Do you ever feel that some of your freindships seem a bit "one sided"?

All the time. I began feeling like this when I was pregnant. I actually confronted a few friends about it too. Now I feel like I don't really have that many friends. I stay home with my daughter.

Yes, most of my so called friends are like that, and its so damn annoying. I cant understand why they are doing that, but anooyingly they are not the one that gets hurt, i am. Soon i feel im pulling the f*****g plug to the most of my parasitic friends.

I believe we all go through this same experience. But given time, things will either get better or the friendship will just dissolve completely. I have had the feeling before that I am the only one making the effort to connect my friends together, then I was the one that will text them and ask if they are available on a specific date to be able to meet up and catch up with one another. It does get to a point where it feels like friends don't care at all, but through experience, what goes around comes around, sometimes you are also too busy and occupied with another factor in your life that you will have less time for your friends and vice versa. But friendship that lasts the test of time is the strongest bond. Despite being absent through each others daily life, the real essence of being bonded will always be there.

I sure do feel this alot and not just with friends but with my husbands family. My hubbies family NEVER phones to see how we are or what's new with us or anything...they do remember to phone when they need a hand with something or Money. We find this VERY hurtful!!! Because we do care and we thought they do too but we have learned the hard way. There Loss!

yep I've felt this way before. sometimes i feel as if i'm the one who always have to make the first move and initiate things, if not nothing will ever happen. if they want something from me then only they will approach me first or something. sometimes i wonder if people actually even care although no doubt some of them do but it makes me feel sad at times. oh well. that's just how some people are i guess.

I disagree with musicman6, friendship should be like a 'double edged sword', that is cutting on both sides. One sided friendship in not only draining to the person pushing it but also unfair. What is the value this friends add to you in that you have to only followup on them? What happens when you are maybe down or something going against you? This are the people whom you expect to call you and share with you in your grief and brighten your day. Totally ignore them!

yes many times it has happened to me. it si one sided friendship. i had to make all the efforts to keep the friendship going. now I have stopped this doing as i think its loss of energy and makes you sad.

Well, don't let it get you down! I'm sure your friends mean well, but sometimes they may get wrapped up in what they are doing, and kinda forget to check in on their friends, but I wouldn't hold it against them, just don't let it affect you,it's totally understandable! Just remember, when they are good friends, they are good friends, and when they are not good friends, they are not good friends!