Do you see your self becoming more like your parents as you get older.

I hope to NEVER become like my mother. Don't get me wrong, I love her to no end but she has some mental problems that carried over from my grandmother. I have it too but I have sense enough to know when I'm in the wrong and apologize for it my mother doesn't and God rest her soul but neither did my grandmother. Talking about dysfuntional family, whew! yeah we're apart of that title but one has to be smart enough to break the cycle which is what I've done. I will say this though, people say I look like her, act like her and talk like her but in my mind I'm thinking, yeah if you only knew what went on behind closed doors! They'd sing a different tune. Mom has good intentions but when it comes to her three kids, she's a totally different person especially behind closed doors.

Robin I see my creativity from my mom in me and my work ethics from my dad. My twin sister looks like my mom and my older sister looks like our father. My sisters and I have a strong work ethics and we get that from our father.

OMG That is scary I definitely do NOT want to turn into my father, who, at the age of 63 sits in front of the tv for 15 hours a day! Is overweight, smokes too much, drinks too much and eats too much!! He has a devil may care attitude and sadly doesn't live life to the full. I can definitely see myself in mum, however I have already seen that years ago, from the behaviour of attracting bullies into our lives! We are both sensitive and soft. I look like a male version of my mum!

Most definitely Robin! I cringe sometimes when I say something and then realize I've said it exactly how my mother used to say it - the exact same words in the exact same tone of voice! At those times, my hubby says "boy, you look just like your mother"! I look like my dad, but when I'm angry, I look and sound like my mother!

Actually I'm becoming less like my parents as I get older. My Dad has always been and still is, very very active...I'm somewhat active. My Mom is completely unorganized and has trouble finding most everything...I'm overly organized and tend to be able to find most everything. So far as beliefs...those yes, I tend to follow my parents for the most part. Speech patterns are more after my Mom than anyone b/c I've spent so much time growing up with her. **AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~

Hi RobinJ, Every one on this earth has to undergo an age process and getting genetical gestures or behaviours are so natural that one have to be his mom or dad. But we may not be able to see ourselves but others who are watching us can defenitely able to recognise that. Some of my family members and friends used to tell me that I look like my father and I am talking like my father. Good Luck.

Oh yes. Though I always felt I looked like my dad, when I was about 18, I started looking more like my mom...the features were similar and so were the mannerisms. But I also think and behave like my dad. After I had kids, I realized that I've started behaving like my mother a lot more than I would like. But that's how it is.

yes of course, a very good book that came out in the 70's was called my mother myself written by nancy friday and it explained all the psychological implications, many things we do uncontiously not realizing we are doing it. for example your present religious affialation do you choose it as an adult after investigating several options or is it just something that always was in your family and you haven't really thought that much about it is just is the way it is. sometimes we say we will never do something our parents and yet we don't them to our own horror, for example I said I would never yell at my children like I was yelled it guess what I woke up one day finding myself yelling at my son for something he had not done. our very first teachers are our parents or anyone who raised us, does it mean we have to be carbon copies of them of course not, we can make conscious choices to keep the good and throw out the bad.

I've been thinking of that since my teenage days, you know how adolescents confused these times. Though I am proud of how good my parents are, I always think of their short-comings. I may consider myself being like them in a nice way, take away all the sorrows I've experienced during those days and be a more better parent to my kids. I'll give them care, I'll become a better father, I won't allow them to experience those bad things I've suffered from my parents by the way they discipline me. I'll give them and provide them all the BEST that I can, were I could be atleast proud for that part in my life..

Aside from the physical resemblance, which is becoming more evident, I am not becoming more like my parents - either one. I have worked hard all my life at NOT being like them - the negative remarks, the self absorption, narrow outlook. In fact, I wonder if some of my choices were based on a need to be different from them, rather than a rational life choice. As I age, I am getting more introspective, which is a thing I wish I had done years ago.

Right now, I find myself exactly what my mom did when we were still young. Since I have retired from work, I do all the household chores including the laundry, ironing and all the cleaning in the house. I used to ignore my mom's tiresome jobs on those years, and now I come to realize it's really a tough job to be a plain housewife.

I am a 49 yr old woman now and I've been told I walk just like my father!! I look like a taller version of my mother. My aunt actually called me by her name 10 yrs ago.I often find myself sounding and acting just like my parents.

From a very young age I saw traits in me that were similar to my parents. As I get older that has just become more so. I especially noticed it after I became a parent. The similarities between me and my parents on how I treat the kids is similar. I was brought up well and cared for, so it's not a bad thing that I am similar. I have to add though that I try hard to be different from my parents when it comes to bad habits. I'm not always successful, but the effort pays off now and then.

Hi Robin, Your post is so true! Not only do I see the physical resemblance, I am also starting to sound like her. When lecturing my kids the other day, my son said , "You sound just like grandma!" and he was so right. I swore I would be different when I was adult, but I'm not. I tell my kids the same thing, you guys are going to sound just like me one day.

The older I'm getting, the more I look like my mother. Even my son says, "Wow. you look just like grandma!" I remember when I was in my early 20's, mom and we 3 daughters took a picture together and we all looked alike. You could tell by looking we were related.

A fascinating and challenging question. I wish I had more time, but for now, just a small observation. I notice more and more recently, particularly when my knee jerk reaction to a situation is one which, upon reflection, I don't like, that the initial reaction is often one which my mother or father would have made. In other words it is an automatic learned, conditioned, response, imitative of their behavior. And as I gain the maturity to be more reserved, restrained, analytical, critical and objective in my thinking, my behavior becomes less "conditioned" and more "considered". I have long been aware of this circumstance with respect to "value judgments", but am becoming more and more aware of a parallel in reactive behavior.

Well,it is right we look like our parents.The day we born from that day family and friends start saying whether the baby look like father or mother.I think as the days passes we become their copy sometimes by their behaviour or sometimes by their nature.I think god has made the similarities so that we can understand the feelings of our parents.

i am turning into my mother her looks and even her actions. she was a great lady but some of her reactions to things were negative. i alway told myself i dont want to grow up and be like her always worried about the littlest things and well i became my mother. i am just like her. i sent my sister a picture of myself and she called me on the phone and said i look just like mom. i took another look at my picture and its true i do look just like her. I also had a friend from years back who hasnt seen me in years say the same thing "boy you look just like your mom"they said. i couldnt believe it but more and more everyday i know its true.

no, i dont really think i could see myself becoming more and more like my parents when i get older. because the goals i have set for myself are higher than where my parents are. i am not saying this with any disrespect towards my parents just i want them to be happy knowing that i was able to accomplish more in life than they could. that would make them proud. as far as beliefs, that will all probably stay the same but i will most likely not live in the same area as them. i love to be in populated areas where something is always going on and where they live and i live in the summer is just not right for me.