I've had an affair with a married man plus I'm engaged?

Do you love your Fiance? You two have been together a long time without getting married. Do you really want to marry him? If you want to marry him them I would forget the other man. If you don't want to marry him, I think it would be time to leave and explore other options. I would forget about the other man though. You both know it isn't love but it is hurting people. So why continue? It is easy for me to say this because I don't have the emotions behind it like you do. It is a tough thing for anyone to go through and I wish you the best of luck with your situation.

yes it is very corricual issue and i think if u are in affair with a married man and also have an engagement. Then u have to be faithful with ur engagement becaue u have to live the life with him not the martried man just rel;ax and leave him i advise u this.

Hello there, I'm moved by your confession and i do appreciate it. Let go of the married guy. If it's not love between you both then why stay plus you're doing bad thing and you destroyed his family. I understand that you sometimes get tempted to do such things, i know some women that feels the same. 1 out of a million couple who has the same situation you both have are successful. if there's many, i don't think God will permit you to heaven. Hey it's okay to make mistake once but it's a total sin if you're doing it over and over again. good luck to your life and be happy. :)

hello. i already had an experience with a married man. i suggest that if you are not happy with your fiancee, tell him, yes, he might get hurt, but why prolong the agony? sooner or later, he will find it out and still will get hurt. it's better if he hears it from you. get out of the relationship once and for all, to both of them... look for yourself first. i mean, give yourself time to be alone and search for what do you really want and what will make you happy. you will be miserable for the rest of your life if you will do this mistake for not choosing what is the best for you. what is important is that, you are happy with your partner.

you cannot sail on both ship at the same time. you've been with your fiance for 10 years that's been a very long relationship and now you're being sour about it? a reason maybe why you look and find for someone else. maybe you're seeking for a new adventure to your life or cant find future on your relationship with him coz being together for too long without marriage sometimes makes you feel restless. it is okey to find for someone else whom will makes you happy and will fullfill all your dreams...but the fact that the person is married, aside from being unfair to your fiance you are also being unfair with the family of that man. i just hope his children did not blame you for what had happen to their parents. coz it is very hard for the children to see their parents fighting because of a third party and see their family be broken apart. i just wish you make more thinking about it. and look deeper into yourself and keep on seeking... on what your really wanted for your life.

I would suggest that you drop both men and find out what it is that is driving you to do this. Being in relationships is an important responsibility, and there is obviously something holding you back from making a committment. It is important for you to figure out who you are and what you want from life before continuing a pattern such as this. It is not only unfair to the men, but it is unfair to yourself. You know that having an affair is wrong, so do the right thing and end it now!

My advice would be to break away from both of them... If you weren't happy with your fiancee and you've been engaged for 10 years maybe you shouldn't marry him or at least take a break? I would take some time for you to figure things out before getting with someone again. Good luck in your decisions. :)

i'm not in the position to judge any person's doing, and actually i don't easily judge other people, i was born broadminded and i believe we are responsible for our own actions. however if you would take my advice i would tell you to think back long and hard and decide who you really want to be with for the rest of your life, if you feel you really love your "affair" then maybe its high time for you to end your 10 years relationship immediately so as to let your man find another person who can love him the way he deserves to be love. if on the other hand you think you love your fiance more than your "affair", i bet you already know by now what to do. End your relationship right before your fiance finds out and end yours.

Since you have been with your fiancee the length of time you have it will be hard to break it off. The first thing I would do is think about my true feelings for your fiancee. If it is love it would have been evident in your long relationship. If it is not love and you can not see yourselves many years from now spending your entire lives together even into the elderly lives together. It would be good to sit him down and discuss with him how you feel. It is only fair that you two talk about it. Both of you need the beautiful expression of love in your lives and it sounds like it is not there. I would tell the other man that you need some space and not to get in touch with you. That if you want to get together with him again you will let him know. Take time out to delve into yourself and see what you want out of life.

None of us here can judge you as we are not perfect too. Do what your heart and your mind tells you to. Listen to both your heart and mind and not just one of them. If both your heart and mind speak in the same frequency, the chances of your decision being a right one is high. You are an adult and I'm sure you know what is the right thing to do. The problem now is whether you want to do it or not.

The best advice I can give is to tell him. It's gonna hurt him, but he needs to know. You can't carry that burden around with you the rest of your life and this obviously happened for a reason. You need to tell him and if he breaks things off, or you do, you need to take some time for yourself to find out what you really want. don't just jump straight into another relationship. it's not good and will only cause heartbreak in the end. keep us posted and God bless

I don't want to be judgemental here because I am also I girl and I don't know what the future holds for me........Let me ask you one question....What has made the two of you engaged for this long without getting married? Which one of you is not commited to this relationship? If you find the answers of the above questions then u will know what is pulling you apart. After all that has happened, I think it is not good for you to tell your fiancee what has been going because this is going to really hurt him more. I could advice you to leave this other married married man because you don't feel love for each other and concentrate on your relationship fully.....pick up the pieces and forget that nothing has happened before. And if you also don't love your fiancee anymore then you will have to drop both of them and start a road to your emotional and spiritual healing. I wish you all the best and less drama in this your dilemma.

Do you love your fiancee? If so then work it out with him. Tell him what you have been doing and stop doing it. I think it is only fair to be upfront with your fiancee before you marry him. What if he finds out about it after you are married? It will be even more devasting than if you talked about it before you got married. But you do need to break it off with this other guy if you want to work it out with your fiancee.

I am going to go out on that limb again and I hate it. It is very lonesome out here, but, Hey!!I think Sparkle and some other people are hitting the answer right on target. People are caring about you but I'm worried bishu_sinha. First, I want to get something out of the way. If that is your picture at 32 yrs of age, you have the gift of beauty so you are alot more fortunate than ugly people like me that have to pay someone to go out with me. That is a true gift to be very thankful for. I know, I know, beauty is only skin deep, but that is all the further you have been in relationships so far, so be thankful that you have not really been in love yet. I am not being sarcastic or "smart" with you. I want to be honest here. For your sake and the love for your daughter, get away from men for a while...maybe a year or two. I don't think that you necessarily hooked up with the wrong men, I just think you need time to grow. When you meet the right man or women, you will definitely know it. So in the mean time get to know yourself better. What do you like in a boy, a man, a daughter, a mother, a father, a friend. I don't think that you know right now. I think that you have had a mother and a father taking care of you because they love you, but sometimes we do the wrong things in the name of love without meaning to. Get an apartment on your own, a job at Burger King or the local pizza shop and support yourself and your daughter for a year or two. You could probably get any handsome man right now but again, when you bump in to the person that your creator made for you, you will know it. I got so much I want to say to you, but I think you just need to live life w/o a "lover" for a little while so you can get to know yourself. Remember, I'm a guy, so I am probably totally wrong here. Good luck beautiful and take care of your daughter. You will be fine.

oh dear,you are in a mess.forget both of them and start your life afresh.

hi dear quite complex situation i wonder what to say as if ur curent boy friend told everything about u to his wife, then what i can say ur finance is not giving u proper time so whatever y decide, think about it, check pros and cons and then go for it take care