Someone please tell me what's the point?

You are so special,it is for you to see this,deep in your very core you have a knowing of this.As for no friends I am sure there are plenty on mylot who would love to be a friend,you sure can add me if you are game!..lol Have also been where you are at the moment,and can relate,it is a very dark and lonley place, I made it,as will you,don't underestimate your own strength. I am not a religious person as such,I do have faith and trust though in a higher plan,and I see you as simply playing your important role,so don't beat up on yourself,nor make war on yourself. Love yourself and believe in yourself is all that is required filmbuff,I believe in you! From you username I figure you like movies,go hire out a good comedy and have a laugh,a good cry also is great. Hope to catch up again soon. Take care xoxoxoxo

those anti- depressants are a joke aren't they? I have taken just about all of them at least once in my lifetime and I can honestly say that none of them ever helped. my depression got worse and tried to end my life, I did try therapy.. again, that was a complete waste of time and trouble and money.. I sat there looking at the therapist while TRYING to answer his questions that I've asked myself a million times before... and I already knew that I didn't have the answer.. I thought I was paying him for that...to answer a few of those questions..... UMMMM....NOPE! He was as stupid as I was, apparently. we both sat there trying to figure out why I was so sad that it actually hurt.. and neither one of us seemed to have a clue! so I told him "since you are as lost as I am.. I'm going home.. if you come up with the answer to any of these questions be sure and call me" and he smiled (apparently thought he had either cured me or was just happy that we could stop wrecking our brains on these questions without answers... I dunno!) AND I thought I was crazy! I think he had me beat! so I never went back. So I knew I needed a new approach at this depression demon that hung around a little too much. I decided to find at least one thing EVERY day that was funny (I'll be honest, sometimes there isn't anything funny so ya have to get creative... and sometimes you have to use your mind to make something funny) go people watching! they are some out there that require very little effort on your part.. they are just plain funny! and they ain't even trying. you wouldn't believe how just laughing helps. I got so used to entertaining myself with funny thoughts that they eventually started becoming comments and then the comments attracted other people who I call friends and that filled up a area I was lacking in.. remember.. today's goal is to find something funny.. even if you don't want to.. and you don't want to laugh.. I'm going to start you out with something.. I will PM you with it! we are gonna get ya laughing if it kills us both! ya hear me??? do you hear me?? huh? lol!

I hear you. I really do. I have moments where I feel like I am not meant to succeed in certain areas either. And no I don't believe you want pity, you need to vent and venting it out does help. For me anyway. Is there something from life you would really want? I know this is cliche and it's annoying but you know, I have found it to be true. We have the power to have something that we want, but it won't happen overnight. I am trying to believe this and I am hoping it will help my spirits too, something to bring me out of this too. I wish I could suggest something comforting or useful. But I do understand how it is. Depression is awful.

Ther eis always a reason to live, there is alway someone that will miss you. if there is no one to keep you there pack up and go. Find new place to live new city new state new country maybe that would be a good enough reason.

Hi I'm not going to tell you what you *should* do. I will tell you I CARE! I DO! Because your story is mine. I have been there. I hear you. Some days are horrible. Some days are okay. I know how sometimes you just want someone to find the answer or do it for you, because you just don't know what to do anymore, or how. It's okay. But then, my eyes just went to your sentence that says "I want options." Options: whatever you can do that moves your mind to a different place... I... look on the 'net for spiritual and inspirational sites. Sometimes they help... sometimes they don't. I made my own website to try to help others get through... Maybe it will help... maybe it won't. Check it out here: http://www.jkeziaexpressions.com I went on SS disability almost 3 years ago and have been a recluse for those 3 years because of the feelings of failure, etc, etc, etc... Recently I found Yuwie... and NO this is not just a plug for Yuwie. I tried MySpace and I tried Facebook... and neither worked for me... or I just wasn't in the place to be able to do it.. But for some reason Yuwie is working for me... The people are great, the place is great... lots of people asking to be friends, and actually BEING friends... and that has healed me alot. And that is what I'm trying to offer you... friendship... you are not alone... please don't feel that you are... keep talking to us...

Don't e like this.It only make you worse and worse.You should belive youselves,and do the things you want.I belive you can success.Don't say you have no frind,doesn't I was?

