how good you are as a wife?

I've only been married two years this time around, but was married for 8 years in the 1980's. I think you love your husband very much in your own way. And since he's not "spoiled", he probably enjoys any nice thing you do for him. You are equals in business and in marriage. If you made a drastic change, he might think something was amiss. But if you feel you'd like to pamper him more, take little steps, like bringing his coffee to him in the morning, or cooking him a special meal once a week. My husband is an angel, too, so when I go into the kitchen and prepare him a special omelet for breakfast or pasta at night, it really makes his day. You can stop in Walgreens from time to time and get him a card telling him you love him. Remember, women, in general, need respect, and men need appreciation. That would be good for both of you.

I am not a good wife. I know this. I am too selfish of a person to have to take care of someone else. I know it is sad but that's the way it is. I kind of regret getting married just for this fact. Hey at least I am being honest.

I can't say that I am perfect by any means. I am sure I have neglected my duties as a wife on different occasions. However, overall, I have to say that I think I do a pretty good job. I don't get to spend much time with him, but I run the house while he is gone and I make sure everything is in order so he has no worries while he is overseas.

I think you should ask my husband about this question. But I do always try to be a good wife for my husband. but still sometimes I got comments or complaint about few small things. Then if that happen I always said to my husband .. that no body's perfect. I will try to be better every day.

I think that love is the answer of being a good wife. When you love your husband, you do everything whith pleasure, you are never tired, you love to give him everything he likes, you adore to spoil him. That's whay I do. I show him my love in everything I do and I believe I'm a good wife.

I think that being a good wife is more than just putting the toothpaste on your husbands brush ( which I don't do or would never do). You are there for your husband, you raise his children and it sounds like he has no complaints. I say as long as he is happy with how you are then you shouldn't worry about it. If he had some complaints then maybe you two would need to talk, but he sounds just fine with the wife that you are. I feel like I am a good wife to my husband. I clean for him, cook for him and take care of the children we have. Like you I may not be as attentive as I was when we first got together, but I think that happens in most marriages. Sometime life just gets in the way. He works all day, comes home, spends about 2 or 3 hours with us and then heads for bed. I'm up at 5:30 with the baby, and going non stop most of the day til I put the kids to bed. We are both tired and worn out, there is no time for the little things we used to do, but we are both ok with that. Sometimes you have to sacrafice for the greater good. I say don't worry, enjoy your husband, children and your life.

i am a husband and i am living a married life and to me i think that a wife should be coperative to the husband and she has toi ake part in all the activities as her husband want so as they can live a hgappy married life other wise their may be some tension u know husband and wife are the two wheels of a car or any thing else.

i am a husband and i think wives have to cooperate with their hubsands in each and every thing. Muhammad Atif atifshahzad1@yahoo.com

The role of doting wives are a thing of the past. Both spouses work now and things are split 50/50. I am a wonderful wife, but somedays I come home tired and exhausted and I expect my husband to cook dinner. We both do our own laundry. I see it as my husband has two working arms and legs and can help out, he doesn't need me to butter his bread and peel him grapes. What makes a good wife is the love that is shared 24/7 not all the little things that we do for each other.

I used to be an excellent wife. I accepted him as he was and encouraged him to learn things he was told he could never do. There was a lot of things that he became good at with me showing him how to do them. He was always put down as a child and told he would never amount to anything so he had a really low self esteem. He began to find out that he could do way more than he even thought he could. Over the years I found out that he lies constantly and hides things from me. He has pretty much ruined our relationship and I know I am not being a good wife now. it is pretty hard to pamper someone who you don't trust and really have no feelings left for.

hmmm...i gave up my career and submit myself to him,i take care of the kids,make sure the house is always clean and the towels are fresh.i cook,i manage the garden,take care of the dogs what else?i help him spent his money,i charge all my shoppings to his name hahaha...i hope i can be a better wife in all its essence.im also married for almost 13 years now and we are both happy (i hope he is happy ;D )

I am exactly the same! I dont attend to my husbands every need and I dont do everything for him. I always feel guilty and feel that he deserves a lot more than I give him, we have 4 children and he goes to work full time, but still comes home and does his fair share in the house. I love him very much but I am not over affectionate like he is, I find it very hard to display my affections and I think this sometimes hurts him a little even though he knows this is how I am. I always say the same about being a good mum but I dont think I am a brilliant wife!!

I can relate to what you are saying, I think there is some sort of a myth regarding being a 'good wife'. I have to say that I feel under more pressure now that I am at home with our baby - however I think this is self inflicted and it doesn't stop me asking him to iron his own shirts, which he does.