If you have just one child, do you tend to spoil him/her ?

parents loves to do that, but some parents know the limitation and some parents dont. it is very nice feeling when we give what our child needs but there is some point that as long as the child does not lose his/her respect towards the parents then i think it is okay. i've seen a lot of brat and spoiled kids and they have no respect on their parents. it is very sad to see that after the parent gave what that kid needs thats all they can get. i have for children and i give them what they want as long as i can.

i don't have a kid yet but i always imagine how will i raise my kid once i have one. i think there will be a tendency that i will spoil my kid if i only have one. i'm already spoiling my little nephew, what more if he was my own? ^__^;; i guess its because since there is only one kid, there is no division of attention, no half-half, and all the love and protection goes to only one. so there is a tendency to spoil the kid. but then, seeing how my other nieces and nephew grew like spoiled brats, i also imagine how will i discipline my kid and prevent him from growing like a brat. ^__^ i think you are doing great with your kid if he now understood everything you've done before. what matters is if your kid grew a responsible person even if he threw tantrums when he was young. ^__^

no i won't... even though i only have one child, i will teach him/her how to struggle and fight to be able to survive in this world since he/she is a child... by spoiling the child, i steal the fighting spirit from him/her and hence ruining his/her chances to survive in this world when i am not in this world anymore...

Im 23 and I have a 2 yrs old Devil.... I personally think now for sure that kids are born with there own way to be. If i have enought money to buy him a truck that he like I will give it to him.Now im not working and when we go to the store he still picks up the nice trucks and while were walking to the casher i talk to him and hopfull take the truck away so he forgets about it. His father is not in our lives so it all on me im the good and bad guy. So I feel bad that scence his father isnt here he can have all the trucks in the world. Im not to hard on him just when ive said no about 20 times do not touch and i lose it. I say no no dont do that danger and he dosent get it he keeps touching and smiles at me. I have slap his hand for smaking me or slaping me across the face and some times I just cry... I tell no or to stop and that it not nice to hit mom or anyone but give him 5 mints and There we are again..... I wish They had mom classes of how to raise ur child cause i feel liek I Have lost my batle.

Nope! Even though I only have 1 child I still will not spoiled him/her. I even send him in the military to learn basic survival. hehehe

I also only have one child. She is only 3 years old though. My husband and I tried for several years to conceive. We decided to adopt our daughter. She is a spoiled child but we try not to let her be a "spoiled brat". She does get alot but if we can't afford it she doesn't get it. We love her and try to give her as much as possible. But, not overboard. It is really hard especially when you wait so long for a child. I want her to be happy. Also, I think that I do this because I didn't have alot growing up. I don't think you are alone. As one person told me "It isn't spoiled, it is being loved".

i have only daughter too, she's 4 yrs old now, like i bought her everything she wants, only if necessary. If not and i can't afford to buy it, i explained it to her. With her age she understands. You know in bringing up kids, you just have to be fair and be open to what is reality. Explaining to our children and telling them the truth won't do anything wrong. You just have to be honest and i think everything will turn out right and everything will give good outcome for them. We want the best for our children but we have to explain to them everything single details and causes of what they have done and we have done as well. Noone is a perfect parent...we just want to show them our love..but parents have different ways of how they will raise their children and i'm proud of you for bringing up your kid a better person now. Congrats to you, pal! Keep it up!

i am an only child, though now a mother of two girls (we decided to have more than one) my hubby thinks i am horribly spoiled, but it is very hard not to spoil an only child because there IS only one child. btw-i hate being an only child!!!!!!

I currently have only one child... and spoiling is a no no... i have seen the ill effects of spoiling children... so i vowed never to raise my daughter that way... i give her the best that i can give from what i can afford... other than that we have to make do with what is available... Unconditional love for our children does not mean spoiling them rotten...

I don't think so. Actually I think I just have only one child in my life. As spoiling a child means you will ruin his/her life. If you want him/her to depend on himself/herself in the future, you have to be careful not to solve all things for your child. If you love him/her, then you shouldn't spoil him/her.

Well I think you are doing a good job. I am a single parent and I advise her that there are times when she thinks she must or should ahve something and the cash will not be there. SO she asks me first if I have money and then explains what she wants/needs. You have done your best and I guess some people give their children an overdose of everything because they dont want to feel as failures as parents but I would prefer to be as me or you. Keep up the good job.

Hi ketybhagat, You have absolutely done what a mother has to do. Let it be single child or 3 children it should be the way a mom has to bring them up. So, please be proud of what you have done and stick to it. Good Luck.

I don't think that it really matters how many kids you have...to an extent they are all spoiled especially at birth, but i have to say that i did finally get my girl. i have two boys that are 9 and 8 and an almost two year old girl. she is definitely the most spoiled out of all of them because i dreamed so long and prayed so hard for a girl. way to spoiled though. she thinks she is supposed to get everything she wants and that is a bad thing at this early of an age cause it means it can only get worse if i don't get it under control.

I try to give my daughter what she wants to an extent or go out of my way to buy her things that I know she will like. However, if I can't afford it or she starts to throw a fit she gets nothing. I do not tolerate tantrums and that sort of thing. I am having another one in a few months though so she will no longer be the only child.

I have a dughter and she is my only child. I try to give her the best of things that I never had but I don't spoil her rotten either. I teach her to respect, and to work hard to earn things. I can't afford to actually, totally spoil her either but she has more than what I have ever had and got to do more things also. She has a job now and she is working on saving up money to buy her own used car and she will have to pay her own insurance also. I think it is better when you teach your child responsibility. I would do almost anything for her but she has to learn to try for herself and respect it all.

i make it a point not to spoil my babies because i have in my mind that once i spoil them, ill be the one who will be hard-up in raising them..and they will be of pity because of their spoilt attitude..