I had my first bout with depression when I was almost 21 back in the fall of 1973. I had my second bout with depression when I was almost 25 years old back in 1977. With my first bout, I was, overall, getting back to normal by that spring--and was, in fact, getting back to normal even before then, but I'm talking about back to normal enough to where it was easy to be a creative writer again. With my second bout of depression, the healing took several months longer--though, even before, I was coming out of it. The actual bouts of depression where I was simply like a limp blanket lasted an average of a month or two. There was something physiological going on with me in both cases. I'm currently in the process of writing a book about this (held up by my own ignorance in how to take care of some technical matters and the help for that being available--but have found that the delays have simply increased my knowledge on how to write this book better). I believe what I can best offer to you is my own progress report. First, let me be honest with you about the bad news... Once you've experienced depression to the degree that I did, it's easier to have kinds of mini-relapses into the same. In my case, I've not had any intense depression since the 1970s, but there have been times when I just feel blue for no reason that I can put my finger on. When that happens, I just slow down and take the time to get both rest and in touch with my feelings to try to figure out what has triggered such an episode. Sometimes, there's a definite trigger. Other times, it's just a mood with no real explanation. Now, here's the good news!!! Since those two nightmare times, I've not had anything like this to happen again--AND I know how to make sure that it doesn't! My book will explain this in more detail. The good news is that I'm more often upbeat than I am down. This past year or so has been especially nice, because I've helped to launch an organization that helps out homeless and/or at-risk children, youth, and young adults. The friend with whom I've launched this has also become very special to me to the point that I believe he'll eventually end up being Mr. Right-For-Me!!! But I've had a very happy and productive life during the years following my two bouts with deep depression, so I can be the person who can reassure you that there IS a light at the end of this tunnel--and it isn't a train!!! So you've: 1. Got to realize that this, too, shall pass. 2. Got to take baby steps to help this pass. One kind of baby step is to control something that you're able to control--and to congratulate yourself because you've done even that much. It might be even something as small as rearranging your furniture more to you liking or deciding to rent three favorite films and watch them from the comfort of your couch or recliner while indulging in hot buttered popcorn. But it gives you back a sense of feeling powerful enough to change things. 3. Don't go by how many years you've lived when it comes to measuring your productivity. Thirty-five isn't old. I'm fifty-five, and my sweetie is sixty-six. Keep in mind that Colonel Sanders was in his sixties and bankrupt before he started what would become KFC!!! Some people bloom late, so don't compare yourself to others! 4. If you, like myself, are a person who believes in prayer, find one or more people who especially need prayer to pray for. It just so happened that I was being a prayer warrior for this seriously-ill young man at the time that my first bout of depression hit me. Even after I began feeling depressed, I never did stop praying for Allen. And don't forget to pray for yourself!!! 5. Finally, read something I've written here, as I believe you might find some of your answers in the research material I've provided... http://www.mylot.com/w/discussions/1426140.aspx I'm going to invite you to be friends if I haven't already--and if, at some point, I've invited you to be friends and you got lost in the shuffle, I'm going to start paying a lot better attention to you!!! When you receive my invitation, please accept! :-)

Filmbuff, I can not express to you how this post makes me feel. No Pity here my handsome young friend, just genuine concern and understanding. I have been where you are. I don't have magic words or any real advice to help you. Just know that it will not always be like this for you. We talked about this once before we lost contact. Listen my email address is Angelwhispers@frontiernet.net I want you to send me an email so that I can add you to my address book. I might have a few ideas for you and would rather discuss it there... Okay? Don't make me come after you :))))

I think the operative word here is muddling through, when you are depressed it is difficult to do otherwise, but If I may suggest that you sit down and plan things out, I know there are a million things hanging over your head, but start with the small stuff, do your dishes or clean up a room or do the laundry , it is the sense of self helping that gives us inspiration to do something else, try to plan a day with out overwhelming yourself, Stop looking at your "life" because every thing you have done so far is a success, and yes it is, you are alive , you have a roof over your head, you have several things that need to be done, Just remember there are those that do not have a roof over their head not fresh clean water to drink and they do have problems but they do like you do they put one foot in front of the other and thus the journey begins. All it requires that you deal with a few things every day, by doing that the huge problem is being pared down just like a piece of chocolate , it is slow yes but it also works.

yaaaa its not good happened with u its really sad.but u have another opition too that is u should become a man who could work and earn some money.i donot know weather i am right or not . but there is still one more option go to vativan city and become the member there.

To be honest there is not point in living. I mean come on life is a joke, and happiness never lasts. But you should kill yourself, because I know they say it a lot but dying is easy, its living that's hard. I take that as a rule never to kill myself. But then again I believe I only live because I desurve all the pain that life brings. Now that I think about it maybe I am not the right person to be giving advice on this topic. Then again again the only people who can give advise about living and dying are those who have thought about it themselves.

Well, at least you have a job (or a means to get to one). I'm almost 30 and I still live with my parents. I've been out of High School for almost 8 years now. I don't have a drivers license, my own place, kids, and no friends. I haven't been out of this house in almost 8 years! That's really hard with no transportation and living out in the country where they have no public transportation. Consider yourself lucky you have a job at least. I also need help getting my life together, but everytime I ask for it, nobody listens or just doesn't care. They say they do but if they did, they'd help you figure things out right? So, I just don't talk to anyone anymore because they never listen. But, if I had ever gotten a job, I'd save up to buy my own place. Then I'd apply to be a foster parent. Hopefully, then they'd let me adopt some kids who don't have a home or family. I just need to figure out a way to do that. I want to have my own biological kids, but the only option I have there is to donate to a sperm bank or something. Or find a nice lesbian couple who also wants kids so one of them can be artificially insiminated lol. Maybe becoming a foster parent would work for you? I'm sure you'd feel better knowing that there are other people who really depend on you. As for the debt, what kind is it? Is it like credit card debt or bills? What I would do if I was in your position, is find the smallest bill you have that needs paid off that you might've had for years. For example, if you had a bill for $100. Just go ahead and pay it off. That way, that'd be $100 less you had to worry about.

I know how you are feeling, and it's really not about what you have accomplished it's about the depression and the way it makes you feel, it is pure agony. I am sure you don't even have the energy to go and try to accomplish anything because of the depression, it makes everything feel like such a big chore. I have no interest or pleasure in anything either. I am taking 50mg of Zoloft and I am sure I need to be on a higher dosage but it makes me too sleepy and I sleep alot anyway. What i am doing is just taking it one day at a time. It does seem to help me when I find something to laugh about, only for a little while though, but I will take what I can get at this point. Don't think of killing yourself, I know the feeling that dieing would be so much easier but just get that out of your head, we are here for you, anytime you want to talk, I will be here. I know what you are feeling, you are not alone in this. If you need any advice or just want to talk and vent your frustrations just talk to me, I am here to help you my friend. Remember one step at a time, we will get through this.

Well depression is common in this busy world..though its bitter fact. So dont take it emotional to heart and try to come out of the past. Please dont give up confidence. Do yoga, you will feel a great heal and confidence. God bless you friend! Things will be better soon, dont give up.