Why Can't I Get Pregnant Darn It!!! Any Sugesstions? (Be Nice LOL...)

Ok, I'm going to go out on a limb here and say that its because you're living in the future ... 2008 just started! Sorry, couldn't help being silly. :) I don't have an answer for you as there could be dozens of reasons, or no real reason at all except its just not your time. Has your husband been checked? Good luck!

Hi SassyKittyKat, Both you & hubby should go for a naked frolic down the beach, rub olive oil all over each and do wicked things that couldn't be shown on daytime TV. It might not get you pregnant - but it'd be fun!

during process of making baby, put one pillow under your back (it's a tricky treat) i don't know but it works for me... try it no harm.. if you have good result ... happy for you. Good luck.

Well if you are ovulating and having regular periods, I would suggest getting him checked to make sure his sperm count is up to par. they have ovulating test at the Dollar store. Go get some of those and try them out this next month. I also heard that sperm are more active in the morning so try a quickie before he goes to work. Don't forget to prop your hips up aftewards for about 10 minutes so those little guys can get a sense in which direction to go. Cut back on the caffine products too.Wouldn't hurt to start taking prenatals if you aren't. And try not to stress out. It will happen, Hope to hear you are preggo soon.

Sassy when I started reading your post I had to check that you weren't my closest friend disguising herself on mylot - lol! You sound just like she did a year ago - word for word!!! She tried everything - from taking her temperature during ovulation to lying with her legs up against the wall for half an hour afterwards :-) My advice was always: Stop thinking about it!!! Just have fun and relax and it will happen when it is meant to. I know it's tough when it's all you want in life but sometimes these things only happen when we forget about them. Good luck!! I hope it happens soon.

has your husband been checked out?

I would suggest eating a healthy diet - heavy on the vegetable that contain folate, take prenatal vitamins, exercise, get plenty of liquids, and drink the Womens Tea w/rosehips (you should be able to get this in any store, I know that whole foods carries it and it is available online). When I was doing all that (not to get pregnant, for health reasons) I got pregnant LOL The Dr said it was just the right combination of things.

When your Dr said everything looks good... what did this Dr check? Do you know if you are ovulating for sure? I would suggest getting Taking Charge of Your Fertility and reading it and doing FAM and charting your cycles for a while. Also I would suggest sending hubby for a semen analysis (I wish we had done that sooner). Has your Dr checked your hormones, done ultrasounds and such? I knew that I had PCOS but recently my cycles got whacky (thank God I was charting) and pain increased and I told my dr that I thought I have endometriosis. She didn't take me seriously. I decided to get a second opinion at the cleveland clinic and I was scheduled for a laparoscopy. During the lap I was found not only to have endometriosis but also adenomyosis and some cysts on my fallopian tubes. While he was in there he flushed out my tubes but only one spilled so I may or may not also have a blocked tube. This on top of hubbys infertility of course has made things difficult and we are looking into AI with donor sperm. We are also looking into adoption. I know you have pretty much ruled out adoption but so did we until I picked up a book called The Complete Adoption Book/Guide or something like that (sorry I can't remember the exact name but it's a huge book and really super helpful!!). I too am 29 and my husband is 54. I wish you luck.

Hello :-) I would get a second opinion or ask to be referred to a Reproductive Endocrinologist. There are things they can check and medications to help you maybe ovulate better. Also, I recently found a great online resource. Do a search online for the American Pregnancy Association .org and sign up for the forums. There are a lot of women going through your same situation and I have found it to be a wonderful source of support and comfort.

Awww I have been trying to get pregnant for 3-4 years now and no such luck. I have a 5 yr old son and have been wanting a girl for the longest time. You have done a lot more than I have done and may try out the suggestions you have made as well as the others that have posted on your page. Just a thought, has your husband been checked? My husband has recently been diagnosed with Type 2 Diabetes and I think it has had a great affect on me not getting pregnant. I bet when you stop worrying about it, it will happen. Well that's what everyone tells me. Good luck!

