My friend asked for advice, what is your opinion?

Woah! Maybe your friend was really looking pretty, so why not accept a compliment as genuine appreciation from another person. Why do people dress up, wear make up etc. if it was not to be appreciated by others?

I dont think its sleezy or creepy...He was paying her a compliment in a flirty but harmless way...I wouldnt worry about it at all..I honestly think you are both reading way too much into it...

I think it was just a comment because he liked the way she looked when she came into the store all dressed up..He may have meant it as a compliment,some people do not know how to express them selfs especially men..If he has never said anything else to her then i would just forget it,but if he ever says anything else all she has to do is say I am a happily married woman so forget it "buster"...i don't think her marriage would be compromised by his statement she has complete control over her marriage...No one can compromise your marriage unless you let them..I agree it was a tacky statement,but if he had told her she really looked nice that day, coming from a man you really never know how to take anything,if you know what i mean...I do not believe she is in any danger ...however i would hate to be his girlfriend,because he does not appear to be the faithful type making that sort of statement..I think your advice was good, just go on about her business and just forget it unless he says anything else..My husband had a friend that use to come to visit him that made statements to me like "Hello beautiful" and always tried to be noticed,i was married and happy but i just ignored him,he was married and had a wife and kids and i knew her as well,he was just a show off man,but he would not have taken it any further,he was just a loud mouth man...i came to realize that after a while.. He never made a play for me he was just that type with any woman..Tacky? yes but he was no problem...Just a show off...I can understand how a statement like that could make her feel uncomfortable, but if she makes a big deal out of it he might get encouraged,so i would just ignore it unless he ever says anything else...Some men or just flirts by nature and needs to be ignored or set straight...I bet if his girlfriend knew he said that she would be mad,but she is the one marrying him,so she should know how he is...and some women are dumb too, and if she knew she might just say "oh hes like that", i had that said to me once by a friend of mine who's husband called me on his lunch hour,so you never know about people..Had your friend not been so shocked by his statement, she could have told him then,,,'I don't think so ,your not my type..but we never think of those things when statements like that are made to you because it stuns you that they said it in the first place...I sure understand how your friend feels...

Sounds to be like your friend needs to see it for what it was a compliment. I love my s/o, but I've seen a really attractive man before and said things like 'if I was 20 years younger he'd be in trouble' or 'If he wasn't taken and I was single, I'd go out with him' Doesn't mean anything, it's just a way of making a compliment about the other person. I wouldn't leave my s/o for another man no matter how rich, handsome, etc he was.... but, we both still look at others and compliment others as well. I've even pointed out a beautiful woman and told him. She is really reading way more into it than need be, she needs to just let it go, and forget about it.

I know a lot of guys who make comments like that because they think it doesn't mean anything - and they are happily married, and I wouldn 't consider them sleezy men... My boyfriend would never make a comment like that because it's not in his nature to be...ummm...upfront like that. There are other words I could ahve used. PErsonally I think it is disrectful to flirt like that with anyone who is married or in a relationship. At work it's completely inappropriate! If he hasn't said anything else and if he isn't bothering her anymore I'm sure it was his way of giving her a compliment. Maybe he doesn't know how to do it any other way. I would tell her that if he says anything, or touches her to make her feel uncomfortable she should go to management, or even write an anonymous letter to management saying he needs to be talked to about harrassment awareness. Or, if she has the guts,just tell him. Dude that's not cool give it up or I'm going to the boss. Laugh smile. Let it go.

She should forget the comment and do not give attention to that fellow. On my city we say a serious woman is deaf which means we did not put attention on teasers. She can tell her husband and if he is jealous she will have a problem. The better way is to ignore but if he come back again she should say him she did not like that type of behaviour, correctly and without anger. Sometimes men start with a teaser both single or married only to know if the woman matches his desire but if she will ignores he has never tried again. They are coward.

it must be the right thing she do is to complain with management, so they can give the right action to that man.even he said only in a joke but she is already merried person even single need a respect from thier co-worker or anybody.complain is the best way for her or let her to talk with his husband.

