Why would anyone think that this is the right thing to do?

We are both well versed in what can happen is you wait too long. He knows I would rather have a kid now rather than latter. His main issue is finishing college; second on that list is that he is afraid that he will get "stuck" at the job he is at now (which he loves and makes a lot of money at, but isn't his "dream job"). I would rather have a child now because I can afford to stay home (I work mainly to humor him), his job now is be better than the one his degree will get him, and my son is almost nine.

lol everyone else thinks differant but me, thats ok i dont care. my mom had an accident with me if she didnt i wouldnt be here.

wow, you are lucky that even works. I have heard lots of horror stories with that method not working at all. In fact it is touted as one of the ways most people do get pregnant since there can be sperm in the precum.

yea i know thats why i always hope for that precum sperm LOL but oh well i know the reason he wants to wait is b/c he wants to be more finacially stabel which is understanding im just impatiant. but yea im amazed that its working

His main issue is finishing college; second on that list is that he is afraid that he will get "stuck" at the job he is at now (which he loves and makes a lot of money at, but isn't his "dream job"). I would rather have a child now because I can afford to stay home (I work mainly to humor him), his job now is be better than the one his degree will get him, and my son is almost nine.

He isn't worried about the money. He just doesn't want kids right now. He keeps saying "When I finish college" but he hasn't even started going back to school yet. This summer we are suppose to get a house (just to save us money over rent) and he will be back in school. I figure I will start working on him again about it towards the end of the year. Either we will come to an agreement or we won't, its okay either way.

His main issue is finishing college; second on that list is that he is afraid that he will get "stuck" at the job he is at now (which he loves and makes a lot of money at, but isn't his "dream job"). Which I can understand, but his "dream job" is probably not more than just a dream and not a well paying on at that. I am not looking to necessarily change his mind at this point, just either push him closer to being okay with it or us both come to the decision to not have kids so that some thing permanent can be done.

I dont think that having kids would hinder him from finishing college and getting a good job but if he doesn't want a baby yet then try to understand him. If you are eager to have one,then talk to him about it. Some people become more inspired if they have kids but then again, everyone has their own preferences.

The thing is, I already have a 9 yr old that lives with us. So I don't want to wait because the age difference is already too large. Honestly, if I have to wait I probably just won't have another child and on some level I am okay with that because I will be over 30 and I would rather not have kids more than 10 years apart.

I totally get what you're saying. I didnt have my first born, til I was 32. And after he was born I was deadset against having another baby because I didnt want to have back to back kids. I knew I would have to wait a few years and I didn't want to have kids when I was 35 or older. But surprise surprise..at 35 I was pregnant again. I was a little scared because of my age. But my little girl is truly a gift for God and I am soooo glad I decided to have her...35 years old didn't really matter. As far as the age difference between your two kids, I don't think that will be as big a factor as you are afraid of. To my way of thinking, it may acutally be a plus. At 9, your other child can help out with the baby, may be above all the jealousy younger kids can sometimes feel when a new child is brought into the family. Have you talked to your 9 year old and asked when he thinks about have a brother or a sister. My mother was 11 years older than my aunt. She treated her like own kid instead of a big sister. My aunt always tells me that my mom was like her mother. It may not be as awful as you think it may be. I say being how your husband doesn't want any at the moment, this will give you all some time to take a step back and really think and plan this all through. And believe me I am not telling you to do this in any way shape or form. What works for one person, doesn't always work for another. You need to do what is right for you, your family and your situation.