Did you ever have a crush on someone in Martial Arts class?

That must have been so-o-o cool! I envy you. I'm surprised it didn't work out, sounds like it was a nice relationship while it lasted. Thanks and take care.

When people are like 13 or 14, we call those puppy loves, so I guess that's a puppy crush. So you had a crush on two young men? Cute. Sometimes I wonder if all the people who think they went unnoticed by others really were unnoticed. 26, so that was 13 years ago. It is fun to look back and laugh sometimes. Thanks for your response and take care.

Ours was a club, we went to Martial Arts at the end of the day, so whatever people majored in, if they were interested in our style of Martial Arts, they were there. But some places are set-up differently. Take care

Up here, people tend to have a crush on everyone in the Martial Arts class. I was just wondering if we were the only ones. Most of the Black Belts were stand-offish enough to not become part of my massive number of Martial Arts crushes, but there was one my age who looked like a Model for Mountain Man Magazine. He was so handsome, on a scale of 1 - 10, he was 11. But I met his girlfriend. She also looks like a model. Can't compete with that, so I just concentrated on other guys. I would say to volunteer somewhere and meet people who are your age and have similar interests. Try to imagine him as ugly. Also try to see it as a lesson in humility, self-restraint, etc - all the good qualities of a Martial Artist. But do find some place where there are nice men your age (almost anywhere except a bar). Take care and thanks for your response. Let me know how this all works out.

Anonymiss, you have a great point, and that's just what I have been doing. I have concentrated in class and tried not to think of him as a crush, instead just as my instructor. I am working on my technique, and it's working. Good luck!

I am having a similar problem. I'm ten years older than one of the assistant instructors at my studio, and I know that this crush will go nowhere fast. He's tall with a nice body and it's hard not to notice him, especially when he comes close to me in class to instruct me. I know this crush is no good for obvious reasons. He's my instructor, he's younger, he hasn't truly lived life yet, he's very devoted to the martial arts while it's just an activity for me, and he likes a more age-appropriate girl in the class. So any attempt to try to pursue him would be preposterous and futile on my part. I like writersedge's idea of finding other things to occupy your mind and time like volunteering. The only thing I disagree with is attempting to consider your instructor ugly. Instead of doing that while in class, work on your class techniques and focus on them, and the focus will be less on your instructor. That and the volunteering are what I'm going to do so I can take the focus off my too young instructor and put it more towards working on myself and finding a more age-appropriate guy for me.

I think of crushes as unreturned love situations. Person can't help it. You really do have a rough situation annonymous. I hope that you find a group of people to hang out with outside of Martial Arts so you can find someone else to fall in love with. Here we have many groups, scrabble club, quiltmaking club (believe it or not, we have a few guys in it. A couple are gay and a couple are not), bowling, square dancing, dog training class, etc. Many hobbie groups and many volunteer opportunities like Habbitat for Humanity, Civil Air Patrol, etc.

Jeffrey, trust me. I did not sign up for my martial arts class with the intention of meeting guys. When I'd complain about being single and people would tell me "Why don't you get to know one of the guys in your class?" I'd be all "No way, Jose!" So this crush I have on my young instructor now is a shock to me. It just came out of nowhere. I was the type of person who never had crushes on instructors from academic school onward, and who kept certain relationships professional. It caught me off guard. It's not fun at all. I can't tell any of my friends in class about this because they'd laugh at me and ask me if I've lost my mind for having a crush on an 18-year-old. And I don't want the masters to find out and chastise me for this. It's just an uncomfortable situation for all and I hope I can find the strength to get over this guy and move on.

Just gave you a plus to try to help your star score and because I like what your wrote. I think crushes happen more than people know in Martial Arts. Only person to show up for a class? Wow! Every once in a while I run into my old Martial Arts buddies that are still in this area, the ones that left, I never see around. We call under teen age love, puppy love, so that must have been a puppy crush. It sounds like you really enjoyed Martial Arts. Check out my other Martial Arts discussions. I'm sure you can respond to many of them. Thanks and take care.

I'm pretty sure it was a puppy crush, haha. Thank you for giving me a plus, and for replying! But yes, I believe it's more than possible to get crushes or even find relationships in martial arts. After all, it's such a huge interest that can be a big part of your daily life. It's always more fun if you and your crush/S.O. shares your interests.

omg i have the same problem right now my instructor is 5 years older than me im 20 years old i relle like him so much and sometimes im the only one in class we graple and spar together and everything i mean we talk bout things but he is so fine and im not that pretty or whatever so sometimes i try to really like focus on class and not on him it dont always help lol but if something ever happended between us it be a miracle but also you fear about if u break up the pain of having to see them everyday becuase i go 6 days a week

That sounds sweet though, it never really went anywhere with most of us. I think person A would have a crush on B would had a crush on C who had one on D which since it wasn't reciprocated. . . that's why it never went anywhere. Cute and nice, that sounds neat. Thank you very much for sharing.

I was just curious to see if this is a widespread phenomenon or just in my area. Thank you for responding. Take care