Love Marriage Vs Arrange Marriage - What do yoy prefer??

Hello all.. It is very common issue, Most people have very little mind, I can tell this, becouse I have exp- in peoples, people only see them self, Or thay see which have more people with them, Thanks!

According to me Arrange Marriage is best....In love marriage after marriage love is the end as ppl start taking for granted n dats too bad in a relationship...In Arrange marriage after marriage love is the begnning...

i think its an never ending question. i am single. But my perspective is one should marry the person he/she really likes and loves. it may be someone when the person is arranged to meet you my elders. you meet the person, get to know that person and after some time if you find you like, you can marry.In name of arranged marriage, this can't be forceful case.

Hello,vipul! you are quite aware of the fact that in the western countries love marriage is a common feature.but it is also a known fact that maximum number diversion cases occur in love marriage,so also in India and other Asian countries.if they knew and loved each other before marriage why they develop bitterness among them and get separated?that means they were not loving intimately but enjoying life freely.that is not good.but in India we believe in arranged marriage,since marriage is considered here an institution.it gives social sanction for living together and we develop intimacy after marriage.in such marriage we sacrifice our own freedom and adjust each other to the problems of life.so in arranged marriages problems occur very rarely.so in my opinion you should have faith and go for arranged marriage.thank you.be happy.

i think arranged marriages are good and better.Before love and marriage is waste.After marriage and love is best.listen to ur parents and marry her.

hello ... i wanna share my views too... our culture is more on love marriage ...i was married 25 years ago to the man i love so dearly. life was full of ups and downs yet we survived bcoz of this thing called love... he courted me for 2 years and then we got steady for 3 years. all thru these years, i came to know him fully and was sure he was the man i wud like to live with for the rest of my life so we got married.... now we got siblings and still we love each other just as much. Seeing us in this state, our children are one in saying that they would also marry not becoz of anything else but bcoz they love each other, just like us....

woah!! this is a cool post.. i think that arranged marriage are not so bad..since the intention is always beneficial to the families involved.. i'm not yet married but i think that when it comes to marriage, its always important that you know for yourself that you want to see that face every single day of your life.. arranged marriages, in my opinion are for businessmen..its so very common..so for me, its not very favorable, though its convenient..its hard to live with someone you're barely interested in.. so i say love marriage is better.. when you get into that kind of marriage, it would be like a dream come true..^_^ lots of caring, though with problems, you know you'll do your best because you dont want your parter to be disappointed..because you still want that love that you had when both of you are just starting out..^_^ its sweet and dramatic.. hehe mwah!

hi vipulchawla, I'm married for almost 2 years, I may say it is a love marriage. I hope you'll agree that there's no point in marrying if the relationship is immature. You're willing and able to "take the plunge." However, is precisely the time to stop and think again. You have to decide for a mature love relationship. You really have to consider a lot of things before committing yourself. Here is a list of guidelines that I hope can help you in choosing your life partner. 1. Check yourself-your motive. Is the cause of attraction purely physical? Some guys woo a girl just to have somebody to display to friends. 2. Be prepared emotionally, financially, socially, mentally and spiritually. 3. Likewise, observe if the girl matches your spiritual fervor and emotional maturity. She may not be financially ready, nor socially mature , but these are of lesser importance than the first two. 4. Ask for counsel and confirmation from others, especially your parents and family. 5. Get to know each other. Know his/her likes & dislikes, ambition, family background, physical & health condition, sports, hobbies, friends. Find out if your personalities complement each other. 6. Visit her home so you can get acquainted with her family and relatives. Observe their lifestyles. By these you will know if she is a potential lifetime partner. 7. If you are definitely sure of her,and you fell that you can live with her with all her strenghts and weaknesses, then you can start courting and later enter into a commitment. 8. Ask for consent of the other party for consideration. The feeling must be mutual, too. Best always, eunixia

Yes you say tru! I myself do not beleave in love marriage's. But love marriage can me big thooble, you can get in mind wrong.

I have never personally known anyone who had an arranged marriage. The closest was an Indian friend who moved here, and she ended up not going through with it because her mom told her she didn't have to. My marriage was a love marriage, but it was really important to me that my family liked him and his family, and vice versa. Honestly, if the family had known my husband before I met him, they probably would have tried getting us together. I had been in a relationship where our families didn't like each other and it was too much tension and drama. In that way I can understand the benefit of an arranged marriage, but I would have to love the man before marriage, and not afterwards.

There are some beliefs or customs that arrange marriage I believe just like yours. In our custom we are free to marry somebody we like or we love. I believe it has an advantage because we can choose freely who we want to spend the rest of our lives with- somebody we have known for a certain period of time. But inspite of it there are also failed marriages. In an arraged marriage it has been a custom - though I see a number of them stay married for long with no problems. In anyway you want it- just put love and God in the center of your relationship. I think it will work.

For me im favor to Love marriage. I can't marry the guy if i don't have a feeling for him. Love for me is a very big factor in a relationship.

This is an interesting question. It especially interesting the way you put it. The question assumes that all arranged marriages are between couples that are not in love, which is not always the case. It also assumes that non-arranged marriages are based on love, which is also not always true. I don't thing either of these assumptions are correct. So, if I had to vote, I would vote for the marriage based on love. Whether it be arranged or otherwise.

I defiently would have to marry someone that I chose and I loved if I ever got married...because I have a hard time with doing what people tell me to do...much less marrying someone that other people told me to marry...I've always been told that i should marry whoever I love and that is right for me...but for your culture you may want a arranged marriage!

I am also not into relationship. actually we have seen that in our parents' time there were rare cases of love marriages. but now time has changed and so has society. I guess its better to know the person well before marrying. in case of success rate i think there is not much difference.

Although its common tradition to some culture to have ARRANGED MARRIAGE, I'd prefer the love marriage. For me, there isn't any thrill in arranged marriage because they are all set and planned not by you but by your parents. Although developing feelings is a possibility, I really pity those who were forced into a marriage to someone they don't have any feelings with. I guess this is one of the reasons why some marriage don't last long. In love marriage, at least, you are free to choose, to love without any pretentions and hurdles from others. You are free to express yourself and its easy to open up to someone you feel comfortable with. This is just my own opinion :)

I will never have a fix marriage its either I grow old single or I have a messy life just because I never liked the guy I am partner with. My parents should respect me whatever choices I do in my life. Because it is for me too. I dont want my relationship to suffer or end up having a divorce just we have indifferences and he is not the type of guy I want to be with for the rest of my life.

it's actually very hard to say because there are marriages which started in love bu t ended up in a really brutal position. i would have to say that it depends in the couple if they are willing to stick to each other no matter what the cause. i've been married for four years and it's based on love. and it takes a lot of hard work. but then if you love something/someone, trials and obstacles is never a problem. if you love something/someone you work on it. i just don't know if the same goes with arranged marriages.

U MUST BE INDIAN, THIS TYPE OF QUESTION ONLY ASK AN INDIAN PERSON, ARE U CURRENTLY STAYING IN INDIA, CHAWLA SAHAB, YAR AB TO MAN BANO, I HAD A LOVE MARRIAGE, AND VERY VERY HAPPY, First boss, u must have a girl whom u love, there are very good and bad effect of love marriage and arrange marriage, First u must have a good understanding between couple, if it is there then no one in this world can separate u. believe me LOVE MARRIAGE IS THE BEST.

we can even have a big debate on this topic because its neverending if we are going to talk about it, according to me, both the marriages has pros and cons, i would not say one is better than the other...in both the main two things needed are "understanding" and "unconditional love" if its there in a couple whether its arranged or love marriage, the marriage would be a success.