What do you think you would do if you found out your partner had an affair?

Good for you for making it with your relationship. My reaction would be to kick his sorry but out and not look back. I love my husband dearly but if he could do something like that to me then we would be done. I had a boyfriend cheat on me and because he had been drinking we decided to work past it. But it was always there in the back of my mind. I ended up cheating on him and then we finally broke up. Its not something I could ever get over.

I used to think that I would get rid without a second thought, until it actually happened! I too went through it and we too are still together and working hard on our marriage, in fact in a lot of ways it was probably not a bad thing to happen, it has made us stronger in a strange sense, it has also been two years for me also.

If I found out my partner had an affair there would be no more talking, no more negotiations, no more arguments, no more fighting. It's just the end. Good riddance.

I know what I would do because it did happen, it hurt even more because it happened with a girl that I had taken into my home and was treating like one of my children. I had suspected it for months, and had even accused my husband at one point, but they both denied it. When I found out it had actually happened, I had a 38, I got it down from my closet, and the bullets were following my husband as he was running out the door. I wasn't aiming to kill him, but he thought he was going to die that night. Our son who was 9 at the time, begged me to take my husband back, things were bad for a long time. I never felt like he was really sorry for what he had done. Then he finally asked Jesus to come into his heart, and he got down on his knees and asked me to forgive him, I knew then that he meant it. It is still hard sometimes to trust him, and it probably always will be, once you are hurt like that it just doesn't go away like magic. We have been together now for almost 23 years, and this happened 10 years ago. I hope it never happens again, but he knows there will never be another 2nd chance.

Well if he is having an affair ..its really up to him... He will get the same thing from me too.. worst than what he can ever imagine.

Its not easy taking your partner back, my Husband cheated, he broke my heart. I left for a few weeks, and I cried my eyes out most nights. I had my 3 children with me, most times they made me forget about what he had done in the weeks we had gone. After those weeks away and the thinking I had done, my children and I went back. I love my Husband dearly, but to ever Trust him again NEVER, to Forgive him thats still coming, to Forget, unfortunately I do not think that will ever happen. But in the 8-9 years since it happened we have both come to realize that we love each other. A stupid infidelity could have cost me my soul mate. I know this would be hard for some, but I find talking about his cheating helps me, to understand what he was going through at that time. And as for where my Husband stands, he stands by my side, ALWAYS.

I would most likely end our marriage...NOT for reasons you would think though...I could care less if my husband sleeps with someone else, he's free to do that..what would infuriate me would be his lying and hiding it from me..I have ZERO tolerance for lies, deception and headgames..THAT would be what would end our marriage, not the fact that he slept with another woman..

He would be out for sure. There are two things I won't tolerate - cheating and abuse. There is no way I'd stay with a person who cheated. Why should I have to go through years of "working on my marriage" to fix his cheating? No way.

Maybe I will let my anger subsides first before I set a heart to heart talk with him. The hurt will remain of course but I will try my best to resolve the problem. If he chooses me over the other one, then we will continue our relationship. If not, then I will let him go. And will start a life of my own.

for me, i could not accept that if you get married that your hansband has an affair, but it depends on, if he has an affair, meaning he doesn't like you any more, then yo should make the decision to stop the marriage, if he still loves you too much, i think you two needs to discuss and make the decision and go on. But never again, because love is very fragile.

Something like an affair can be devastating on a marriage. It really can put a strain on a couple, if it dosen't just destroy them. I think the biggest thing with an affair, is that it destroys trust and trust is so hard to regain and get back. Trust isn't something that can just be earned overnight, and it's really hard to trust someone who has hurt you like the person who cheated on you. I honestly don't know what I would do if my husband cheated on me. I think I would have to evaluate as much of the situation and the circumstances as I could, before I could make a decision.

Kick his as*.. joke. I will never contact him and avoid him. Look at his face, just make me "stress" since i remembered how sweet he promised everything so good at the beginning of our story. He is just "insane" person, who sweet but the bitterness in him. I should careful with this kind or man.

kick him out hun dont let him get away w/ anything thats bull

I have always told my husband that if he did cheat I would not be sticking around. But then I think what would I do without him. I have three kids under the age of 6 and they are a handful at the best of times. And how would I find someone else after i got over hating him so much. I just wouldn't trust anyone again.

My reaction actually would be to kick his @ss. I do NOT abide by infidelity no matter WHAT. I honestly have no idea how anyone could stay in a relationship like that. That is just completely unforgivable to me.

I would tell him that we are going to have an open relationship from now on! That way, we both have options!