he chosen me

I have been the wife and I have to tell you you did more than hurt her. But you were not alone in the hurting he has to be the responsible one ultimately. But can you tell me one thing if he left his wife of 17 years for you what makes you think he will stay with you? Wont he just stay until something better comes along? If he had been unhappy for so long why did he not do something sooner or better yet why not make an effort to make things better with his wife and kids? After being with the same man for 12 years I can promise you everyday is not sunshine and roses! But you work through the rough parts and be responsible for your own happiness. I think you have already tapped into the part of you that knows this relationship has little hope for success. Try and be strong and stick to what you know to be right! There is someone out there just for you! Who will not be walking out on his responsibilities. You are worth a man you can trust and know will not leave your family high and dry. Sounds like you are a christian woman, pray for strength and for a Godly spouse.

hi there, i have been follwing your story here and i am happy that he chose you! Now to answer your guilt, well i think you should get over it. Just for a moment imagine that he does go back to his wife, now tell me does she desreve good treatment from him after having tourted him for so long? and can he actually treat her so well after having so much with you? and lastly will it ever work out and will he be happy with it? I can understand why you are feeling bad here, but then you cant help it. you need to realise that you are not the one has caused all this..... it was his wife treating him badly that drove him away from her, and he coming accross you was just a coincidence of life. It may be hard for you to bear all this but if you actually force anything on him then its going to be harder on him. moreover in a way its his life...... you are not a part of the life he has with his wife so let him make decesions for it and for himself. Just stand by him because he still needs you. Dont feel guilty its not your fault. I hope you have a happy life with him!!

You say you are worlds a part, does that mean you live in different countries? You also say you have a year left in school, high school, or college? Sweet heart, it seems to me that you are much younger than this guy, and like anyone on the internet, you never know who you are dealing with. I could tell you my dog has three legs, but if you never saw that dog all you have is my word for it. This guy could tell you anything and if you don't personally know him, how do you know it's true? Did you watch him and his wife go to counseling? I am saying this because I know plenty of guys and girls that get on the internet and tell people stuff that is absolutely not true, my own brother does this, and I fuss at him all the time. Be very careful dear, he may not have even left his wife, and in the end, you don't know that anything he has told you about her is true.

You fall in love at the right person but at the wrong time & place. Time because it is not the right time for you knowing that he is married. Place because even if he chooses you over his wife, still you have no space because he & you hurts others' feelings - his wife & most probably children if they happened to have.

what i say is to follow your heart always, who knows what will happen in our life? who knows if your boyfriend will love your forever, you cannot control others, maybe one day there is no love left, just let it go,at least you have love deeply and truly in your life, which is enough for you to memorize. If i were the wife, if my husband has no feeling on me, i would like to leave him, because you cannot force him to love you, if you just use some responsibilities to control/keep him around you, are you sure you will be happy with it, i will be not, so just follow your heart, don't feel guilty, but i agree with u to wait a little bit, maybe to calm down first and ask yourself: are you sure you love him instead of only being moved by what he did? this is very important. I wish you can find your happiness. Because you deserve it.

well mamakatsarj, if you have regrets then you may need to reconsider your choices. for one thing he has kids which makes me to believe that he may be older than you. and if that's the case then you need to look else where for that special guy. second are you prepared to go on a life with him knowing that you not only hurt his wife but his children. and how do you feel about his children are you prepared to become an instant mother if you are not already one?