Help, My Sister Has Lost Her Mind!!!
By Rozie37
@Rozie37 (15499)
Turkmenistan
February 24, 2008 4:07pm CST
I spoke to my older sister for a long time last night and I have come to the conclusion that this chick has flipped her wig. Now you know that they are trying to sell the house and move to Atlanta. Well they were suppose to leave on Monday, the 25th. But their upstairs tenant is holding them up.
Thank God for the upstairs tenant. I did not tell you guys that my sister and her husband are not planning to fly to Atlanta, but drive. He wants his children to see the world. But, after talking to my sister last night, I realized that things were a lot worse than I thought, much worse.
Now first let me remind you of all that is wrong with my brother-in-law. Heart Failure, Diabetes, High Blood Pressure, he smokes and he has a devastating temper. My sister says that she went with him to the doctor the other day and it seemed like he had to go to the restroom every fifteen minutes.
He is not suppose to drive at night or without his glasses. The diabetes is causing his eyes to be blurred. He didn't even wear glasses before the diabetes. Not only was he out without his glasses one night, but he almost hit someone. All he could say to the man was I am sorry, I didn't even see you.
He is also stopping to throw up on the road when they are driving. They have decided to take someone else's kid along with them to help with driving and my sister says that she is not even sure if this kid has a license. The oldest daughter (step) was staying, then going, now she staying again.
My sister says that they are now leaving in about two weeks, but she wants to be back at work on March 17th. She is not sure if she will stay this trip until the summer or until the fall, when the children start school in the Fall. She says that she has finished packing, but still hast to get rid of the children's childhood books and pack the clothes, but they turned the phone off weeks ago.
I want to go and talk to my therapist about it on Monday, but she may turn around and call social services for them planning child endangerment. This man is in no condition to drive from California to Atlanta.
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@vera5d (4005)
• United States
25 Feb 08
This sounds like a terrible situation. Sometimes when you hear a story it sounds a lot worse than it really is...man I hope that is really the case for you!
Do they already have a place to move to or are they just packing up & going? Is there a reason your sister doesn't drive?
It sounds like a disaster...i wish i had some good advice but i don't know what to say except maybe start praying for a better solution for them :)
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@twerda1771 (15)
• United States
25 Feb 08
I also have a sister in a similar situation, her and her boyfreind are abusive to each other and the kids, and they always blame everone else for the wrong in their lives. Not once do these people care what their actions do to their family and friends, Its hard ,even harder when children are involved. I will wish you at ease with you sister,If you truley think the kids will be hurt or neglected,please call some kind of social services for help. I wish you well.
@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
25 Feb 08
They are going there to live in a hotel until they find a place. My sister does know how to drive. This kid that is going along is somehow trying to escape something in California. He is offering to drive in exchange for a seat in the car I suppose. I have been praying, but the husband seems to think that this is where the Lord Is leading him to go. It is hard for me to believe that, because the Bible says that God is not the author of confusion and that is exactly what this is.
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@abby0210 (95)
• United States
25 Feb 08
Unfortunately, it sounds like your sister is going to learn some lessons the hard way. The fact that she is entertaining this crazy idea says enough right there. I guess that is the only way some people learn or for that matter don't. So maybe ask youself what is it really going to hurt voicing your opinion about the situation to her? Even she does get upset with you at least you can say you tried to warned her.
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
24 Feb 08
Not good not good not good Rozie! Your sister has lost her mind! With all these health issues with her husband, she is still going to let him DRIVE them ALL to Atlanta?!? NO no no!!!
If he is going to the toilet every 15 minutes then he isn't managing his diabetes at all - sounds like there is something more serious happening with him if he is throwing up all the time. None of this sounds good Rozie :(
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
25 Feb 08
I hope your other sister is able to get through to her. I know its hard to tell someone you love that they have completely lost it ... I would be most upset too if someone told me I had lost my mind! This whole "moving to Atlanta" business is just so unorganised and rushed and I can't understand how she doesn't see that. I really feel for you my friend!!!
