Would you rather your partner..............................

Hurt me with honesty before hurting me with a lie. I would so much rather be told the truth even if it hurts. I think most people would.

My preferance is that he bring her home. I am not a conventional wife to say the least. I told my husband before we got married that if he really needs more which I don't see how he could need more then just find some one who is willing to come home to me. He has yet to bring some one home to me although I have brought some one home to him. One time was enough he realized hes too old for two girls lol.

well if he was my partner I wouldn't want him to do either one of those things, both would hurt and I have been in the position where both happened to me with different people. when I consider the two hurts, the going with another woman was easier because then I could call him a slime ball, but the one that left me, now it became all about me, somehow I wasn't worthy of his love or I didn't do enough for him etc.

Either way... it won't be a good feeling. A lot of people put up with cheating because they find it easier to put up with than leaving. But if you are going to have that conversation with your sweetie... why don't you make a pact with him that you will always be honest with each other about how you feel about each other... so that you can both make corrections as you go along... in order to prevent your relation going of the boil and encourage the thought of cheating?

I feel the same way you do. I would rather my spouse leave me than cheat. Cheating is a betrayal, it's lying, and it's doing so purposefully. And it is cowardly. Leaving is completely different. It's saying I am not happy, or this isn't working, lets both find something that does.

For me its really hurt if my partner cheat on me. If his feeling for me is not remain the same, its better to break up. Relationship will become hard and difficult, because he is not "loyal" for me anymore... It better to break up since i can use my energy for something important than get stress because of thinking about him. I just wonder, how could he asked me to date him and he is the one who always promised to take care about me... but later on, he will betray me... who knows? That's why i prefer to be choosey... never do the same mistake.

Not to be in a relationship but too be just very close frinds,I have had too many bad relationships

If that would be the case, I would rather have her leave me than to cheat. It would be a lot more painful if she will cheat. I cannot tolerate cheating when it comes to relationship. We will no longer be happy if she will do that. She would loose all the respect and love that I have for her. It is better to be free and alone than to have somebody on your side cheating on you.

Definitely leave me before you cheat on me. I have always told my husband that if he even thought about cheating it was time to move on. I would rather him leave and me be hurt because of that than to know he'd slept with another woman while being married to me. I take marriage very seriously..it's not just a piece of paper, but a covenant between my husband and I and God. It should not be thrown around as if it were nothing and he knows that. I couldn't deal with that and it would hurt so much more to know he'd cheated and been with me than for him to just pack up and walk out the door never to return. thanks for posting and God bless

I agree with you. When your partner leaves you, a door in your life closes. When they cheat on you, that door doesn't get shut and the pain just keeps coming. Definitely would rather my husband leave me over cheating on me!

I think I answered this question in your earlier discussion, but if I had a partner and he cheated on me I would be upset, hurt and angry but the trust will be gone so I would have to finish relationship as there was obviously something wrong for them to cheat in the first place. Ellie :D

I would rather my partner left me for sure, I would not want to go through the heartache of him cheating on me. Cheating is too painful and it takes along time to get over the betrayal and trust is gone. So if he was to cheat on me then he would lose me anyway, plus then I have a bigger hole in my heart to patch up.

I would rather they leave me than cheat. Cheating hurts so much worse that leaving. I have been on both sides of this road and didn't like the feelings from either one. I don't believe in cheating therefore the one I choose to be with shouldn't either. This day and age, it seems no one stays together for the long haul and it's disappointing.

I would rather have him try to fix the relationship! Whether it meant talking something out, one of us making changes or just the step to go to counseling together, I would prefer those. Between the two choices you listed, I guess leaving would be better.... I hope I never need to make that decision.

i will go with u ...s we should be true to our loe first

I too had a friend with benefits one a long time ago and it was great until he found him another woman who he fell in love with and I got hurt really bad so my preferenece is not to have friends with benefits it not only hurts when they find their other partner whom they have fell in love with,it also ruins the friendship

Great post. And Brava for discussing this with your boyfriend.For me, it would depend. If it were a husband, I rather he cheat than leave.Since for me love has Nothing to do with marriage, an affair wouldn'd effect it. But if it were a boyfriend, a man I love and trust, I am with you, he should break it off rather than have him sneak around behind my back.

I always have told my other half that I would rather them leave/ break up with me then cheat on my - although as much as I said that - it never happened that way ;(

In my opinion,there must be reason for him/her to cheat u!If u love him/her very much,u must find the reasons on yourself that he betrays u!There is chance that he finds your changes for him,and become very grateful and loves u much more than ever! Come on,just don't quarrel his/her different attitude about u,and if u tried to change yourself,mabe he/she will go back to whom he/she was!

to tell you the truth none of these two are ok but i guess if there is such a case if the two of you can come together and reconcile it will be wonderful but i never support a break up both parties will hurt one way or the other unless if its an intentional act from one of the parties