sometimes, you reach a point in your life where......

Just like a Music Teacher who is unable to shine, teaches his/her students very sincerely and ensure their growth and in their he/she sees him/herself. Your feeling is well understood. Even for men too, only few people are blessed to achieve the 'dream' projects. Doing anything joyfully, helps. It is easier said than faced. It is again like Father/Mother; you/brother(sister); spouses; children...

Similar thoughts to mine. Its one of the reasons why I started mylotting. My hubby doesn’t understand mylot or my enthusiasm about people none of whom I am ever likely to meet. He’s my age, we were in college together so we are more like friends than spouse, but even then, sometime I find him too selfish. Whenever we talk, its always about him, his office, his day, his profession, his dreams blah blah blah. As it is I am not a career-oriented woman but whatever little I want to put in, gets brushed aside as insignificant and very simple. I know he is way too intelligent than me and I adore him but apart from him, I have no friends too. I am close to none in the family (close or extended, even parents) and yes one day my son will start his own family and career. I no longer have dreams, I have realized long ago that my dreams do not have the same importance as my family’s future. So work, its an engagement and money is important. Sometimes, there is definitely a whiff of regret at lost opportunities, but I replace it with counting my blessings. Only problem would be when my husband will be no more. Don’t know who will go first, but if I stay behind, haven’t planned anything really. Voluntary work, old-age home…maybe?

yes its true. i appreciate your discussion very much. there are points in time when we feel very lonely.may be we find no one near us.its called life. i have experienced that too in this short span of life. few yrs back there were so much friends beside me. i helped them a lot and many of then also reciprocated what i did for them.But after some time i find nobody. some are jsut there but not in taht much contact. some have chaeted me after taking advantage of me.

I understand your predicament Joshdale. I think I'm the only only one in my circle of friends who is not married yet. For me it's very sad to think that my married friends can't hang out with me again like before. Gone are those days because they have a family to attend to. But I believe that you are not losing your time here. In fact the time you spent with you family especially your children are very important to them. You will never regret that. I'm sure your children will validate what I'm saying here someday soon.

yes, when my wife and i dated 25 years ago we talked a lot and wrote letters and for awhile we were close like friends ..then time comes and you become distant but you can regain that newness again if you rekindle what you had in the past..but it will take an effort on both of you..it is not easy but its possible if you want it bbad enough..

oh that sounds so sad. I suppose we all who have family have found ourselves there at some point. I raised my kids alone. I had 4 of them and worked full time so there really was barely enough time for them and the household let alone dating and friends. They were my entire life without a doubt. Three of them have grown up now and I am left with just the 14 year old to care for and so much more time on my hands. I did kind of feel what you described at first but slowly, i am coming to love my new freedom. I can do whatever I want and with whomever. I have reconnected with a couple of old friends and I am closer to my girls now that they are grown....we are friends now....close friends. I am loving it. Your hubby is still with you? If i were you, I'd start by re-connecting with him....be creative.

this is really a good topic because it can remind every woman of the possible tragic ending of her life. so many women give all their time and energy to their husbands and kids, forgetting themselves all together. they do not have their own life. we can image what will happen when their kids grow up and their husbands don't love them any more.

That sounds really sad. I think my life is leading on that road. I just hope that I would stay always close to my husband and our son. I was thinking that that might happen to me that's why I decided to continue my studies. I am going back to school this school year, which will start on June. I am feeling really excited and I know it'll make me really happy if I graduate and do what I really wanna do since I was a child. That is to teach.

Ahhh this is the time of your life to shine! with all the knowledge you have an the wisdom now is the time you can concentrate on YOU and what you want to do with the rest of your life. You've done your mother job now it's time to do something else, write a book, start painting, volanteer (sp?) maybe start a quilting club or get into gardening. Get involved in some activities in the community in the church or something. Go share your wisdom with the younger crowd maybe go back to school or something.....I am 39 years old kids have grown up I have one left at home and I can't wait to get my life back...good luck to you I wish you the best go enjoy the freedom! -Amberina

hello, you start by putting one foot in front of the other, having the confidence within your self to take that first step. thinking things through & having a clear diarection on what & where you want to take your life. return to study, volenteer work, anything to get you out & about & meeting people who share the same interest, values as you..

wow! that's really sad, but then i guess that part of our lives is inevitable. people has to face sadness sometimes to appreciate happiness. or have we asked ourselves, that maybe we are the ones who detached ourselves from the world. as long as there is air we can still find ways. maybe, some of your friends are experiencing the same things ... the only thing left to do is to make that phone call. start by reaching out. and surely someone will reach out to you.

You are alone with many around you, you need to find out yourself and now what are your mission. It is because that you are felling depression you feel you have to do what is to be done. You are not happy with the situation because your mission is not only care kids and husband, then do meditation and ask yourself what to do. If you tried this before try to begin working on your social community, give something of you to others and then you will have a sense of well being, friends and other people who could be friends or simple other human that you know and can talk. It is very grateful!