Where do you find Mr Right?
By rockerchick
@rockerchick (289)
Canada
February 13, 2008 1:40pm CST
I was just wondering if there are some good places to find Mr Right. I think I have been looking in all the wrong places for men. I always seem to find the wrong type of men and they always end up being jerks. I get caught up in it all the time. I think I attract them. Does anybody know some good places to find a REAL man?? If they even exist these days...haha
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15 responses
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
13 Feb 08
Its quite possible to find the right man in the wrong place. And by the same token, you can find the wrong man in the right place. Its not the men that are giving you problems. Its your ability to choose, thats letting you down. There are many things that can give you hints. Is he different after a few drinks? Does he wake up happy in the morning? Will he share his stuff with you? Do you have to watch what you say, to keep him happy? Does he have a temper? Is he generous with you? These things and many more, will tell you in so many words what kind of a mate he will make!
@leeesa (884)
• United States
14 Feb 08
Wow, that's very wise advice! You actually reminded me of my ex husband, whom I've been dwelling on, and now I see that he was never right for me because I had to work too hard and walk on eggshells to keep him happy. Thanks for opening my eyes. Maybe I can move on now!
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@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
14 Feb 08
*loving chuckle*
Well, sorry to hear about your luck in this Rockerchick. My initial response is to just relax a bit. You've got a life to live and you should be happy (with or without someone). In some cases you won't have to look for your true love, your true love will find you when you least expect it. If you have to look, maybe try various (but good!) places in the area. Don't stress over finding someone either, just relax, take it one step at a time. When looking over a potential person, try to home in and observe cues, signals. Sometimes its easy, but there are some good pretenders about. An important thing to note above all else, no one will match the Mr/Ms Right figment perfectly. Some compromises have to take place, some adjustment on the part of both people will occur.
Oh yes, and there are still good men out there. Plenty of them going through the same thing you described. Others taking a more lax approach to the situation.
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@beyonce03 (2331)
• Canada
15 Feb 08
I found my Mr.Right on the internet. maybe some people can't believe that could work, but yes you can now found love there lol. WE"ve been together for 4 years 1/2 and we are expecting our first child in less then 2 month.
We had feeling for each other on the internet but we kinew we couldnt say we were in love until we met. The first time I met him I felt in love lol
@whywiki (6066)
• Canada
13 Feb 08
I found my "Mr Right" at work. I also found a couple of "Mr Wrong"s at work too. My best friend met her "Mr Right" at a bar. I think it is just a matter of luck and chance where "Mr Right" will be found. Never give up though I think there are a lot of good REAL men still out there.
@AlwaysAskingWhy (96)
• United States
13 Feb 08
I agree with the other people's comments that it does not depend on the place. You can ask yourself questions about any guy you're dealing with. For example, is he unselfish - i.e. does he place your needs above his? Does he love you unconditionally? Is he willing to make sacrifices for you? Does he ever try to pressure you to do things he wants? These are some of the questions that may help you determine if he's Mr. Right. For more tips on this issue, check out the blog http://howtochooseagoodspouse.blogspot.com
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@smartbrain69 (2790)
• Canada
14 Feb 08
I don't want to disappoint you but it is well said that no one in this world is perfect, everyone has got one or more ....
Look around someone near you may be Mr right for you but you were expecting more and more from your expections.
@freak369 (5113)
• United States
15 Feb 08
I know that it sucks to hear it but sometimes you have to stop looking and "it" will find you. The harder you try to find someone special the harder it is to achieve. I think every person has been through the "jerk cycle" ... when you least expect it, you will bump into someone that will blow your mind and steal your heart. Just let it happen and you'll be pleasantly surprised :]
@simplyjemz (188)
• Philippines
17 Mar 08
we'll never know where and when to find them. haha! he'll just come unexpectedly...
@leeesa (884)
• United States
14 Feb 08
Well if you find out, let me know! The only 2 places I ever am are at home and at work and I have a rule not to date coworkers, so looks like I'm out of luck. Bars are a bad place unless you're looking for a one nighter. Unless you have a large social circle where you meet people often, or have friends who can set you up, I think the only remaining choices are online services such as eHarmoney. I also attract the wrong type, so I just give up on this topic. But like I said, if you find a place...clue me in! lol
@ayou82 (3450)
• Philippines
14 Feb 08
Theres no such thing as finding Mr right. It will definately knocks into your door whoever it is meant for you and destined to be your partner for life.
Coz sometimes the more you search for it the more you end up realizing that your so wrong and then it leads to a bigger problem that sometimes in some case hard for them to escape. And creates a massive problems.
Answer to that , be patient and whoever lucky Mr right knocks the first thats the destiny you will face and live with for the rest of your life.
@baebieDARNA30 (788)
• Philippines
14 Feb 08
i found my mr. right in heaven.. all along i thought mr. right is pure imagination, but whn i came to meet him, everything changed.. i proved that there are still men who are worthy to be loved, that there are still mr. right for each one of us.. we just need the right time and place to see mr. right..
@sommergold315 (54)
• Germany
14 Feb 08
Of course, there are some good places to find Mr.Right. One of them is my house and Mr. Right is my husband. But, who knows, what shall I think about all that in the evening?
@santau (223)
• United States
14 Feb 08
yeah, I have say to stop looking. Finding someone to love that respects you will come when you least expect it. And I think there is any one best place to find a guy. I met my husband on Myspace. He just messaged me one night and from there we started talking. It came out of the blue when we were both least expecting it. Maybe you should just take some time off from finding Mr. Right and just enjoy yourself. You never know what will happen.