was really hard for me to let go. i love him very much that even he is hurting me ([physically, emotionally, financially, morally), still i wanted him beside me. but i got tired. i just gave and gave so i had nothing left for myself. the only thing i can do for myself that time was cry, self=pity and anger for him. so i had to let go of him. yes, he did try to come back, but i told myself, i have nothing to give anymore, i am burned out, what's left for myself are all ashes from all his doings. i denied him and never let him back again.

The best thing to do is to overcome the feeling of this grudge and try and view the person in a different light so as to be able to forgive and move on. One should remember if one is treated badly, then it shows the other person in poor light. But if one reacts to it and holds a grudge and tries to bite back, then even he's casting himself in poor light. Just because someone is bad doesnt mean we should be bad as well. If we remember the goodness in ourselves then we'll know that the way forward is by forgiving.

I despised my ex very much, for breaking up our family by cheating on a regular basis,although I have realized by despising him so much I was unable to move on. It has been 6 years and I'm just now trying to make a future for myself and let go of the past.

Ya i had been many such situations ... I never Frown or react to such situations...I am able to retain my friends because i am calm and poised on such situations.... when two people are there and one is so angry then the other should be calm and wait for them to cool down... then gently ask sorry for whatever your act made them do so... Later they will surely feel for that and its chance to increase ur understanding between people and friends... all the best

I suppose the best thing is to let it go. Sometimes people hurt you and don't even realize it. They do or say things that they think is alright in their mind, and have no idea that it offends you. Most people don't do things just to bother you, I have found that out over my lifetime. They have their reasons for doing the things they do, maybe we just do not understand what is in their minds.

I've never forgiven anyone I considered to be an "enemy". I'm a very intense person and if I feel someone has wronged me, they better stay as far away from me as they can. Case in point: I haven't spoken to my in-laws in over a year.

There was a time in my life where I was living with a man who I eventually dispised. I found the easiest way to deal with having to see him every day was to pee in his roll on deoderant. Certainly made the morning routine of him running round naked trying to get dressed a little easier on the eye! I suppose the mayonnaise in his moisturiser was going a little too far.....

Knowing it is wrong sometimes isn't enough to forgive. I have hated and i have forgave, all we can do as humans is be the better person. Consider it storage for when maybe somebody hates and won't forgive you. If we just hate or never forgive the same will be given to us. The definition of your situation is very vague, it is impossible to get proper input when you are skimming the surface. Love is a word tossed around, it is a special person who earns or deserves that feeling of love, a friend or family!

Knowing it is wrong sometimes isn't enough to forgive. I have hated and i have forgave, all we can do as humans is be the better person. Consider it storage for when maybe somebody hates and won't forgive you. If we just hate or never forgive the same will be given to us. The definition of your situation is very vague, it is impossible to get proper input when you are skimming the surface. Love is a word tossed around, it is a special person who earns or deserves that feeling of love, a friend or family!