Why is it so hard to...
By supeemom
@supeemom (121)
United States
February 21, 2008 3:03pm CST
just agree to disagree. My husband and I ran into this this afternoon when we had a silly arguement. And it got me thinking about many of the discussions I have responded to here.
I truly enjoy open forum discussions like MyLot. It gives us a chance to feel like we are being heard and also to learn about other opinions and points of view, and maybe be alittle bit enlightened. It gives us an opportunity to exercise our intellect and be entertained. So why do we so often feel like we have to beat each other senseless with our opinions when we don't see eye to eye?
Is it because as a part of our nature, humans are passionate? Is it closed mindedness or immaturity?
I know that we all want to be "right", I know I do, just ask my husband, he would agree. But what is "right" anyway? Is it so hard to imagine that not every question has one right answer, or even has a answer at all?
4 responses
@Adoniah (7513)
• United States
21 Feb 08
You have brought out a very important point. There CAN be more than one RIGHT answer to many questions. Most people do not see it that way. It seems that most folks feel that there can only be one totally correct answer to every question and only one totally correct point of view.
I think there as as many different ways of looking at something as there are folks looking at it. I like hearing different points of view. It gives one a chance to grow and see things in a different light themselves.
You asked if it was closed mindedness or immaturity. It is more a lack of experience in letting the mind stretch. We should exercise our minds more. We should use them more and let them wander into new possibilities and imagination more. Most people "grow up" and that is the end of the imagination. Go ahead and grow up but never let your imagination stagnate!
Shalom~Salaam~Peace
@supeemom (121)
• United States
21 Feb 08
Well said. I think your right, a lack of experience in letting the mind stretch. After some thought I think maybe fear of letting the mind stretch could be as well. We get very comfortable in our own little world with what we think and who we know. New and different ideas can mean having to leave the comfort zone and explore new ways of thinking. Thank you for your response.
@asgtswife04 (2475)
• United States
22 Feb 08
For some reason males have gotten it in their heads that they are always right and if they are wrong they aren't a man. Men are supposed to always be right or to always be able to fix everything. It's part of their nature and they feel that if they aren't right or can't fix things then they aren't a man. Why? Only God knows, but it's been passed down through generations. It used to be that the man only spoke and the wife always just listened and obeyed and for some reason that has just stuck in their thick skulls. Even if they know that they are wrong, it is far and few between that they will ever admit it because it's a pride issue for them. To hear a man truly say he is sorry is so rare that most women that hear it can't help but wonder if he's being sarcastic or just trying to end the conversation. it would be so much nicer if every arguement could be that we just agree to disagree and move on, but a man, again, feels like it needs to be fixed and you need to see it his way. just the way it is, most of the time. good luck and God bless
@mom2chriskel (1060)
• United States
21 Feb 08
I can agree to disagree with everyone but my husband....LOL. I always want to be right. He lets me believe I am right unless he truly believes in the argument. Then he will fight about it. Otherwise he lets me win. Not because he is weak but because it is just easier to agree with me...LOL He'll always say you aren't right but I'll let you think you are.
But yes, I think most questions and problems have more than one right answer.
@superbren (856)
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21 Feb 08
I agree. I would never force my opinion on anyone or think i was totally in the right.We are all right in our own way.The ones who are wrong are the ones who think they are right.lol.Bit confusing but you know what i mean. Its good to have discussions and bandy different opinions about but just dont force it.
