Why do we Shout when we are angry or unhappy?
By poohgal
@poohgal (6845)
Singapore
February 11, 2008 12:18pm CST
Ever wonder why do people Shout when they are angry or unhappy? Usually in an argument, the person we are angry with is just beside us. If he is beside us, why do we still shout? Why couldn't we talk softly?
Well, I personally think it's because, when 2 persons argue or are unhappy/angry with each other, the distance between their hearts widened. No matter how near they are to each other physically, their hearts are actually far apart from each other. I guess that's the reason why they shout to each other. The angrier they get, the greater the distance between their hearts, the louder they shout.
The same logic applies to couples in love. Couples in love tend to whisper to each other. I guess it's because their hearts are very near each other and hence they do not shout to each other.
This is my reasoning. You may agree or disagree. =D
Do you have any other reasonings for this?
P.S If you never shout when you are angry/unhappy, good for you =D
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17 responses
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
12 Feb 08
Couples in love do shout to each other too, and in fact, much more louder than u see frenz or strangers shouting =D
It's just a natural instinct in humans to do that and set it as a warning to ple to let them know that i'm not in the right mood now..
Same like lions and tigers, they growl to scare ple away.. LOL
@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
12 Feb 08
Of course couples do shout at each other. But they only shout when they are arguing. When they argue, the distance between their hearts widened. I guess.. the deeper u love.. the deeper u hate too... =P
Anyway, I guess u growl like a lion when u r angry? LOL
@Angelwhispers (8978)
• United States
11 Feb 08
I do so love your analogy, here Poohgal. One think I might add is that when to people are yelling its often because they have a need to be heard. Perhaps you will hear me better if I raise my voice. Often actually it is the reverse that happens. When one yells and shouts the receiver ends up shutting down, and can not hear the individual words, but all he hears is the tone of the voice. No one is served. but this at all. You are so right the only way to resolve any matter of the heart, is calm communication.
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@pdonnie (11)
• Bahamas
11 Feb 08
I feel that people shout to express themselves. Shouting lets the other person know that you are not happy. Some people shout because they think by doing so they have the upper hand. However, shouting may well make the situation even worse because the person who you are shouting at may become hostile and retaliate.
@earncommunity (1183)
• India
12 Feb 08
yes you are right, but let me take it one step ahead, people in love really don't really have to communicate verbally, they can "tunnel" into each others brain, no proofs but thats what i really feel. As regards shouting i feel there can be different explanations, shouting is a defensive mechanism for some people who are about to loose an argument, in an argument there is a slight advantage for a person who has a louder and stronger voice. Shouting can happen if two people or any one of them are not able to follow each other and they run out of patience. Some people shout to show his/her authority. so we can easily say "Less understanding more voice" But i have seen myself shout while I'm happy...thats an exemption!
@tinkerick (1257)
• United States
11 Feb 08
We shout when we feel strong emotion I think because our the emotion causes our hormones/adrenaline to rise dramatically. When we feel this stimulation we naturally emphasis our speech and tone of voice. As a mother I admittedly shout at my kids when I feel they are not listening. And yes - I have the "whispered shout" for when in public places.
My husband always complains that I shout when we have an argument (which isn't that often) and it peeves me when he does that. Because I'm an emotional person, it's very hard for me to control my voice when I'm emphatic about something. -Tink
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@cakesei417 (51)
• Philippines
12 Feb 08
i think its because of the manifestation of our emotion.if you angry and the person in front of you doesn't listen,so!you've shouting because your so mad at that time.you just wanted to make it out that's why your shouting.shouting is good when your angry because its can less your bad emotion and your heart will be safe into heart attact,.just my opinion.how about you?is it ok to shout when your angry?
@poohgal (6845)
• Singapore
12 Feb 08
I think it's good to shout when you are angry. This helps to relieve the bad emotions in you. But I feel it's better not to shout at other people. This only makes the other person more angry and shout louder at you. I think it's better to go running or shout in the room when you are alone. =)
@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
12 Feb 08
when you shout during confrontation because you want to tell the one you confronting that you are right...maybe it will happen sometimes...but the main reason you want your bad feelings come out...it this won't happen it's like you were explode.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
14 Feb 08
i completely agree with you. in addition to this i also think that there is something that matters. when we are angry we shout as we want to prove our prevalence than the other person and want to be heard more than the other. its also my guess.
@anniepa (27955)
• United States
16 Feb 08
Your theory makes sense. I'd never really given it much thought before but it's something most of us do, especially when angry. It seems to happen naturally since even very small children raise their voices when they're angry or not getting their way so it's not just "learned behavior." This is one of those very thought-provoking topics about everyday events. Thanks!
Annie
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@lordwarwizard (35747)
• Singapore
18 Feb 08
I think it just depends on what kind of person you are.
You may shout when you are angry.
Others display their anger in a cold fury type.:P
@comeonmolly (828)
• China
18 Feb 08
Hi,there,
I am appreciate with your explation of why we shout..really special ..haha..
Personally.I think the reason why we shout when we got very angry is because our emotion at that time is really very bad..and we wanna to express or release that bad emotion...sometimes to set off bad emotions can make us more free than to hold that emotions on..But I do think that we should learn to endure the bad things that we confronted with..I remembered one person said to me that "the process of the endure is hard but the fruit of the tolerate is good"...
Molly;-)
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@I_LUV_U (2519)
• India
12 Feb 08
Well, that sounds rationally magnificent! I would agree with you on that one, not scientifically though.
My reasoning might be, they shout to scare away the other person involved in the conflict.
Lovers, I think they whisper because they are wary of eavesdroppers.
P.S: Yea, blood pressure raises above normal, otherwise.
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@xXxMikesWifeyxXx (3072)
• United States
16 Feb 08
I do not think that when you get into an argument you less each other less (hearts grow more apart)an argument can happen and literaly be over 5 minutes later.and everything is back to the same.
When we yell i feel that someimtes we are frustrated with the other person and are tone just changes, its not somthing we can control somtimes. I have caught myself using a rude tone with somoene and really did not mean it like that..
@nengs10 (3180)
• Philippines
12 Feb 08
Well I think why many people want to shout when they are angry is that, this is the the only way to express their feelings instead of hurting anybody,but I dont want people shout infront me when they are angry,maybe the best way is to go out and relax.
@tamz21 (67)
•
12 Feb 08
Sometimes when you shout its to make that person feel scared and intimidated, basically who has the loudest 'Raw'! when up-set and you start shouting thats to lash out on ppl you tend to love to show your up-set and hurt within. when i get unhappy or angry i dont shout straight away i go very quiet, whats worst because if that person carries on argueeing or making me unhappy i will just switch and then lash at them, but it takes a lot for someone to do that to me.
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@sutanhartanto (4122)
• Indonesia
12 Feb 08
Hmm, your logic makes sense. Btw, usually when I'm angry, I don't shout. Even I'll soften my voice, lower my tone, n I become apathetic and annoying. I don't know if it is better or worse than shouting :-)
