Do you believe in marriages or live in relationship.

Marriage is a choice and is absolutely not the sole expression of love or commitment. You don't need a piece of paper to validate your love and you don't need an audience to make your promise real.

Marriage is commitment, with all the responsibilities. One becomes two. You don't think not only for yourself also for your partner's interest. It is a lifetime commitment. I prefer live in relationship before marriage. In this way, I can know my partner very well(good and bad sides). I need to think a million times if I'm going to spend the rest of my life with this person by marrying. I look also at the broken marriages. Nobody can guarantee that you will both last for the lifetime. With all the conflicts, problems will occur in marriage. If the two of you can stand and handle all this things. Then it will be a successful marriage. At least in live in relation. When things go wrong, can't be handle anymore by both sides. Then break-up is a way out. But when you're married. There are so many things must be done before you get divorce. It's not easy. You must go with all the process.

It is very essential from the future point of view that the present young people set a good example of marrying at a right time and indulge in procreation, so that there is continuation of the family. If everyone starts thinking of relationships and keep changing the relationship like one changing a shirt, we are not setting a fine example of good marriage, good family.

That's why 53% end in divorce, because marriage is more prominent, that explains it,lol. At this point in my life I have a live in relationship, we have been together 3 years. We have both been married, 3 times each, so at this time we do not care to run down that aisle again. I don't need a piece of paper or ring to know how much he loves and respects me, as I do him. We are both independent people, have our careers, a great home, share in the expenses, so basically even though we aren't married, we live as if we are. He did say he would marry me if we were still together in 30 years, considering we can get to the alter and still hear the preacher LOL.

Marriage will show total commitment. It is unfortunate that marriages sometimes turns to be abusive but all in all when you walk down the aisle and someone says 'i do', it shows his/her commitment to you. However both marriage and a live in relationship must be driven by Love. Frankly, there are live in situations which are better of than some marriages. But all in all, marriage is better since it addressess legal issues of properties and security in general should it break up which a live in marriage one partner might be disadvantaged.

I believe in marriage, because there is more of a commitment. There is a marriage covenant that is holding them together. Now with live in relationships, you don't have that. When you get tired of being with that person you can just leave. Live in relationship seem to be very temporary to me and not lasting.

marriages are not permanent, 1 out of every two marriages end in divorce in the usa and canada, I am divorced, I wouldn't marry again

i belive in marriage rather den live in relationship...........i totally agree with you dat marriage is a life time commitment.......n marriages are its own plus point also....

I believe in freedom of choice. It depends on what the couple wants to do.There are marriages where there isn't a responsible party in it.They have kids but neither take good care of them. On the other hand , there are couples who Never marry and they are both responsible parents. It all depends on the people in the relationship.There are marriages where the spouses are free to see other people. And there are couples who Never marry and the are faithful to each other.As long as the two people agree on either marrying or not and can be happy about it is all that matters. For me, I would rather live with the man I love and never marry him than marry him and watch the love fade away.I am very old fashioned when it comes to marriage. For me, it wouldn't work for me.

Hi there anshnav! I was in a live in relationship with my husband before we got married. I got pregnant and we got married when my pregnancy is at its eight month. Back then, I don't care that much whether we're married or not as long as we're not having any children. I though it was only important to get married when you will be having children for legal matters. Like the surname of the child and stuff like that. But now, I believe that it is against the law of Chastity and that marriage should come first.

Hi anshnav, In some countries it doesn't matter because you have the same benefits either way. Personally I prefer marriage, but I have no problem with those who prefer a live in relationship. Blessings.

I definitely believe in marriages vs. live in arrangements. my beliefs have a big part in that to an extent though. i don't think it's good for any couple to just live together, they should make that commitment to walk down the aisle and commit to one another. if your going to live together, isn't it pretty much the same thing. the only difference is, if you get married and then live together you are doing it right in God's eyes...if you just live together without the marriage i believe it's a sin. anyways, thanks for posting and God bless

I believe in marriages, more prominent and lifetime commitment. Why not for the "most lovely and compatible" person in your life? I am a Christian and i want to follow the teaching in bible. Living with a person as husband and wife will be better, safe, loyal, and health.

