How does one get their child to do homework without a battle?

i think that this is pretty normal at least from all the parents that i have talked to...our one daughter is happy to do her homework (goes to school to learn) our other daughter goes to school to socialize (and she is lazy when it comes to homework too!) talk to his teacher or the principal to see what you can do to motivate him re his homework!!

It's a matter of opinion I guess, but I don't feel that taking the heavy hand and depriving him of things is the way to succeed. He will rebel. I think I'd be inclined to sit him down and talk to him about his school work and what he'd like to do when he leaves school. Then, perhaps, get him some literature on his chosen career and look into the subjects he needs to be sharper on... even ask his teachers. Don't decide for him... let him do it, because if he's doing something he likes, he will want to prove he's going to be good at that something, and will tailor his schooling to his needs. Right, that over, maybe a little role play? Maybe he's having some problems with the teachers at school, or maybe he's not understanding their way of teaching for instance. Maybe ask him to play the role of his teacher, whilst you play his daytime role.. the pupil. This way, you might be able to get out of him what his hang-up is with homework. He may not be grasping all that's taught, and afraid to tell you or his teachers this. I found recently that my little granddaughter was being given homework that she hadn't yet even learned at school. Thirdly... let him use the computer for his homework, with the proviso that when his work is finished, he can play some games on there. Make him feel important that he can use the computer for his homework at your sacrifice of it. Still reward him when he does well, but don't try to bully him into anything because he will rebel, for sure. This is a tough job and takes time, but I'm sure you will get through it, as will he, with a little lightening up and perseverance. Brightest Blessings.

I have to keep the tv and video games off or my kids get distracted. 1 thing you could try is take the video game system and hide it and suffest that he cannot get it back untill he starts doing his home work on his own with NO problems. What I did with my kids is right in Kindergarten when they brought home homework I would have them sit down right away and do it and get it over with, because I made it a habbit it is an automatic now.

My son is 10. He does good in school, has a good report card, but he is so reluctant to doing his homework. I do the same thing, he doesn't get to play the game until its done. He can't have friends over and he can't go over there. I have also explained to him that if he doesn't do well in school including his homework, then he will stay in the same grade while his friends move on to the next. That seems to motivate him pretty well. good luck. keep us updated on the progress.

I ran an afterschool care centre. My children came home from school, undressed into their play gear and sat down to a snack and a drink. Their homework was then done - no excuses! Once homework was finished - weather permitting they were sent out to play in the fresh air! NO TV games during the week! If we had bad weather they could watch tv or play with toys etc inside. The biggest problem I experienced was the tv games! Parents need to look at how these games affect kids! Eventually they do not know how to play with other kids - they do not accept to lose because its so easy to start a game over when u havent achieved a part in the game! Take those games away for a month and see the difference in your child's moods and attitude. Even my own son was not allowed to play tv games during a school week, and when he was allowed to play, he was given the max of 2 hours to play and then the machine was put off for that day! Your fustration is visible to this child and he plays on it. Choose to ignore the tantrums and walk away after giving him orders to do his homework. Its hard but you can do it. There's a saying - you gotta be cruel to be kind. best of luck friend!

yr son haven find a interest or goal in the study so he is reacting like tis.....i myself also hav been through a time when i hated homework ,even school....i lie 2 parent tat no homework is ,teacher tat i forgotten 2 bring .....all sort of excuses i will give...if my anyone foced me , i e more will not do......it only stop when i found a target.... got one time i by luck socred a very high mark in the test , teachers praised me ,classmates looking shocked.....then i realised tat i like the feeling being goal/target other can never pass..i like being top in class even in school....untill now i still hate homework, hate 2 study, always spend my time on other things, but my school result hav been alwats the top few....tis is coz after multiple of testing,i found my own way of studying....i don need any more keep studying non stop , i only need to study a few days b4 exam n i can socred try 2 know wat yr son interest? when he feel really content when it come 2 study? help him to find his own studying way..one way tat suit him e best

OMG...are you sure you don't have MY son? My son is 11 as well and...things are kinda ok. A few years ago, my ex had him in "special ed" because he had him labeled as ADHD and ADD. After he came to live with me again, he was pulled out of those classes and into normal ones. Things were looking up...his grades were improving greatly. But then, this year things are going down hill. I can't get him to do his homework either. I've threated to have him held back...that worked, for all of one day. However, I've emailed his teacher and expressed my concerns about his school work. She now emails me his homework every day. Now when he comes home and I ask him, "What's for homework?" he can't say "nothing". Motivation is something I'm working on. I know that didn't help your plea, but we're in the same boat. Good luck.

I think youa re doing the right thing. i have the same issue with my 13 year old. Her report card is a joke, she doesn't like doing her homework and she often lies to me about doing it. We argue about this all of the time. It's a constant headache, the questions I ask, the arguments taht ensue afterwards. it shouldn't take a child 4 hours to do an assignment. She procrastinates and ends up spending most of her evening doing it. I do the same as you. No video games, no tv, no music and so on. That's all you can do is to set the guidelines and ensure that they adhere to them. So what if they get mad. That's life. At least that is how I see it.