Why can't parents help their own children?
@MommaOfAllTrades (969)
Canada
March 5, 2008 12:08am CST
Please allow me to vent here again.
First of all, I was asked to swich dates for my respite care this week which I have absolutely no problem with however what I do find disturbing is arriving to find I'm responsible for an additional child without prior notice. You don't know how much that bugs me! Especially since I make dinner! but anyway.... back to my real reason to vent here tonight!
The oldest child has been talking about getting a job for a while. I think this is a fabulous idea for her. When I brought her to the store last week to pick up an application, they told her she needed to bring in a resume! No Problem right?
Wrong... the parents have not helped her to develop a resume! *sigh*
These are the same parents that complain that this particular child does not apply her best in her school work and is not a self-starter (however when I sit with her and help her, she does amazing work and even got her very first A+ last week... I'm so very proud of her)
I was so upset about this! I showed her where to find the resume wizard on MS word and she did an awesome job... AGAIN! She is eager to drop her resume off tomorrow however I have a feeling it won't be done until I have time to drive her there myself which worries me tremendously because if she is hired, who will ensure her transportation for her shifts?
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8 responses
@jal1948 (1359)
• India
5 Mar 08
It is very kind of you to help this childand all you do ismuch appreciated but you must remember you need to guide the child not do things for her all the time .In this way she will learn to be Independent, instead of her building her dependence on you.Tell her I have helped you , and there to help you when required and whenever possible for me to help,But I cant do it all the time its your duty to find ways and means to commute to and fro to work.
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@MommaOfAllTrades (969)
• Canada
5 Mar 08
That is exactly what I'm doing, guiding this child. I don't do anything for her however I will show her tips and hints. She wrote her own resume, I simply guided her to the template and proofread once she was done.
I worry about the transportation because she lives in a small town where there is no public transit. She is only 14 so she will have to rely on her parents. But honestly, this is only one small aspects of my worries for this child. But every minute I do spend with her, it is spent by teaching and guiding her on future needs.
LOL I taught her how to put gasoline in the car on the weekend and she thought that was just the coolest thing ever LOL
@Sissygrl (10912)
• Canada
5 Mar 08
Uh oh. Sounds like you are doing more to help the kid then her parents are. That's not very fair to you or the girl. But if you dont mind doing it i'm sure the girl really appretiates your help! after all teenage girls dont really get along with their parents sometimes, maybe that is the problem..
Whatever the case, you are proud of her, and i am proud of you, after all your going out of your way to be responsible for someone you dont have to be responsible for! Good for you, You are doing a good deed and someone will do a good deed for you in return someday!
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@candygurl24 (1880)
• Canada
5 Mar 08
Thank God that she has you around to help her! It's really amazing how many parents just don't take the time for their children. Our children do need to learn how to be independent, but we as parents are the ones that need to help them along the way...from walking them to school their very first day, to helping with major decisions later on in life.
@jillmalitz (5131)
• United States
5 Mar 08
Too many parents are lazy and as long as someone else will take up the slack and help they are fine. At least whomever does help out may leave a lasting good impression on the kid. Maybe you should talk to the girl about how serious she is about the job and what it will involve including getting to and from the job etc. What do her parents think?
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
6 Mar 08
I am assuming that a respite is like a foster child? new term for me. any way...great that she is doing so well. She sounds like a great kid that has overcome many obsticles. As far as her transportation....if you guys can work it out at the start, then perhaps she can hook up with a co=worker who she can ride with.
@carmelanirel (20942)
• United States
6 Mar 08
Maybe the parents can't help their child..I know when my daughter brought home some applications they had questions that I had no idea what to have her put..
@SViswan (12051)
• India
5 Mar 08
Having volunteered at my son's school, I've seen many such cases where the kids are really smart...but the parents do nothing except complain that they aren't responsible and do not study.
There were times when I've wanted to go up and offer to help the child...but I know I don't have the time.
You can help as much as you can...but it's for her parents to figure out about the regular transportation bit.
@girlgonefishing (2174)
• United States
5 Mar 08
You got me on that one Mommaofalltrades. I spend 3-4 hours every single day helping my children with their homework. I even tutor them during the summer for the same amount of time when they are not in school. When they have friends stay the night, I tutor them too! You would think that it would make their friends not want to stay the night, but quite the opposite. I have had up to 8 kids to tutor in the morning in the summer time. They all love it!