My wife couldn't seem to get pregnant and we went thru all the test and we ended up having to have (I'll keep it clean) my stuff helped along the way. Stangely, after the frist child was born it was just over a year when my wife found herself pg again which was a total shock as we didn't think we could do it on our own, the 3rd one again caught us out(no regrets). I have no ideas how number 2 and 3 came along as we tried everything(naturally) we could to get pregnant.

hello, i am not yet at the point of planning to have a baby yet but we're talking about it. anyway, not sure if someone had mentioned this yet to not (i dont want to read lots of post, sorry im sleepy) but to most cases i have heard and know of, it is mostly because of the stress level. i think you worry too much and stressed yourself for not having a baby yet. most people who have the same thoughts and feelings like you do are advice to take a rest, relax and just make love for the purpose of making love and not solely for making a baby. sorry i am not expert but i have known at least 4 person (friends/relatives) who have the same dilemma and finally have a baby after following such advice. often times our body if it's not relax seems to do the opposite of what we desire. if both of you guys are healthy and there is no problem producing a baby, then it is mostly the stress level. please dont get me wrong, i just assume that this might be the biggest case coz you said you are really nervous of not being pregnant and the fact that you are too cautious of not being pregnant before you turn 35. stress can cause so many negativity in life and it is not healthy for you and for your soon baby. i am in the same position and my husband is training me to handle stress and anxiety well. we do talk about it and he tries to relieve all my fears and encourage me to express my self more so it can help me when we are ready to have our baby. also, dont let the baby thing be the only reason why you guys make love, make it a moment of intimacy and being ONE. who knows maybe one of those time you can finally have it. anyway, i really wish you guys the best. i know how tense it is and i know how happy you'll gonna be ones you see the POSITIVE sign on it. takecare and goodnight!

I just got married and raising a 6 yr old autistic step-son gives me the creeps. But I am already 42 years old and never had a child of my own. I do want to have one someday. I wish I know what to tell you and give you suggestions. I guess the best I could do is to give you the suggestions given to me. It's not working for me yet, but it might with you. RELAX... your anxiety and desire is your psychological disadvantage. Forget about having a baby and enjoy your intimate moments with husband. Sometimes when we give up on something... that's the time that we get it.

SassyKittyKat: I also have a panic disorder and was on medication for YEARS and I am pregnant now and not on anything. If you want to talk about anything, I'd be happy to :) I know how scary the aspect of being pregnant and having a panic disorder and anxiety attacks can be.... But I think it's great that you and your husband decided to wait if that's what you both feel.

It can take your body 1-3 years to get back to normal after using birth control. You have been tested to make sure your ok. Have you had your hubby tested? You never know he might have a low count and thats why you cant get pregnant. Also you could try one of those tests that tell you when your ovulating. Thats the best way to know when your ready to concieve. Best of luck to you and I hope you get a baby.

Some of it could be your nerves/feelings (understandable) but it can cause a type of stress for the rest of the body. Probably not as helpful, but change your mindset and outlook on it. Relax a bit and try things naturally. Health and nutrition wise you could increase your intake of folic acid and other B complex vitamins. Your husband should focus on multiple vitamins (A, C and E).

I've found that prayer often helps in these things, and in all the things that you're concerned about here.

The problem could very well be your husbands sperm count,he should be checked if not, maybe bad timing?have you thought of fertility treatments?i know how you feel but i have turner syndrome so i will never be pregnant without an egg donar,Good luck to you i hope you get your baby soon!

I responded to this post more than a month ago. And gave you some advise on your problem. I am responding here again... TO GIVE YOU HOPE. I am 43 years old (just turned 43 last month) and right now I am pregnant. I just found it out yesterday I took the pregnancy test (3x) and all the tests proved positive. I had a previous post during my first few days here in myLot regarding this... if a 42 years old woman should get pregnant or not... and I received a lot of responses. I was not really expecting this... as I have told you, you better not think about it anymore and just enjoy your intimacy with your husband. So I used my own advise. Now I am pregnant. I know you will have your time. Just keep the faith.

Stressing about it really wont help get you pregnant, not the best advice I know - I am in the same boat and for years charted temperatures and cycles and all sorts. I have stopeed all that now! I really beleive it will happen when the time is right. My husband and I are currently going through fertility treatments and are looking into Clomid first. I think it is really important to get the fertility tests done for both you and your partner, once they find the problem then they can fix it! Good luck!!