Big Changes Coming

Good luck with that, been there done that. I started over on my own at 44 after a 16 year marriage. Telling our youngest daughter who was 15 at the time was not easy. But it went better than I thought it would, we also took into consideration where she wanted to live (I was moving 2 hours away). She opted to live with her dad, she had gone to school there with the same friends since 2nd grade, and I saw no reason for her life to be totally turned upside down with a big move, the divorce was emotional enough. Just make sure they know that they are not at fault in anyway, and that you both love them more than ever.

Sorry to hear this news. Its not easy to move on with life, but sadly not all relationships can be saved. Good luck and hope the children are fine.

You never know what might happen or what is waiting around that next corner. Sometimes a little time apart is what is needed to make both parties realize what they are truly missing. I wish you nothing but the best ...

Inked I am sad to hear of your marital separation, even when amicable, it can be a very trying time. I can safely say that as I have been there and done the same. My thoughts will be with you and most importantly, your children. I do look forward to your being on myLot again! I am not on as much as I would like to be secondary to job constraints, but will enjoy your witty responses whenever I can get them!

I.m sorry to hear about that. I am glad to see you again though. My husband was married for 17 years before we met and his wife cheated on him and they divorced. I am so sorry that kids are involved. My husband had 3 in his also. They do not give him the time of day even though it was the mother who messed it all up. I do wish you alot of luck in your new life. Is there no way to reconcile the marriage?

I am sorry to hear about your seperation, it just is never a easy thing, and with chidren, well I to understand your dred. I was married 18 years before it ended. Take care and good luck with everything.

Sorry to hear about you and your wife. I can't even being to imagine life with out my husband. I hope that your kids understand that you will both be there for them no matter what. When the two of you are telling them just remember to be as honset as you can and anwswer all there questions even if in a round about way. Good luck and hope all goes well for you. By the way 40 is the new 30 so don't worry about being 40 and single, think of it like a redo!

OMG Inked! wow...i'm sorry to hear that you are seperating but glad its not a bitter one ya know..that makes it all so much harder for everyone involved.....Even so though, having to tell the kids will be heartbreaking but if you explain to them that its better for everyone then maybe that'll ease it a little ya know... I do wish you the best Inked..its going to be a bit of a shock to the system i imagine (10 yrs is a long time ya know...) but i'm sure you'll manage very well...

I don't know what to say that would be the right thing at this moment. Except, I'm sorry to hear that you will be moving out and having to tell your kids. Good luck with telling your kids, I pray that they will see that this is the right thing to do. I also pray that everything works out for you. Being single won't be that bad, and if thats your picture as your avitar, you won't have any problem jumping in the dating pool again.

Man look I speak out the very clear way that the family is the thing which is totally personal and please don't discuss it with other peoples. Although both of you are not one now but please don't discuss with others.

How sad. I couldnt imagine having a talk with my kids like that. There isnt really the right thing to say. I hope it all goes well for you.

Hi inked4life! I am really sorry to hear about your separation. Never knew what you were going through my friend! I hope and pray for a beautiful life ahead for you and I hope your kids will have the strength and wisdom to understand the situation. Good luck and i am hoping for good things for you and your loved ones! "This is not the end but the beginning of a more beautiful chapter in your life." Take care and have a nice day! :)

Well buddy, I can honestly say that I feel your pain. I myself am going through the same sorta situtation. I screwed up with my husband and now I am in the spot where I will be the one having to leave my kids. By the way there's another one on the way which would make 4. I am not sure how everything will work out but everyone tells me it will work out for the best. Whatever is meant to be will be. I don't believe that for one second right now but I have to have faith.