Wrong conclusions.......

Hi, This unfortunately happens in a 'virtual' world and try not to let it get to you too much. Talking from experience if you let these things upset you, you get a little paranoid that everyone is out to get you. When you talk to people online you form impressions, in the 'real' world these impressions can be interpreted the correct way, unfortunately online they can be interpreted wrong and then you will always find some one who is here to get you down or be argumentative. Hold your own, speak your mind and if the person doesnt like it, then let them get on with it. In life we dont like everyone we meet but we should learn to appreciate everyones opinions whether we like it or not.

This site is absolutely for sharing and contributing, you just have to steer clear of these posts. Sometimes, posters don't intend to share and discuss something. I've seen that some discussion topics are posted with a verdict or judgment already given by the thread host, now that's one example of a negative post and who's decisions were already made that they stand firm from it. And where do they think is the essence of it being posted, when everything they just want to hear,read and consider are all but agreement on their part. This has been happening here, I too have done that when I was still relatively new here. But have realized that it would be disrespectful of me if I don't listen or even consider other's thoughts and views about the matter. I will not learn anything from doing that, so I might as well change my perceptions and try to make the best out from it..

I totally agree with you. I'm sure you've seen my discussion on white's adopting black children. All I did was read an article and give my opinion and from that I ended being a racist. It hurt me so much to be called that that I had to start another discussion explaining my life to people which after I thought about it I thought how ridiculous I am. These people don't know me why do I give a dam what they think.

You sound like me a bit. I am a mom of three children with a partner, yet three cats LOL. I have faith but not religion. I do believe in being a good person and moralistic too. Most people here have been very good to me here. Though lately I haven't been very active so I don't know if there has been some changes in tone here. I do however find that it is challenging sometimes to have a clear understanding of someone through a few sentences in a discussion so sometimes we can get the wrong idea. Still being mean should never be a part of it.

People can only judge you one what you write, they dont know you either. I think it's ok as long as you are clear about your opinions and not to vague then you get all sorts of comments back. I think people should be able to say whatever they want here, within reasons and that some people would be better off leaving discussions alone rather than slandering them. It is public humiliation in my eyes.

I think that important is to express an opinion,to make a point of vue.We can't be angry for some words, maybe is the time to think about a little bit.I really don't care if someone is judging me in any way because anyone is free to express himself.

Some people jump into conclusions,sit down and give judgments,run around shouting foul,fume with anger,put on a robe to preach and flutter their wings as the guardian angels of the society. All in a hurry.Poor things they need some growing up.

Heh, I would guess most people would assume you were religious when you started a discussion calling something a sin. That just seems like an obvious conclusion to make, even if it turned out to be wrong. I guess I choose to be more upfront about my beliefs than that, personally. I will discuss facets of other people's religions, but I always do so while pointing out that I'm a studious outsider, not a member of that religion myself. When talking about my own beliefs of course, anyone could tell I'm extremely religious. :P I haven't been offended by you at all, even after reading your "controversial" discussion.

You shouldn't let what others think and say get you down. I have a had this happen to me once or twice as well and everyone here has always been so kind to me about it. Sometimes we word things in a way that is not understood by others or they just blow what it is we say out of the water and twist the words around in their own mind to make it out to see however they want it. No matter where you go weather in the virtual realm of computer chatting or in real life, day to day, face to face interactions, you will always get a few of those who act like that, but for the most part we all understand each other and the fact that we are all human beings and we have our on days and our off days. Try not to let it worry you so much. So many people here are very kind and good make very good friends. Their advice is always so helpful and you'll find that posting here is so much fun. There are times when you just can't wait to read a new discussion or respond to something that catches your interest. So think about the positive aspects and try and let what few negative ones you come across roll off. Wishing you a very good day.

Dear aminion, you will find your space...you sound wonderful, and the only thing that I keep in mind is; "it's not what you say, it's how you say it!" Keeping in mind that people can't see your beautiful eyes/smile as you write, and it's it wonderful that it takes all kinds of people to make this world go round. George Carlin once said "This world is like a fruitcake, if there weren't a few nuts in it, it just wouldn't be right." You have a sparkling day!

Hi my friend! That's just how it is here... Do not worry so much about that. We simply cannot please everyone. Besides, there really are times when what we post may hurt or offend others without us intentionally doing so. Keep the faith!

I really do know what you are talking about i have came across a few people that really just blow everything you say out of proportion and i don't really know why they do it because in the end it just usually ends up making them look really bad and who really wants to look bad...but like i said i know where you are coming from in this discussion...

Hi. : ) Yes I would agree that there are going to be people out there that respond very defensively, but, the thing about the internet is that we don't know each other, really, really know one another, and not only that, but it's hard to get a sense of one's tone when they post an issue...so I understand where you're coming from. There's always going to be people out there judging us all. Ya know? Don't worry. You keep speaking your mind and making friends. There's a lot of great people here. : )