How can I get my woman to trust me?

Dear shamsta19. The problem here maybe is not you, probably the problem is her. She has that obsession and makes you feel guilty. Certainly it´s totally unfair to you. What you can do? Well, by the moment take care about every behavior yours, for example: Don´t see other woman´s butts, be polite with your girlfriend, be detailer. With the time she will forget that idea about you.

You might want to check her out and see if she is faithful to you. Most girls that keep saying stuff like are trying to cover up something. If you have ever had a history of cheating on women, then that also could pose a problem to your current relationship. As far as the attraction thing goes, people are attracted to people all the time, we cannot help who we are attracted to, so she needs to let that ride. My response to this one is probably old and I hope you and your lady have patched things up by now.

Buddy let me show you a positive side of this- physiologically normally people are afraid of something that had hurted them in past or something wrong in the past with them or around them so in present if they are very happy and enjoying life at fullest , they try to relate their present from their past so just trust me she loves you very much and buddy don't leave her alone spend as much time with her as you can i m sure your problem will be solved in few days . Trust me buddy this kind of feelings arise in somebody's mind when somebody really cares about you and loves and does not want to loose you.

has she been hurt in the past? does she have trust issues with ppl in general or specifically men or just you? have you EVER cheated on a partner? Is she one with low self-esteem? have you ever threatened to cheat on her? these are only a FEW questions that the answers to may give you your answer... You mentioned her "last boyfriends"...well I hate to tell you this but in HER MIND you have to PROVE YOURSELF to her and EARN her trust which believe me wont be easy and she'll make it that way..not to be mean to you or becuase she wants to be that way, she's conditioned herself to believe she NEEDS to be that way...PLUS she may also very well be getting scared of the love you have for each other and is trying to sabotage the relationship without even realizing she's doing it (its a self preservation mechanism)

a good first step is to let her meet your friends and/ or officemates. this would at least give her some kind of assurance that people you know, know about her. if it doesnt help... i guess you have trust issues and she may have had a boyfriend who cheated on her that is why she was thinking you might do the same to her. just always make her feel loved and eventually all her doubts will disappear in no time.

Shamsta19, I can relate to how your girl feels; especially if she's been burned in the past. We don't intentionally try to compare relationships/people, but it's human nature. My bf is great. The sweetest, kindest person I've ever been with. He's very caring and giving...GIVING!!! That has me on egg shells. I tell him all the time what do you from me because you are very giving? I'm always looking for alterior motives - and he doesn't want a thing. I apologize to him for been so frazzled and always thinking the worse. He knows it's because of my past. The biggest piece of advice I can give you is...that she will learn to appreciate and trust you when SHE realizes it is ok for her to be loved, respected, wanted, needed, etc... That she is worth having all those things. You can't make her trust you; until she accepts that she is worth of love and much more. She'll come around...Ask her this question and take it from there... "Can you get to a future when the past is present?" Meaning she has to let go of the past to move into the future. You love her - help her :-) Best wishes!

It's called emotional baggage and as has as it sounds, you have to tell her that either she trusts you or it is over. This has been going on for a year and it isn't healthy for either one of you. She will probably end up with an ulcer, if she doesn't have one already and you will be pushed to the point of wanting to cheat after constantly being accused of it.

Hi Shamsta, Sounds like your girl has the same issues I had after being cheated on by my ex's. One thing I have learned over time is that a person needs time to heal from that type of hurt- OR - they will tend to carry that baggage into their next relationship- ultimately ruining it. I have stayed single for over a year because I don't want to put anyone through my issues. I admit I don't trust the way I used to....so until I can learn to do so- I won't get into a serious relationship again- as you said- it's unfair to the other party in the relationship.

sounds unfortunately in your case there is not much you can do.ive been married 8 years and as far as i know my husband has never cheated on me but im always insecure that another women will take him from me.its not that i dont trust him i dont trust other women.i realize it takes two.but i think my husband is so sexy.with your good looks your women sounds like she is insecure also.just never give he a reason to EVER doubt you and always be HONEST. one thing a women cant stand is a guy who lies.if you lie she will never trust you.

honestly, I have been through that.. is she working? if she's not, then you should understand her.. being left alone inside the house is so boring! regarding your question? well, you should show her how precious she is to you every day.. even tell her that you love her so much and that you don't wanna lose her.. patience will help you make things work out! Believe me..

