Bridesmaids asked to sign pre-nup

Well it is her day and if she wants to become a little Stalin about her bridal party, so be it.But she should know that there are many people, like me that will Never sign the agreement and will actually thank her for the out.Since I am not signing the agreement, then I don't have to wear a ugly dress and pretend that it is pretty. I could gain 50 pounds if I like and get knocked up with triplets if I want to. In fact if I am kicked out of the wedding party, I don't have to go to the wedding. Yeah. I rather stay home and watch a good hockey, if it is spring, or a good baseball game.

The bride is insane. But anybody who sign such an agreement is even more insane.

I once stood up for a girl because her boyfriend was my friend and no one else would do it. Being a bridesmaid is about friendship and support, not legal transactions. If someone had the audacity to ask me to be a bridesmaid and I turned up preggers or decided I wanted to be heavyset, then they had the nerve to tell me I couldn't be in the wedding because of it, that would cost them a friend for sure. I second your face/palm and raise you an indignant hmf.

Wow, that is riculous! While I don't particularly agree someone who made a commitment to a wedding should try and get pregnant at the same time, it does happen. I have known plenty of pregnant bridesmaids, they have to have the dress let out and its fine. I guess the problem is when that isn't possible. I don't know. Weddings cost A LOT of money. I had 8 bridesmaids in my wedding in 1996. I chose a long dress that looked pretty on everyone. One of my bridemaids broke a rib water skiing the morning of my wedding. She had her grandma let out her dress a little, wrapped her ribs and popped some pain pills. She walked down the aisle with glassy eyes, but she was there. I was never mad at her for doing something "dangerous" the morning of my wedding. I never would have dreamed of making any of them sign anything.

Oh my, this is serious! I am a bride to be but I dont think am going to do this. Marriage is about two people in love and nothing more. My wedding will not have bridesmaids, only maid of honor. I just want a simple thing.

The world sure is becoming a strange place. What ever happened to a wedding being about two people loving each other so much that nothing else mattered?

LOL I never heard of such a thing happening but having said that I know a few people who have had major fall outs over the whole bridesmaid thing. When I was daft enough to get married (many, many years ago now!) I only had one bridesmaid and that was my younger sister so it all went relatively smoothly. That was in the days before pre-nup agreements became commonplace anyway but I don't think I would go to those lengths!! There again I wouldn't be insane enough to spend £25000 on a wedding anyway. Madness!

Hello Progamer, If I was asked to be a bridesmaid, only if I would sign such an agreement, I would respectfully decline. Yes, I would find it offensive. Though, I would offer that organizing a big wedding is unbelievably stressful. And, given that the majority of big weddings are a year or more off in the future, so as to accomodate the lengthy coordination time, I can see the benefit of a legal contract as an alternative to the honor system. Having that little piece of paper might make a bridesmaid duly ponder and reconsider her plan to dye her hair blue a week before the wedding. I'm not a fan of big, ostentatious weddings. They strike me as way too much of a headache. Though, if the bride's family is willing to shell out many thousands of dollars for their desired event, I can understand why they would be rude enough to lock a candidate in as a contracted bridesmade or groomsman. 'Course, it'd be a very cold day in Hades before I ever agreed to such a fascist tactic. Oh well, I'm an old married lady, so no one is going to be asking me to attend them for their nuptuals anyway!

This even made the media in Australia. I think it's crap to be honest. In my much younger days, I had friends & my brothers fiance who also had "expectations" of bridesmaids, I could barely live up to. So things haven't changed. I viewed my two marriages as an opportunity for my friends to have a role that they would enjoy. They choose their outfit & hairstyle. In my second marriage, my daughter who was 12 at the time, was my bridesmaid. I just wanted her to be part of this wonderful day, T& there were no expectations. Many years ago my brother was supposed to be groomsman for his best friend. He broke his leg at football. The best friends fiance refused to have him in the wedding party, as crutches would spoil the photos!! Just where some people get their values from amazes me.

These pre-nups are so stupid, if you can't trust your soon to be spouse or your friends, then don't get married...

WOW you can count me out. ;) I wouldn't want to be part of a wedding that I had to sign a contract to be in!

god this is dumb ok im having a fun day but you cant have anyfun or i will get you LOL whats the big deal anyway. I use to want a big wedding now im settling for a redneck type of spring weddign (its actually going to be celtic and the person marrying us is going to dress up like merlin) Im going to get a cheap white spring dress and use it as a wedding dress. I have two brides maids one flower girl a ring boy and thats it. i dont care what my brides maids due after the wedding just as long as while were having the cerimony they just stand there (hell maybe ill make them sit down after they walk down the isle so its just me and him up there) this is stupid and i just went off on a total differant subject sorry. LOL you got me thinkign of my wedding.

WTF?!...Over... I guess living in this luxurious cave has it drawbacks. I thought bridesmaids and best men were chosen because of the closeness and trust of the friendship with the sucker - er - person to be wed. If I had a friend that I did not trust to "behave" as I wanted at my wedding, why on Earth would I invite them to begin with?! As far as looks, weight and so on, they are what they are. And they are there to wish me well on that day. If the guests gravitate to the "maids" and "men" instead of the bride and doomed - er - groom, then I would have to say that my choices in who to invite needed serious editing before the Holy deadlock -(damn)- um, wedlock. I really can't believe the seriousness of these brides to be. So much vanity. So much insecurity. And all on the day that they (allegedly) dedicate the rest of their lives to the only one who's opinion of them should matter. Well, enough of that. I've got some pictographs to complete.

Omgoodness. I've heard of "bridezillas" before but this is over the top. I am not a fan of huge weddings myself-I never dreamt of my "big day" or anything like that. I think a wedding is a moment to share with your partner and maybe a few loved ones...a celebration-not a production. Please forgive my rantings. I've been around some insane brides in my life. Ironically their marriages lasted less time than it did to dream up and plan the wedding-go figure.