I agree with you. I too, believe in marriage. It is a lifetime commitment. You are right about responsibility. That's why in marriage, you have to make sure it is the right person and right time so you will not regret in the end. A lot of countries allow cohabitation or "living in" but there are countries which consider it immoral. But I still prefer building a family or having kids when you are married and have the legal papers.

I believe in marriages I have been married twice and both ended in a divorce,so if I was to get into a relationship and if he was wanting me to move into his house I would have to decline because I like my space and there would be no more arguments over anything like what we are watching on the t.v. or what we are having for dinner and him telling me where I can or can't go,we could still be in a very good relationship living apart that is what you call trust

hi anshnav. I live in relationship, and I think I'll never be married:). I am not against marriage in general, but I don't have a need to be married, my boyfriend too. We don't plan to have children. If a child decide to come unplanned, so maybe we consider getting married, but not necessairly. I don't need to be married to treat my relationship serious and to treat my partner with respect. It all depends on our believes - many people are religious and their belief say that it's a sin to live with partner without marriage. In that case, I understand why people need to be married. But I don't belong to any religion, so I am not against my beliefs when I decide to live with my partner without marriage. For me it's important only to love someone really deeply, to be with him in good and bad times. To support each other in difficult moment. and to take care of each other. If someone needs a marriage to feel that his/her relationship is serious, it is ok too. All depends on the person:). have a nice day, jazgottt.

I completely disagree that an unmarried relationship has no value. unless you consider love to be of no value without a legal document to prove it. I will be getting married next year, after living with my partner for nearly a decade. this is because we want to mark our commitment to each other, and feel after this length of time it is the right thing for us to do. I don't feel though, that a married relationship has any more or less value than an unmarried one. the value of a relationship is in the feelings that each has for the other, not in a legal document. I know plenty of people who are already married, and not nearly so happy together as my partner and I are.

I think it depends on one's culture and perspective. If one is from a culture where marriage is seen as very important, an essential part of family life, then one would not be able to avoid getting married, otherwise a lot of people would be upset about it. But in the 21st century, where more people are remaining single or living in relationships in the UK than getting married, it seems that an increasing number of people don't care about marrying anymore. Living together has risen by 30% over the past decade, while marriage has declined. It is not such a stigma anymore to live together or to have children out of wedlock, so many people now please themselves in the kind of home they have. For a variety of reasons, more people are forsaking marriages, perhaps because of a lack of commitment, or for the freedom it gives to break apart at any time without worrying about the high cost of divorce. Whatever the reason, it seems to be the trend of the future. Personally, I was married for 33 years and enjoyed it to a great degree. I liked the security it gave, the sharing and companionship, and the feeling of belonging without having to keep wondering where the relationship is heading. I have also enjoyed my freedom since leaving the marriage and would probably not get married again, all things considered. But, a part of me believes that when we love someone, unless we are prepared to show that commitment, whether for one day or 10 years, what is that love really about? If I met the right person, and he wanted to get married, I would certainly consider it because it would be lovely having pledged myself to someone I want in my life, for however long it lasts. I do not need a marriage certificate to show me that I love my partner, or vice versa, neither do I need to be married to appreciate the relationship. But a marriage also allows friends and family to share in that joyous occasion by declaring our love publicly and we are all here for each other, not simply to live in a selfish way. The public pledge together gives a very strong message about how we feel for each other and the commitment we have. So I think being married would certainly give the edge for me.

Stating that a "live in relation has no value" is a bold, and indefensible position. All relations have a value. Prominence does not determine worth. If that were true then ants would be much more worthy than man. Grass would be as well. Going with the predominant view in your culture may make things easier, but not better. All that marriage provides from a cultural viewpoint is better legal access, and an easier time fitting in. A recognized marriage does not make a marriage. That is made by the level of commitment between two people. I am married, but mostly for legal access. I love my wife as no other creature in the world. She is the single best thing God ever created. But, that is between her and me, and the strength of our commitment to each others is not open to others interpretation. Others may think what they like about our very non-traditional marriage, and that does not matter even one whit. Our marriage is for us, and because we choose it. Our legal marriage is so that the bureaucracy can feel comfortable getting the hell out of our ways and so we get the privilege of paying more taxes. Let only the people involved in a relationship determine its ultimate worth, and may not even God herself attempt to interfere.

I do believe in marriage. I believe that we need the blessing of God in order for our relationship to survive and prosper. That God should be put in the center of a relationship.