It sounds like it was just a compliment. If he hasn't done or said anything else that's probably all it was & should be taken as such.

I haven't been in this situation either but I think you told her the right thing to do, wait for another comment and then inform him you are not interested.

Before WHAT gets out of hand? He paid her a compliment, and as nothing else has occurred, that's apparently all that was intended. She should accept it graciously and move on.

You are over reacting, making a mountain out of a mole hill. And so is the married woman. The co-worker was only trying to give the woman a compliment and she was too dumb to notice. He hasn't bothered her again and you can be sure he won't. Why? Because the foolish woman didn't acknowledge or thank him for his compliment. He feels regected and for good reason. Some women like to think the Sun rises and Sets on Them alone!

Boy do I think she is making something out of nothing! No disrespect intended but Is she serious? It sounds to me like she disrespected him as a person. He wasnt used to seeing her out of uniform or work clothes. He was giving her a compliment by saying what he did. Havent you ever joked with someone and said "You're lucky I am married or else?" I think everyone has done it in one way or another. Your friend seems a little nervous. If you think about it here is a guy saying wow you look great, youre lucky I have a girl cause Id ask you out, as a form of a compliment and she shi* all over it by saying I wouldnt date you no matter what the circumastance. That's not nice. If anything she should feel uncomfortable for putting him out there like that. I dont know either of the people involved personally so I am going on your posting but I really think she's being overly emotional. Tell her to take it as a compliment and nothing more. Even if he was being disrespectful, she can let him win by showing it bothered her. Leave him to his live-in and if he is a dog she'll find out. Just act as if nothing happened. This is the best way to have a comfortable work environment for all. Good Luck with your friend. Tell her she looks great no matter what she wears.

I think your friend is making a mountain out of a mole hill on this one. It's obvious the guy knows boundries. He said, "It's a good thing we both aren't single"... He was trying to compliment her on how nice she looked. If he hasn't made any other remarks, I would say he was just trying to be nice and make a compliment. He hasn't bothered her or said anything further. That is all it was. He said if they were both single he would be asking her out. He knew he was not single, and nor was she so that doesn't mean he was thinking that they should start something on the side. It was a simple compliment. Tell your friend to take a chill pill, accept it for what it was, a compliment, and move on. The guy was just being nice.

I also wouldnt know what to do, well also I am a guy... But I think you shouldnt worry about it maybe tell her to take it as a complimant or something like that. Its not like he wants to do anything else with her?? And he did only say it to her once... I say she should take it as a compliment. Hope this helped. All the best!

It is better to tell the man on face whatever she feels sternly.She doesn't need to create a scene.But she always can make him understand that she is not his cup of tea always without giving him any more ideas.

It may only have been supposed to be a compliment. I would do nothing unless he pursues things. I don't think he will. Men have a funny way of finding things to say. Just take it with a grain of salt this time.

well i guess it was just a sweet comment that means nothing to him(just like praising for her good looks that day)....just dont give him any hint or whatever that may means something to him..you know guys...

I think it sounds like it was meant as a compliment, and since he hasn't said or done anything since the comment, I would just leave it that way. Unless he makes further comments, I wouldn't worry! I agree with what you told her! Some men never stop the wandering eye. Not good for his future marriage.

If I were your friend, I would thank this person for his compliment, but at the same time, I will be wary of him because he is definitely sounding flirtatious. If this is a one-off thing and he does not continue to come on in this manner or make other insinuations in future, then I will not be too concerned. But if he persists despite knowing that both are married or attached, then more problems can be anticipated from this man. Well, only time will tell. It is best your friend keeps her distance and not encourage him in any way.

If he hasn't said anything since, then she should just ignore it. He may have just been joking and unaware that he's upset her. If he does carry on, then she should make it clear that she's not interested before going to management.