He is Failing!

i'm really concwerned on this ,right now i'll suggest see one child psychologist if this is happening for more than 6 months ,get him assessed ,it will help for sure ,talk to him ,not why he is doing bad in studies or homework,just try to know him better ,involve him ,pls' let us know from time to time how he is doing.reduce things but don't ban anything as it will cause negativity in him ,my brightest blessings.

well sometimes, children tend to rebel when their parents give some advice or tell them what to do. what's more your son is 11 now and he has his own thoughts and opinions. i think he's rebelling partly because he's been banned from doing those things. you could persuade him like maybe saying, well if you finish this, then i'll you watch this or do that. and no i don't hink you're being mean. sometimes we have to resort to that too. i too scold my son when he becomes lazy in doing his homework. he seems to understand when i am angry and when i'm not so he listens but of course he's still young. he doesn't have to do his homework for like 2 hours or something. so long as he seriously does his work and even finishes it within half an hour, then it's fine because it's practise makes perfect. but i'm kind of surprised that the school would fail him because he didn't do his homework. usually, they would counsel him and try to find out why he's behaving that way. i suggest that you talk to his teachers too, see how he is in class.

First, perhaps he should be tested for underlying problems such as lurking learning disability. These suckers can be subtle. They can lurk in the very brightest of people. Attention and organization problems can hatch out of borderline disabilities, and once diagnosed, they can be handled and the person with them can manage them then excel. It could be as simple as a lurking food allergy. * I've got them. Once I managed them, I wound up on the Deans' list then graduated college.

I never liked homework. I believe children should be free to pursue other interests in their free time. But a little bit of homework should be tolerable. I can see that you have implemented the necessary "punishments" like taking away his TV and video game privileges. I agree with that. But aside from punishments, you can also add a reward for doing homework or for improving his grades. Maybe he wants cash. Maybe you can offer a slight increase in his allowance. If you don't want to give cash it could be something else that he will like, depending on his interests.

Does your son like his teacher? I know a couple of years ago my grandson was like this he could do the work but wouldn't he also was ready to fail, come to find out he didn't like his teacher so he wouldn't turn in his work. This year he likes his teacher and he is doing much better. Good luck! I don't think your being mean at all, sometimes you have to take things to get theur attention.

That is hard because when I first read it I was thinking to myself take somethings away from him....but you have already tried that and you said that it hasn't worked....Is there anything that he has really wanted...because if so you could try and tell him that if he picks his grades up and does better in school, that he will get(what ever it is that he has been wanting)try that. That may actually get him to try more in school...I know that some people dont think that they should try and bribe their children but if you do this maybe he will see that doing his work and trying hard really does pay off in the long run!