Don't say, "Poo Poo," to this, but get counseling. My husband and did and it was the best thing that we did. She has some deep-seated issues that may not have anything to do with you. If you are fighting that bad this early, don't wait. I wish you much success.

if ur heart says no...then no point looking back....Go ahead..i wish u all the very best for your future..i hope u find your soulmate and perfect partner sooon..till then try and enjoy ur new found freedom...remember slow and steady wins the race..dont rush into another relationship..take care..

i was dating this guy for three years it was mainly a long distance rlationship he was training for armed forces but we made it a point to stay in touch and communicate constantly...finally he got posted to the same city as i were his indepndent appointment i was so happy we met very rarely bcoz my family was not aware....now there was a sudden change the communication started slowing he would hardly call ...even if i wud call he says i m busy will talk later and never call back....gradually some doubts and insecurity creeped in i asked him wt happened why no communication he wud just not talk...finally it was almost one month ther was no talk and i began to get restless abt this whole affair i was sure he is cheating i just met him and called it off we split he just said b happy.....so i went on with my life after one year we again met in a dance party how i hated seeing him and walked off nxt day i find him coming to me and saying that he wants to talk..we met and after one year he tells me i still love u i m sorry...i wanted to know wt went wrong so he told me there was lot of work pressure as it was his first appointment he was having a tough time at work place and his mom had a major surgery he was dnied leave and so he was depressed....i just told him tht he shud have spoken to me i wud have understood and stood by him..toady we r happily married for 8 years and have a 3 year old brat...so dear u need to communicate talk to her ...if u care show her... keeping love closed deep inside ur heart dos not help express it to her do things that make her feel special and important in ur life...best of luck

I'm not going to tell you what to do. All I can tell you is what I would do. I'd say this: I've been loyal to you and would never cheat on you. I've always trusted you and never made such accusations. Every time you accuse me of cheating it tells me that you don't trust me. You know everywhere I go and everything I do and yet you still accuse me. If you can't trust me not to treat, then you will never trust me with your heart. Tell me, do you trust me, or am I fighting a losing battle. I can't be with someone who can't trust me. The End The basic gist is, a relationship must be based on trust. If she doesn't trust you after a year, I don't think she ever will. Girls who act that way are often destined to cheat on you because they "know" you must be cheating on them and justify it that way.

She has low self esteem. It is a hard thing for another person...like you...to deal with. This is not your fault but you are paying the price unfortunately. You have to put your foot down. It has been a year...either she is with you and trusts you or she does not. It is not fair for you to continue to pay for her past. Maybe you need to take a break from the relationship. it isn;t moving forward. It is based on mistrust. give her some time to think. Tell her that you love her but you can't continue on without lack of trust. You will be throwing the ball in her hands. It may end your relationship but then again it may not. As it is, it is as good as done....forcing change can only be a good thing.

Ok I hope you don't get offended by what I'm about to say because I don't mean it that way. I think you should let her go and then go on a vacation give yourself some time to relax, regroup and then when your ready go find a sweet honest NO drama woman. Best of luck to you. Amberina

ouch...the last relationship i had ended because of this!guess you have to trust your man whole heartedly...but still you should let him know you are not going to allow him to "misbehave" just be in the middle... well for you...just explain to her everything. a nice talk would make a difference! Good Luck!

Hi, shamsta19, I think all you need to do is just prove to her your love for her. And explain to her in the right timing that you need to be professional when you at work. And ensure her that you are not flirting around with other girls. As long as your girl friend understand and trust you, sure she'll behave more secure and love you more.

Proving love to her would not be enough, at this point. If you are not into counseling, then you are not looking to save the marriage. If that's so, just tell her that you are tired of not being trusted and that's not a marriage, so you are better off calling it quits so you can find someone who trusts you and she can find someone she trusts.