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
25 Feb 08
Maybe someone needs to trigger the 3rd strike so they don't have to move (sorry that was mean) I don't know what else to say Rozie... it just seems all so wrong :(
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
25 Feb 08
No that was not mean. Believe me, you and I are not the only ones who have thought about that. My sister told me that people have wanted to do that over the years. The only reason that they didn't was because they felt sorry for my sister and the kids.
He almost brought it on himself some years ago when he assaulted my sister's best friend for coming in his house without knocking first. My other sister and her four children were living with them at the time and her son had the flu and was going into convulsions.
They called my older sister's best friend to come and take them to the hospital. She was so distraught about the child that she did not think about knocking, she just ran in the house. My sister's husband cussed her out and hit her on the shoulder pretty hard. I know this because he has demonstrated on me while he was bragging about it, only he said he hit her a lot harder.
Now I do not remember whether she left for the police station right away or took the baby instead. All I know is that he beat her to the station and told a lie about what happened and they believed him. That friendship ended there. I can not say that I blame her.
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@Polly1 (12645)
• United States
24 Feb 08
Oh my Rozie, Your sister has lost her mind!!! I can see why you would be worried about her. Your brother in law has no business trying to leave and drive across the country in his condition. What is your sister going to do when and if something happens and she is across the country by herself with the kids. There is no way I would make that trip. I would say try not to worry about her, but that would be impossible for you not to worry. Keep us posted how things are going, I hope talking to all of us helps some.
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@cokyjazz (429)
• Australia
25 Feb 08
She has definately lost her mind.All i can say is there is at least a 90% chance something awful will happen on this trip.I know they may hate you if your therapist reports them but i don't think that comes close to the pain and grief that you will feel for having this information and not doing something to prevent a devestating accident.As sad as it is,your sister and brother in law need to wake up or something awful will happen to them and those kids sooner or later.
@jithinsb (518)
• India
25 Feb 08
I am not sure what i must say..still you somehow make them obey you not to go..or if it is that urgent just arrange a paid driver,because i think it is a very dangerous situation..do it before it is very late..should not regret later...may be she will be angry with you but never mind it..it is your sister...and her life..
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
25 Feb 08
rozie,
I'm sorry to hear about the condition that you BIL is going to drive in. Is there any way to talk sense into him or no? I would still talk to you therapist. They can't do much if you just make it a generalized statement like a i know this couple or I read something that really bothered me that way you can talk about it with out really talking about it and getting any one in trouble persay. But also you might want to see if you sister would let the kids stay behind while they drive out and then send for them that way they can drive and the children are safe that is if you're willing or a family member is willing to take them in until their parents send for them. You have to do what you think is best I wish you luck and will keep you and your family in my thoughts.
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@bellaofchaos (11538)
• United States
26 Feb 08
Maybe she'll snap put of it before she leaves. Try reasoning with her one last time.
@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
25 Feb 08
Rozie it sounds like the whole think was planned very badly. I think they have lost it also. Is he going back to Alanta to die because it sure sounds like it to me.
I wonder if she will really leave with him of if she is looking for a reason to get out of the marriage?
I hope everything works out ok for them.
They need not to let someone drive the car that is not licensed they all can be in trouble. The could lose their insurance of their car if something happenes along the way.
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@Rozie37 (15499)
• Turkmenistan
25 Feb 08
I agree that he is probably going there to die indeed. My sister says that if things do not work out, she wants to come back. He says he is going to make them work because he is not coming back no matter what.
Somehow, everything that they had planned fell apart. Originally, the husband and his brother were to go down there together and find a house. His brother was going to pay for everything, I believe that included airfare. I do not know why, but the brother has not been mentioned since December.
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@julyteen (13252)
• Davao, Philippines
27 Feb 08
might be you sister look for an alternative to sustain their cost of living that is more cheaper than staying in California...but i will not agree her going to atlanta by driving...it is very dangerous specially her husband suffer illness that causes him too see blurred...if she allow the child to drive for them...ohhh not good because driving without license is a violation of the law.
@goldic (26)
• Indonesia
25 Feb 08
I'm not fron US, but I really consider with teh attitude caused by the temper. Honestly, this kind of person will not get back on normal life if he not get the worse could happen with his attitude. May be cops and jail can help him to realize his conditions. I'm sorry but sometimes real lesson can be get after a bad accident.
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